How should we comment on Lao Tan and Yaru? Or how should we look at them?
Two former lovers could not be together due to various reasons. They each experienced different life situations and had families and children. But fate arranged for the two to be together again and get in touch again.
We know that Yaru called Lao Tan after her divorce and asked Lao Tan to find a job. For a divorced woman, the first thing that needs to be solved is life problems.
She didn't think too much when she made the call. She was just looking for a job to earn money so that she could support herself. The reason why she looked for Lao Tan was because he was the first thing that came to her mind. This did not mean that she wanted to renew her relationship with Lao Tan.
But I can't think of anyone else.
We can understand this. We fell in love with Lao Tan, it was our first love, and we have the shadow of Lao Tan deep in our hearts. We will naturally think of him when we need help.
When they came to Aqiao, they were together again after many years. Yaru knew that the past was over, and there would be nothing more with Lao Tan. The two were colleagues, friends, or relatives.
Having said that, people are not like grass. Unless we are not together, contact, communication, and exchanges will inevitably occur when we are together. In addition, we were lovers before, so we cannot be ordinary friends.
Both times when Lao Tan was ill, Yaru was always there to take good care of her. It can be said that she took on the responsibility of a wife.
How should I put it? Yaru did not regard herself as an outsider. On the one hand, it was due to her nature that she was gentle and kind; on the other hand, there was no barrier between her and Lao Tan, they were just like family members.
To be honest, she cared about Lao Tan. After all, he was the first man to enter her heart and gave her a beautiful first love and the most beautiful memory in her life. Her first kiss in her youth was taken away by this man. It is hard to forget.
From another perspective, being with Lao Tan gives me a sense of familiarity and closeness. He is not a stranger, and he is willing to accept this man. It is not like being with other men, where he feels awkward and does not accept it in his heart.
Lao Tan's bronchiectasis relapsed recently, and she took care of him for ten days in a row. Living in the same room for ten days gave her the illusion that she and this man had been living together, as if they had been a couple for many years, very harmonious, warm, and happy.
Sometimes she wonders what it would have been like if she hadn't separated from Lao Tan. Would she be as happy as she is now?
Maybe.
Whenever I think like this, there will always be a voice in my heart - Lao Tan is a family man, it's impossible.
Yes, impossible.
I didn’t want to live with him, I just felt at ease with him by my side. This man who should be mine is now someone else’s. I don’t blame anyone, I only blame myself for not having my own opinion at the beginning------
All we can do now is take good care of him, just like we did before.
Let's go back and look at Lao Tan.
He grew up in a hard life and took on the burden of the family prematurely. People say that children from poor families become masters early. What will happen if they don't become masters early? There is no way, life is forcing you.
It is undeniable that if his family was better off, he might have been admitted to college. In that case, the path he would take would be completely different from what he is doing now, and the life he would have might be different.
But life is real, and reality is often cruel. There are no what-ifs and what-ifs. What is in front of you is what it is. If you want to change, you can only work, pay, and earn your life.
Lao Tan's journey has not been easy. He went from having nothing when he came out to his current successful career. The hard work and hardships he went through are unimaginable to outsiders.
Let’s not talk about his career, just talking about his relationship is also very bumpy.
In his 20 years of working life, he has experienced many women.
Friends who have read the first part know that, strictly speaking, Yaru is the first lover in his life, and their love is the best memory of his entire youth.
First love is beautiful, but often a beautiful beginning ends in tragedy.
In the beginning, Yingzi, that beautiful and lovely Shandong girl who loved singing, stuck to him all day long. Now every time I think back to that snowy day, the last phone call Yingzi made to him at the train station, and the emotions revealed on the phone
My eyes are still wet with tears from my love------
It’s not that I don’t understand love, it’s that I don’t dare to love.
His poor and difficult growth experience caused him to have a sensitive inferiority complex and strong self-esteem. Coupled with the fact that he could not be called a wife because he was poor, he had the idea of not finding a partner before he became rich. As a result, he just worked hard and failed.
I dare not think about love.
Later, at the Shengmei Hotel in Santaizi, I experienced Li Haina's expression of love, but it was not profound, or she disappeared without anything happening.
Then a girl who was as pretty and cute as Yingzi appeared, and was as clingy as Yingzi, but he was still indifferent, and he didn't feel sad until he lost her.
Later, I met Sister Zhao at Xinchuang Restaurant in Tiexi, a woman with an ill-fated fate. After so many years, looking back now, I found that Sister Zhao loved him so deeply, but he always regarded her as his sister.
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After he basically got rid of poverty, he was already a 23-year-old young man. At this age, he had already started a family and started a business in rural areas, and his children were two or three years old.
This year he met Yaru.
Yaru's innocence, purity, kindness, and beauty deeply moved him, and a beautiful and poignant love story emerged.
After Yaru, another year passed and I met Lin Yan.
The two people had the same family background and similar growth experiences, so they quickly established a love relationship. According to the traditional concept of marriage, the two were well-matched. They were both poor children, and no one wanted to pick the other.
Looking back now, the marriage between him and Lin Yan was a bit resigned - as long as he could marry a wife. But it is undeniable that his love for Lin Yan is sincere and wholehearted.
Not long after falling in love with Lin Yan, she met Yanhua, a woman with almost the same fate as Sister Zhao.
Without Lao Tan, Yanhua might have taken another path - making money on her own account. Lao Tan is indeed a person full of positive energy. Not only is she always sunny and full of energy, but she is also as free as the sun.
Warmth affects those around you.
Under his influence, Yanhua stepped out of the shadows, redefined and chose life.
It is undeniable that Yanhua fell in love with him, but at the same time, knowing that this love was fruitless, she chose to leave.
Lao Tan is not a fool. He knows why Yanhua left, but there is nothing he can do. Since he has chosen Lin Yan, he must go on rain or shine. This is a man's promise to his beloved woman.
Later, I met Zhang Li.
This is a woman who dares to love and hate. From admiration to liking to falling in love, she has been burning like a fire to Lao Tan, making him hide everywhere.
Zhang Li is better than Lin Yan in every aspect. She is beautiful, enthusiastic, has a good family background, is capable, and speaks well. But Lao Tan already has Lin Yan, and it is difficult for other women to enter his life.
But I have to admit that the cooperation with Zhang Li was pleasant and they had a tacit understanding. The two successfully built the first national chain of Lao Gen Villa, and then cooperated with Linjiang Xuan, a well-known restaurant in the provincial capital, to make dumplings abroad. Later, they
Guandong Family has built it into the largest and most famous farmhouse in Northeast China, and it has been featured in oriental cuisine.
Ah Qiao Dumpling Restaurant has great prospects for cooperation now.
How to put it this way, when there is no one around, Lao Tan will see Zhang Li's painful look when she got married. She points to her heart and says with tears on her face: "Lao Tan, I hurt, I hurt-"
Lao Tan knew that from that moment on, this woman left a tear in his heart.
Life with Lin Yan is peaceful and without waves.
The real rift emerged after the birth of their son.
In order to earn more money, Lao Tan went to Binhai and stayed there for four years. During these four years, Lao Tan was responsible for earning money to support the family. It was not easy for Lin Yan to take care of her children and still go to work.
The couple stopped living as a couple four months after Lin Yan became pregnant.
A couple cannot sleep in the same quilt. If there is no love, it will be fine for a short time, but they will become strangers as time goes by.
The ten-year ascetic life has changed the habits and personalities of the two people, and has even become somewhat morbid.
This is an unhealthy family life, to use a popular saying now - pure friendship between middle-aged couples.
Is it difficult?
Unbearable.
Don't tell anyone, it's not a shame.
People have desires. As a normal person, if desires cannot be released and satisfied for a long time, cheating and extramarital affairs are inevitable.
The moral bottom line that people adhere to is often vulnerable in the face of desire.
Lao Tan is a man, and a normal man at that. He is only forty years old.
He often lingers in front of the torment of desire, wanting to indulge. But he knows that once he does so, he cannot imagine the consequences.
The best solution for people when enduring suffering is to divert their attention, put themselves into another environment, and use heavy labor and work to release themselves.
When you are fully immersed in your work, you don’t think about anything and you don’t have time to think about it.
Work is also a kind of happiness.
When one kind of happiness replaces another kind of happiness, the heart will be fuller.