I was originally going to go on a blind date tonight, but the other party said I had to work overtime at short notice, so I decided to forget it for now.
I sat in front of the computer and thought about it for a while. After seeing the introduction of this book, I thought that writing a "Guide to Dating" would be a good idea.
Hey, don’t point to the direction anymore, point to the north.
After all, we have been on a blind date for four years since 2016, and have gone back and forth dozens of times.
So, let’s give a summary.
In fact, the first step is not what happens after meeting, but starting from the circle of friends.
In addition to WeChat, people usually check each other's Moments (of course, if you check each other's friends, there is a high probability that they will be visible within a month or even three days).
At this time, you need to package yourself, for example, the picture on the circle of friends looks like Van Gogh's sunflowers, or similar pictures that are more literary and artistic.
Do not use anime characters as avatars, especially anime female characters.
You can put some artistic photos, artistic photos of suits, or small animals.
For example, the avatars of cats and dogs.
Next, let’s talk about the literary and artistic words in the second sentence.
Words like, "Even after seeing all the darkness, it's still warm and brilliant" which makes me blush.
As for Moments, some people say it means trying to be in the middle of the crowd when taking photos.
Or put a picture of a plate of cherries, and add the sentence "It's quite sour, it seems you have to wait a little longer before eating cherries."
Or go to a restaurant that looks good at first sight, such as a Vietnamese restaurant, a Thai restaurant, a Japanese restaurant, etc., take a photo of the food on the table, and add something like "It's okay, just a little spicy/sour/bland."
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Or if you have pets such as cats or dogs, you can show off your pets.
All of the above...are of no use.
Because those who have that ability are already present themselves, and there is no need to go on a blind date.
If it is fake, it will always be exposed.
Now let’s talk about blind dates.
Some people like to chat on WeChat.
Actually I don't like it.
I think it would be too awkward to chat with two strangers on WeChat at the beginning.
Unless the other party specifically agrees with you, we will stop chatting.
Then there was nothing more.
After all, the interaction is mutual, a cold face but a hot butt... Who is not the little baby of the parents?
I usually chat for a day or two and then make an appointment to go to a cafe or have a meal.
If the other party is willing to come out, then meet and chat.
If you don't want to or make excuses, just make an appointment twice.
Then I told my parents directly that they didn't want to, which was very perfunctory.
If it comes out, it will be another way of saying it.
When the appointment arrives, I first ask what to eat.
Don't let her think about it, but just give her a few choices.
Hot pot, Japanese food, steak?
Give a few options and let the other person choose.
If the other party says anything, just say, "What about the Japanese food? What do you think?"
Generally, if the other party doesn't hate it, they will agree.
If you're looking for a reason, it's because you don't like it, so just change it.
After that, it’s the traditional saying, “Send me your location and I’ll drive over to pick you up.”
From here on, the blind date has officially begun.
As mentioned in the text, blind date is actually an act in which two people exchange conditions for each other.
But for some people, they don’t think a blind date is a blind date, they still think it is a love affair.
Falling in love should only happen after a successful blind date.
So if you state the conditions directly, people will think you are too straightforward.
But I have to say it, so I can only show my conditions in this way.
Some brothers say that when they go on a blind date, the other person is very cold when they first get started.
This is quite normal. Many people are introverted when meeting strangers.
From personal experience, dress as neatly as possible.
Then don't wear any jackets, knitted sweaters or the like.
That’s not to say you can’t dress casually, but at least you have to be clean and tidy.
Solid color woolen sweaters, casual T-shirts in summer, try not to be too colorful.
Just wear ordinary travel shoes, and try to wear long casual pants in summer.
Don't keep your hair too long, or if you have a hairstyle, such as oily hair or something like that.
Clean shaven, clean fingernails, nothing else.
Generally speaking, as long as the other party is not particularly resistant, the conversation can actually continue.
In fact, you can also make a joke yourself when chatting on WeChat for the first time.
If you want to say who introduced it.
You ask, "Were you also introduced by a matchmaker?"
Then the other party responded and said, "Isn't this a coincidence? Me too!"
This can also be done for meetings.
Direct attack, "Don't you come to blind dates very often?"
The other party will either smile and acquiesce, or most likely say yes.
At this time, he said, "Hey, I was too, but... I saw you."
Of course, the premise is that you really don't dislike the other person.
There was no specific way to chat after that.
Just talk about your own situation first, don't talk about shortcomings or complaints about work.
The main thing is to arouse the other party's desire to talk.
For example, ask you what your job is, and then tell her about her job, or her life, or her parents urging her to get married, etc.
Then he said something like, "Hey, that's pretty hard, the boss hates me."
Communication mainly involves arousing the other party's desire to speak.
If we can get to this point, the next step is the ending.
When I sent her home, I asked her directly: "Do you think I'm annoying? If I ask you out next time, will you still be able to ask her out? It doesn't matter, I can handle it."
Generally, you don’t say you like it, as long as you don’t hate it, the other person will agree.
After that, it’s a matter of striking while the iron is hot.
later?
The back is gone.
If there is a future, how can I go on blind dates dozens of times without success?
Mainly because I found it too troublesome, I basically didn’t strike while the iron was hot, but coded every day.
The code word mistook me!
So I won’t say anything anymore, everyone can come and subscribe and pass the monthly pass after 12 o’clock tonight, hehehehe...
By the way, everyone can have fun reading the above, after all... this is the "Guide to Dating North" written by an almost twenty-eight-year-old man who has not yet successfully dated.