Xue Ling smiled and said angrily: "Stop coaxing your mother.
Let’s sort things out first, and don’t be too hasty to immerse ourselves in negative emotions.”
Cheng Huanran let out a long sigh, feeling very tired.
"Mom, I... don't know what to say to you.
I don’t know why, but since we decided to get married, things seem to have become more complicated...too complicated.
I didn't understand men's fear of their mother-in-law before, I always thought it was too exaggerated.
Now it seems that I just haven't encountered it yet, it doesn't mean that I will be spared."
Xue Ling chuckled: "Xiao Huzi may be able to give you some advice."
"Pfft!"
Cheng Huanran was amused, "Mom, be careful if you hear it."
Xue Ling shrugged: "Most men are afraid of their mother-in-law and father-in-law, but you, Dr. Cheng, are far from the only one.
Son, our family has always had a harmonious relationship, and the atmosphere among relatives and friends has always been good, so when you deal with interpersonal relationships, it is inevitable that you will have little experience, or even suffer."
"Maybe."
Cheng Huanran lowered his voice: "Our family has never valued material things.
When Xiao Qiao's parents asked me to add more Xiao Qiao's names in the house book to prove the depth of my love for her, I was completely confused.
I am willing to marry her and make her my wife, which already means a lifelong commitment...but they measure it from this perspective...I really can't accept it."
"Son, you are wrong."
Xue Ling replied: "Modern people view marriage very seriously. They need both feelings and material things. You can't just emphasize feelings.
In a relationship, you just need to love each other and be happy. Marriage means that you will share many things in the future, such as family, children, elders of both parties, career and property, etc."
Cheng Huanran curled his lips aggrievedly: "Mom, but we are in love and getting married, not on a blind date."
"But you are also getting married."
Xue Ling asked back: "The nature of marriage will not change depending on whether you are free to fall in love, right?"
Cheng Huanran leaned on the pillow tiredly, his eyes empty and faint.
"I heard from my dad that when you got married, the family still owed a lot of debt and couldn't even afford a pack of wedding candies the day after the wedding.
Mom, you don't even have a serious relationship, but you are able to combine your childhood sweethearts with your parents' destiny because of your vague feelings, marry first and love later, and manage your marriage well until today.
But I am a postgraduate medical student and an intern at the Imperial Capital First People's Hospital. I can buy hundreds of packs of wedding candies with one salary, but my girlfriend who has been in love with me for five years is still hesitant and worried about whether to marry me.
There is no financial security for the future.
Mom, don’t you think it’s ridiculous?”
Xue Ling almost couldn't help but laugh out loud and comforted: "Son, there is no need for you to lose confidence in yourself all of a sudden.
In the eyes of your parents, you are all very good and outstanding children."
Cheng Huanran lowered his head and muttered: "It's not that I don't have confidence in myself... it's that I don't have confidence in our marriage."
Xue Ling recalled what her second son said earlier and couldn't help but sigh with emotion.
"When your deceased grandfather married your grandmother, he only used a load of grain as a betrothal gift, and each of them made a new set of clothes before they could get married.
When your grandpa married your grandma, he only used a month's salary of more than ten yuan.
At that time, everyone was very poor, valued material things but had no material resources, and their thoughts were simple and simple. Getting married meant raising a family together."
"When my parents got married, things were a little better, but most people weren't really rich yet.
My grandfather was very capable and had already started a clothing factory in the imperial capital, so our family was able to live in a small suite and also bought a car.
Your father and his family live in the countryside and can barely get enough food and clothing, and they can only eat a little meat during the New Year and festivals."
"The cost of getting married at that time was not high, and it was good enough to have a stable employer to receive wages, whether it was a small factory or a small unit such as a supply and marketing cooperative.
I remember my first month’s salary in the newspaper office was 200 yuan, which included lunch, and I could have a piece of meat in one meal.
Every time I was reluctant to eat it, I would leave it in the lunch box and go back to the rental house to eat with your dad."
“Life is very simple and light, yet very warm.
We are full of confidence in the future and work from morning to night every day with the same goal in mind - to improve our living standards and make this family richer step by step."
"In the past thirty years, the world has changed too much, and people's concepts are constantly changing.
People nowadays are not short of supplies, food and drink. As long as they work hard, they can have three meals a day.
But the gap between people is also constantly widening, which makes the younger generation prone to anxiety, fear, and insecurity. The most prominent manifestation is in the aspect of marriage."
"yes."
Cheng Huanran looked unhappy and said in a deep voice: "If I was just a poor boy, they would feel very good about themselves, so they asked me to marry into their family because Xiao Qiao is an only child.
As long as I get married, it doesn't matter what my family situation is, no matter how poor I am, it doesn't matter.
Now that they know it is impossible for me to get married, they are forcing me to pay for a house. The reason is that their daughter must have sufficient financial security to marry into our family.
On a more personal note, if I really agreed to marry into my wife, they would probably think it was a big deal if they paid two to three hundred thousand.
But if their daughter marries my family, she will need hundreds of millions in financial security.
how?
Because she is a daughter, our family has to give in?
Why?"
Xue Ling frowned slightly and asked: "What?
Do they have a bad attitude?"
"Um."
Cheng Huanran replied: "The air of being arrogant when marrying my daughter makes me have to write Xiao Qiao's name on the property under my name to ensure that she will not be wronged when she marries into our family and will have certain financial security."
Xue Ling fell silent.
Cheng Huanran became excited: "Mom, is it great to have a daughter marry?
I promised that I would continue to love her, protect her and pamper her with my life, but why did I become worthless in their eyes, no more worthy than a name on the house book! I haven’t said that I won’t share the name with her.
I won’t do that for property! What our family values most is feelings, not property and money at all! We don’t lack those!”
"OK OK."
Xue Ling hurriedly held his hand and said, "Calm down first and don't yell.
What about Xiao Qiao?
Xiao Qiao thinks so too?"
Cheng Huanran was slightly stunned, and said in a low voice with a stern face: "She didn't say anything, and looked like she was hesitant to speak.
I told her before I left that if she felt that I was not trustworthy, she would not be happy no matter how much real estate I gave her.
If she can't trust me, why would she marry me... It would be better to break up early.
After I said that, I left, and I didn’t answer her call later.”
Xue Ling sighed softly: "Don't get excited, have a good communication with her first.
If you were able to fall in love with you for five years when you were a poor boy, it shows that you are not a girl who really values material things."