783. Fat Man Broke Up? Another Year's 12.06 Busy Cafe Clerk
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"It's not easy to carry."
In the picture, Qin Gang shook his head at the reporter and spoke in the voice of an ordinary middle-aged man. He was not magnetic, but he still had confidence.
"Especially when he was in the first or second grade of elementary school, he was playful and didn't like to practice the piano. When I asked him to practice, he couldn't sit still for a while. He would cry and argue with his mother. When I got angry with him, his mother would get angry with me.
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Reporter: "So what measures did you take during this process?"
Qin Gang: "Hey, I feel ashamed to ask this question."
Qin Gang in the picture sighed.
"Actually, now that I think about it, I have my own problems. I have a short temper. Maybe it's because I teach my own children. I don't have the patience to teach other children. I can teach the same thing several times, but when it comes to
If I tell him twice and he still makes mistakes, I will get angry."
"I gave up for a while, probably when he was in fourth grade, and his mother and I were having too much trouble at that time, so I just thought he really didn't like practicing."
"But it wasn't long before I found out that he was willing to watch his sister practice the piano. I didn't force him to practice, but he took the initiative to come to the piano. When his sister was practicing, he would move a small pony to sit next to the piano and watch."
"At first I didn't say anything when I saw it."
"One night my mother and I went for a walk. When we came back, my brother and I were sitting side by side in front of the piano playing. He stopped playing when he saw me coming back, as if he was angry, but he didn't move his buttocks, just in front of the piano.
Sitting there without talking, I thought about going back to the bedroom with my mother."
"After a while, there was movement in the living room again."
"From that day on, he started to continue practicing the piano."
"He didn't listen to me when I said the same thing, but he was willing to listen to his sister's words, so gradually I stopped talking at all."
Reporter: "Does 'his sister' refer to your eldest daughter?"
Qin Gang took down a family portrait from the wall for reporters to see. In the family portrait, little Qin Jian was hugging He Jing tightly.
"The boss is sensible, attentive, and patient with Qin Jian. When he was in high school, he still took time to practice with Qin Jian every day. So I just said that in Qin Jian's growth experience, whether it was life or piano, the people who had the greatest influence on him were not us.
Parents."
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Yang Lan pressed pause, and the screen stopped at this moment.
Qin Jian's nose was sore. He had never seen this video, but Qin Gang's words brought back memories of his past.
Yang Lan felt Qin Jian's emotions welling up, "Drink some water, I've talked so much." She reminded her softly and gently.
"Thanks."
Qin Jian sniffed slightly, opened a bottle of water and took a sip.
A mouthful of water slid down his throat, and he felt much better.
Perhaps it was what Qin Gang said in the interview and Qin Jian's on-site reaction that infected the emotions of the audience, and the atmosphere in the auditorium became a little silent.
moment.
Yang Lan said softly to the audience: "This clip is the result of an interview that our staff took the initiative to contact Qin Jian's father, Mr. Qin Gang, the day before yesterday, and conducted an interview overnight. Qin Jian's sister is currently studying at the Eastman Conservatory of Music in the United States."
There were exclamations of surprise from the audience.
moment.
"Qin Jian, do you agree with your father's words?"
Qin Jian did not nod or shake his head.
He pondered and recalled, "When I was young, my father was very strict with me. At that time, he also taught piano classes. Children in the piano class who were about my age often received his praise, and I always praised him.
Criticized by him."
"I felt aggrieved when I was criticized, because I thought I played better than them."
Yang Lan: "Your father has high demands on you."
Qin Jian: "But I didn't understand it at the time. I thought he was unfair. As a child, it is easy to have a rebellious mentality when it comes to being treated differently, so sometimes I deliberately disobey him and hide when he gets angry.
He hid behind my mother, and as soon as I hid behind my mother, he hid behind my mother because he was afraid of my mother."
The audience burst into laughter, and the atmosphere at the scene returned
Yang Lan also chuckled twice: "Your parents have a very good relationship."
Qin Jian nodded: "Yes, although they sometimes quarrel, they never do it in front of my sister and me."
Yang Lan nodded approvingly.
moment.
"In the interview, your father mentioned that you gave up playing the piano for a while. This situation is also common in every family with a child who plays the piano. The child is unwilling to practice, and the parents can't solve it even if they try all kinds of methods."
"So, what I want to know is, what method did your sister use to get you to sit in front of the piano again?"
"There are many piano mothers in the audience today, can you share some?"
There was a response from the audience
Qin Jian thought about it for a while.
"First of all, rewards. At the beginning, she would give me some small tasks. For example, she would say, 'Qin Jian, if you finish these two exercises today, I will take you to the park tomorrow.' Because I want to go tomorrow.
park, so I practiced.”
"Although I personally don't advocate this kind of reward teaching, this is indeed what she did to me at that time. Because I wanted to go out and play, because I wanted toys, so I just had to complete the task."
"She never breaks her promise to me and tells everyone a true story."
"When she was a sophomore in high school and I was in fifth grade, I remember very clearly that she had promised me that she would take me to a newly opened shopping mall on Sunday. But on Saturday, their school informed me that there would be an exam on Sunday. At that time, I
I became anxious after hearing this, but she told me that she had already asked for leave from the teacher."
"Regardless of whether we now judge that what she did at the time was correct or not, at that time and situation, she did not break her promise to me."
Yang Lan: "If it were me, I might not be able to do what she did."
Qin Jian smiled: "I can't do it either."
"The second step is encouragement. Gradually she became stricter and would criticize me. But no matter how poorly I played a piece of music, she could always find my bright spots in it in the end."
"You must know that this kind of encouragement is really powerful, because I can feel that she is serious when she criticizes me, so when facing her praise, even just one sentence - but the sound is very good - will make me feel great
With her encouragement, she will always discover the differences in my playing."
"Because I have reached the point where I believe everything she says. Later, I really felt the difference between me and other students. In the children's competition, I won some awards that were enviable by my classmates."
"at last."
Qin Jian looked at the audience and said calmly.
"And the most important point is patient companionship. All rewards and encouragement are nothing compared to companionship."
"My sister is willing to sit next to me when girls of the same age wear floral skirts, listen to me practice, and then reward me and encourage me."
"Children are children because they have not separated from their families or their parents."
"Learning piano is not something that a child should do alone. If a child doesn't like the piano, then practicing the piano shouldn't be just for him."
Qin Jian said.
“Wow————————————————————————”
This applause is given to Qin Jian, and also to the person behind the Xiao Sai champion.