Shan You wondered: "When you have sufficient wealth, shouldn't you pursue spiritual satisfaction more?"
Xue Ling laughed and said, "You have watched too many TV series.
How can a person who can achieve high wealth have empty time?
He has all kinds of things in his life and work, and he is extremely busy."
"Really?"
Shan You was obviously too poisoned by idol dramas, and whispered: "I only think about making money, how can I not be spiritually empty?
Those people who find young girls to accompany them and have fun every day must be very empty, right?"
Xue Ling shook his head: "Those who have truly reached the wealthy class do not need to worry about this.
We can’t give examples for other people, so let’s take Xinzhi as an example.
He is not an old money man, but a new rich man who made his own fortune from scratch.
Do you think he is free and empty?
Those who have pursuits and ideals in their hearts will never be empty."
"That's because he has Xiaoxin!"
Wang Xiaoxiao said with a teasing smile.
Xue Ling laughed dumbly: "The emptiness on the spiritual level cannot be solved by just one lover.
Similarly, there are many spiritual satisfactions, and the enjoyment of women’s color is only one of them, not all of them.”
Shan You didn't understand, so he whispered: "Many men say... apart from money, what men pursue in this life is women, nothing else."
"Ha ha!"
Xue Ling was amused again and said: "Those are words only a young boy with a strong temper would say.
Anyone who has experienced extreme wealth can look down upon these things.
Most wealthy people prefer to pursue family harmony and do not want to engage in messy relationships that will only cause trouble.
I have a friend who is a few years younger than me. He didn’t really get rich until he was in his 40s. He refused all the advances of many women and didn’t want any of them.
He just wants to have a stable home so that he can concentrate on making money."
Wang Xiaoxiao asked curiously: "He must love his wife very much, right?"
The wife of chaff must not be abandoned."
"no."
Xue Ling shook his head: "He doesn't love his wife much either.
On the contrary, he works hard to make money every day, and he and his wife have been separated for a long time, and their relationship is very indifferent.
He stood up after going through a lot of hardships, so he cherished every penny he earned.
He said that among the women who courted him, which one really fell in love with him, they were all just after his money.
Although his wife has grown old and ugly, and her relationship with him has become indifferent, she has been with him for so many years and is the only one who doesn't follow him for his money, so even if there is no relationship anymore, he is determined not to get married.
He said that his energy is no more than before and he just wants to hold on to his current success.
Running a good career has consumed all his energy, and he doesn’t want to waste time on other women.”
"The gain is not worth the loss, right?"
Wang Xiaoxiao thought about it seriously and said: "After reaching a certain level, it will be easier to care about gains and losses."
Xue Ling explained with a chuckle: "It's not about fussing, it's about not wanting to waste time and energy on unnecessary things.
There are many wonderful things in life, and love or women are just one of them, there is no need to overindulge in them.”
"Maybe he is a special case."
Shan You suppressed a laugh and whispered: "How many men get divorced and marry younger women when they are successful, treating women as accessories or showoffs of his success."
"Different ages and different personalities."
Wang Xiaoxiao analyzed: “The choices are different.
Mom just said that her friend only became successful when he was in his forties or fifties, and he was already past the age of debauchery."
Xue Ling nodded: "This is one of the reasons.
As we get older, the fertility hormones in our bodies are far less than before, so naturally we are less enthusiastic about beautiful women and handsome men.
Colorful things, no matter how good or beautiful the skin is, are actually far less attractive than being interesting or intelligent.
Of course, not everyone thinks so.
There are also people in their 70s and 80s who still hug each other, but the number is relatively small.
People like this are mostly deviant, unconventional, and not afraid of reputation, otherwise they wouldn’t be able to do it!”
"Some responsible and pursuing men will definitely not."
Shan You said: "When you were young, you might not be able to keep your heart in check, and that's why you might be frivolous.
As they get older, most people just want to keep their families and pursue family harmony."
Xue Ling explained with a smile: "This is also a spiritual pursuit."
Wang Xiaoxiao chuckled and whispered: "Youyou and I have different ideas.
I think rich people should be more afraid of divorce. Splitting their property into two is almost like peeling off a layer of skin."
"Really rich people don't have to be afraid."
Xue Ling explained: “After your wealth reaches a certain level, even if you divide it by half or one-third, you will still be a rich man, so there is no need to worry about this.
On the contrary, ordinary people think that I only have a little property anyway, so I can leave and divide as soon as I want, with an indifferent attitude.
In fact, most families like this cannot bear the trouble, but they continue to make trouble. In the end, they will only strain their bones and muscles, hurt their children, and hurt themselves."
Shan You understood and said: "Yes! Because in their eyes, a little property is all they have and cannot be judged based on the amount of property."
"yes!"
Xue Ling fanned herself with a big straw hat: "Don't watch the news and entertainment reports all day long. So and so got divorced again, so and so got married again, and then you post a lot of your own marriage theories.
In fact, their marriage has nothing to do with us and cannot be generalized at all.
For some people with complete freedom of wealth, they can have complete freedom in marriage and divorce.
Their marriage may be a strong alliance, but their divorce may be due to unhappy cooperation, and the relationship will not be very great.
But for most ordinary people, marriage is about the division of labor and cooperation between husband and wife to support a family. Once they separate, the family will be broken up. It is a serious injury in life that can easily make up for it in a lifetime."
Wang Xiaoxiao said: "Some people always say that the divorce rate is high because people have free thoughts and both men and women have economic freedom.
I think it’s both good and bad.”
Xue Ling smiled softly: "Actually, looking at the height of this mountain, many people are confused by some illusions.
No one's marriage can be extremely happy. There are many reasons for a happy marriage, and there are many reasons for an unhappy marriage.
If you don't believe it, you can consult with a secret survey report - more than 90% of people are dissatisfied with their marriages, more or less.
For example, out of the three of us, two are currently not very satisfied with their husbands."
Wang Xiaoxiao and Shan You looked at each other and blushed one after another.
Xue Ling was not surprised at all: "Go and ask how many people are satisfied with their marriages - it must be very few.
As long as you recognize this fact and manage your marriage well, the problem won't be big."
"Mom, that's what you said..." Wang Xiaoxiao chuckled and teased: "Marriage seems scary, there is no need to pursue it!"