They were both an old married couple, and they always talked about everything. Cheng Tianyuan didn't want to hide it from her.
"I'm sure I won't let go, but... I'm worried... I don't have many days left with my mother.
Back then, my dad... was like that. He was gone in the blink of an eye. He didn't even have time to hear his last words.
The old man gave birth to me and raised me, but I didn't even have the chance to take care of him.
I don’t want to leave too many regrets like this in my life.”
Xue Ling held his hand and whispered: "You are wrong. Dad has been with us for more than ten years. You were filial to him every day. How come you don't even have the chance to take care of him?"
"no the same."
Cheng Tianyuan said: "Back then, he was completely able to take care of himself, and he could also help us take care of our children.
Rather than taking care of him, it’s better to say that he is taking care of us.”
Xue Ling shook his head: "We are taking care of each other.
You were disturbed by that incident back then, so you were worried that you didn't have enough time to spend with your mother, and you didn't want to leave the regret of not being able to be filial to the elderly.
In fact, my father and mother accompanied us from the county seat to the Imperial Capital, from Oriental Garden to Ronghua Mall, and later my mother accompanied us to Xinyuan, where we lived for several years in total.
I don't think that when an old person comes and cannot take care of himself, that kind of care is true filial piety and care.
Don’t the days and nights we spend with them count?”
"……Calculate."
Cheng Tianyuan sighed: "Mom's days may be numbered. I'm afraid that like my father, she will be gone in a blink of an eye."
Xue Ling lowered his eyes and whispered: "The ancients said that seventy years of life are rare.
Nowadays, living conditions are better, and the average life span of the elderly is also longer.
Whether it's your mother or my parents, they have already exceeded the average level.
In my opinion, we are already considered lucky children.
We have more time to spend with them than others, more than ten years.
The living conditions we have provided them over the years cannot be boasted as first-rate, but in a metropolis like the Imperial Capital, they are still among the best."
"Um."
Cheng Tianyuan agreed: "That's true."
Xue Ling glanced at him and asked: "Then what else do you want?
Is it possible that you really want to take mom back to live in Chengjia Village?
That's what's best for her?
is it possible?"
He had never thought about giving up his career before, but the sudden mention of it today was probably not just because he wanted to accompany the old man.
Here in the imperial capital, he can still go to work and take care of his family.
The reason why he suddenly wanted to sell the company was probably because he wanted to satisfy the old man's recent desire to return to his hometown.
Cheng Tianyuan was speechless for a moment and whispered: "She always clamors to go back to her hometown.
She is normal now and vaguely now, and I can't tell whether she really thinks so or something else.
If she really wants to go back and it is her last wish in life, then I can only try my best to satisfy her."
"It is the normal thought of every elderly person that fallen leaves return to their roots."
Xue Ling nodded affirmatively: "She insists on being buried with your father in her hometown, and we all agree.
But that doesn’t mean you have to go back now, does it?”
Cheng Tianyuan frowned in embarrassment.
Xue Ling couldn't help but ask: "Are you sure she has to go back to live?
Do you think it would be good for her to go back?
Better than now?
is it possible?
First of all, she has left Chengjia Village for more than thirty years, and the environment there has changed so much that it is no longer what she remembers.
Will she be able to adapt when she goes back?"
Cheng Tianyuan hesitated and whispered: "...most of the people she knew are gone."
Xue Ling asked again: "The environment has changed and the people she knows are gone. Can she still get back the feeling she had in her hometown?
is it possible?
Here in the imperial capital, she can have my parents as companions, and Sister Achun and I will take care of her.
A group of young people came in and out, talking to her, eating and drinking with her.
There are two little great-grandchildren who entertain her and make her laugh every day.
If you accompany her back to Chengjia Village, will these still be possible?"
Cheng Tianyuan was slightly stunned and couldn't answer.
Xue Ling continued to analyze for him: "If you and mom want to go back to live, it is impossible for me to go back with you.
First of all, my parents are also old and cannot be left alone to take care of them.
Second, although I have retired, I still have to hold meetings to control the main direction of the company and the group. I have to be busy every three or four days, and I have to answer phone calls from time to time.
My career is here, and I can’t completely let it go for the time being.”
Cheng Tianyuan was silent with his eyes lowered and did not speak.
Xue Ling continued: "The careers and studies of several children are here, and they can't accompany you back to Chengjiacun, that's for sure.
Now when the eldest and second eldest children come home from get off work in the evening, they watch TV with their grandma and hold their children around the three elderly people.
If you go back, you and your son will be with you all day long, and the whole villa will be empty."
"Do you think this will be good for mom's condition?
is it possible?
Didn't the doctor say anything?
Elderly people should stay in an environment they are familiar with, otherwise they will be more likely to forget things.
Mom only stayed at the villa in her hometown two or three times, and each time it was only for a short period of time.
It was undoubtedly a strange environment for her there.
Not to mention that there needs to be heating and heating here, a chef to prepare whatever you want to eat, a garden to have a garden, and someone to guard the entrance and exit 24 hours a day.
Do you think you can have these when you go back to your hometown?"
“It is difficult to go from luxury to frugality.
It's not that the villa in her hometown is bad, it's that the environment there is not the one she's familiar with, and there are no relatives she's familiar with to keep her company, and it doesn't have the good environment she's familiar with.
From a warm and familiar environment to a strange and lonely environment for her, do you think this is good for her as an elderly person?
is it possible?
Have you thought about it carefully?
ah?"
Seeing that she was getting angrier as she talked, Cheng Tianyuan couldn't help but hesitantly said: "Daughter-in-law, don't get excited, I'm just discussing with you."
"I disagree."
Xue Ling said straightforwardly: "You can't follow it as an imperial edict just because Mom was in a daze.
Now that the elderly are older, we are responsible for arranging meals and daily life.
We should respect her and take good care of her, but it does not mean that we have to lose our judgment and ideas and blindly accommodate the elderly.
Listening to her doesn't necessarily mean you are filial.
Just because you don't listen to her doesn't mean you are unfilial."
Cheng Tianyuan said impatiently: "But she - she still wants to go back to her hometown! She said it again last night!"
"Then do you think you can listen to her?"
Xue Ling asked angrily: "I have just analyzed it for you, you should make your own judgment! Is it possible that the old man has Alzheimer's disease and you have also developed dementia?
!”
Cheng Tianyuan's face turned pale and he fell silent again.
Xue Ling's eyes were red and she loudly said: "Okay! I don't agree with this matter anyway! You can calm down and think about the reasons I just analyzed for you! Moreover, now that the children are older, they have a say in everything at home.
.
You shouldn’t make the decision yourself, you have to listen to their opinions!”
After saying this, she turned around and left quickly.