"After marriage... fall in love again?" Tongzi couldn't help laughing and asked: "What's the best way to fall in love? If it's not suitable, then - you're already married!"
Xue Ling was not surprised that he would ask this question, and explained in a low voice: "He is a few years older than me. We have lived together since we were young, and we were childhood sweethearts. Later, something happened at home, and we got engaged and separated in a hurry. Until a few years ago.
His father was seriously ill, so he and my mother-in-law went to the imperial capital and said that they wanted to marry me. I was confused at the time, so naturally I was unwilling. But my father was very resolute, saying that A Yuan was a steady and honest man who would take care of the family.
, said that we were very suitable, and then asked me to take the train south to marry him."
Tongzi couldn't help but shook his head: "How can you agree! We only meet once when we grow up? Your father probably doesn't understand him, right? It's too arbitrary! You must know that this is your lifelong happiness!"
"Yes!" Xue Ling's eyes moved slightly, "My family lived in a big apartment and drove a car. When I married and moved to Chengjia Village, my family only had two adobe houses. I owed a lot of debt and couldn't even afford a broken bicycle. There was a huge gap.
It was so big. At first I was confused and didn’t know what to do. But Ayuan was very calm and told me that if I really didn’t want to, he would never force me. He also said that he would leave home the next day.
I worked in the county and would not stay at home. I was moved by him at that time."
"What happened next?" Tongzi asked in a low voice.
"I didn't say much at the time. I first arranged the marriage and took money to help his family pay off their debts. Then I packed my bags and came to Rongcheng with him. At first, I stayed in a small hotel. He was afraid that I would not be safe at night.
He came to stay with me and slept on a chair outside. He worked very hard and ate very vegetarian meals, but he was very generous to his family. He suffered and suffered without saying a word. He worked during the day and went to the dock to carry goods at night to earn money.
One or two yuan more. But no matter how late it was, he would always come to help me keep watch because it was not safe. At that time, he always thought that I didn't want to live with him, but he was still so good to me."
Tong Zi moved slightly.
Xue Ling continued: "This man, even if I wanted to betray my engagement and marriage, he would not blame me at all. Instead, he supported me in finding a job in the county and did his best to protect me from wind and rain. Even if I left at that time, I left
I don't think he would have any complaints when he returned to the imperial capital from the county seat. I know that he liked me in his heart, but he felt there was a distance between us, so he respected me and gave me freedom and choice."
"What happened next?" Tongzi asked again.
Xue Ling smiled and said: "I found a job in a newspaper office and found a place to live. I told him that I wanted to live in a shared apartment with him. I wanted to live with him. He didn't dare to agree at first, but when he saw that I was determined
, and finally agreed. When we moved there, the two of us still lived separately. He cooked three meals a day, went to work during the day, and worked part-time at night. He worked hard and diligently. And I had already recognized him in my heart."
Tong Zijun blushed slightly and asked, "Have you been in love for a long time?"
"So." Xue Ling explained: "More importantly, I know that he is a man I can rely on for a lifetime. First, he respects me, cares about me, and likes me. I am very sure of this. It's just that he gives me a choice.
This is a great respect for our freedom. Secondly, he is a man we can live with. He is diligent, loves his family, and works hard. With such a man, even if I live with him and often have no meat for three meals, I will be willing to do so.
. And I also want to believe that such a man will never have a bad future. He has good qualities, is calm, and loves his family. Such a good man cannot be found anywhere."
Xue Ling smiled and shrugged.
"I'm lucky to have chosen such a good lover, so where else can I find one? Who else can I choose?"
Tong Zi seemed to understand, but remained silent for a moment.
"So, after you got married, you discovered that each other was the one in your marriage, so you finally got together."
Xue Ling nodded, "To tell you the truth, I personally feel that marriage and love are very different. Let's fall in love. We just feel that our hearts are in harmony, and you love me and you love me too. That is very beautiful. But marriage is different. To put it bluntly, marriage
To live is to live. If you love someone, you may not necessarily be happy if you live with them. For example, look at Liu Xing and Wang Qing. They are the best examples."
Wang Qing and Liu Xing are colleagues. They have the same ambitions and are both literary and artistic young people. When they are in love together, they write love poems, walk together to watch the sunset, and go to the cinema to watch movies together. When they are in love, they are so loving and beautiful.
"But you may not be happy after getting married. Marriage is about two people living together, without so much romance, just three meals a day, old people and children, and household chores. Therefore, many people who feel very happy in love have a miserable life after marriage.
Bump bump."
"On the contrary, we have used marriage as a test from the beginning. If we are both suitable to live together, then there will be no other obstacles. Now you are in a relationship with the purpose of marriage, so you have to make sure that the person is suitable.
I’m not suitable to live with you.”
Xue Ling smiled bitterly and said: "To put it bluntly, Liu Xing is a lesson learned from the past. His relationships were all very beautiful, and he enjoyed the feeling of being in love very much. But his marriages failed in the end. One of the reasons is that
He has not found anyone who is truly suitable for him to live with. The second reason is that he does not know people well and does not understand what he really needs. In fact, Wang Qing is not the right person for him."
After hearing this, Tongzi smiled slowly.
"Sister Xue, it is said that listening to you is worth ten years of reading. When I heard what you said just now, I...I seemed to suddenly become enlightened."
Xue Ling chuckled and asked: "Returning to the topic just now, do you like Alan?"
"...Yes." Tongzi lowered his voice: "I think she is a good girl. She has a good temperament, is patient, honest, and is easy to learn. She is hard-working, filial to the elderly, and is good at what she does.
vegetable."
Xue Ling asked again: "But you are still a little hesitant. Why? Do you think she may have no topic with you?"
"That's right." Tongzi whispered: "At first, we had nothing in common, and she might not understand what I said, so she just talked to me politely and respectfully. Now it's finally better. We took photos together, and slowly,
She does most of the work. Now when we talk about the quality of photos, she can talk clearly. Also, I work in a radio station, and she occasionally listens to my program and even gives me some pertinent suggestions.
.I think she is very suitable for me, and I also think...living with her should be very peaceful and warm."
Xue Ling smiled and asked, "You don't know yet, right? She has been your listener for a long time, and she is obsessed with your program!"
"Really?!" Tongzi asked in surprise: "She-why didn't she tell me?"