Every family has its own story, which is different. The joys and sorrows are mixed with the ups and downs, which are collectively called days.
The quality of ordinary people's lives is mostly measured by money. Although it is materialistic, it includes daily necessities such as firewood, rice, oil and salt, food and drink, food and external use, favors, children going to school, wives and buns, old age care and so on.
, they all talk with money.
Money is not everything, but no money is everything.
Some people say that a loyal woman will not cheat, and it doesn’t matter how much money you give her. It’s better to give her less, give her more, and give her more, so much that her heart won’t move but her body will move freely.
On the other hand, the same is true for men. A bucket of rice can make you lose your waist.
Having said that, it is understandable and understandable to use money to measure the quality of life, but whether you are happy or not is not a matter of more money or less, it is related to your mentality.
This is Lao Tan’s realization after he reached the age of forty, and it is also a summary of his experience in the first half of his life.
He knew that he could not compare with the ancient sages and wise men, and was not that wise; he could not compare with today's philosophers, scholars, experts and professors, and did not have that much knowledge.
You can't compare with your friends, colleagues, or relatives around you. You all live your own life. If you're better than you are, if you're not good enough, if you're not good enough, then you're more than enough.
Ah Qiao's success is a blessing in his career, and he can feel proud and happy. But every time he thinks about home and his relationship with Lin Yan, he feels unhappy and feels like a decadent failure.
He originally wanted to take the opportunity of the Chinese New Year to relax, but when Lin Yan's ankle healed and she started working in the third grade of junior high school, she returned to the past. It was as if Lin Yan's work unit had magic and brought her back to her original state.
According to normal analysis, if a woman behaves like this, it means that there is someone outside, some other man who treats her well and gives her the love that her husband cannot give, or in other words, replaces her husband.
Lao Tan thought so too, but immediately denied it.
He understands Lin Yan, even better than Lin Yan herself.
If Lin Yan has an affair, she will get divorced as soon as possible, whether you want it or not. She would rather leave the house without asking for anything than live a life of pretending.
But why did it go back to the past?
Lao Tan is not puzzled, but his mind is as clear as a mirror.
Three feet of ice is not a day's cold. It has been like this for these years. How can it be changed immediately? In addition, it can be seen from Lin Yan's attitude towards Zhang Li that she is still taboo - since you, Mr. Tan, have touched other women
, just don’t even think about touching me.
Although I didn't catch the two people's behavior, I already thought so in my heart and it became a fact.
Once a wife identifies her husband's infidelity as a fact, she will treat it as true even if it is a guess, and it will form a knot that is difficult to untie. As time goes by, the knot will become tighter and tighter and cannot be untied, and it becomes a heartache.
As the saying goes, heart disease attacks the diaphragm, and that's it.
On the evening of the fifth day of the Lunar New Year, Lin Yan got off work, Lao Tan prepared the meal, and his son Jiaheng went to his grandma's house, and the couple had dinner.
"I'll leave tomorrow. I'll go to Hohhot first, then Suzhou, and then Changsha. It will take another three months." Lao Tan said.
"Let's go, you don't have to tell me."
Lin Yan's lukewarm attitude made Lao Tan angry, and he said, "You can't say nice things."
"Isn't it okay for me to say that? What's wrong?" Lin Yan asked.
"Yes, that's all right. I'm superfluous, so I shouldn't tell you."
"You should come back and take a walk in the future. You don't have to tell me. I don't care if you say anything else." Lin Yan was still lukewarm. "I just have my son at home. By the way, my son will go out to play games after school starts.
Go to Dandong, the provincial league, half a month, 10,000 yuan."
"Now students spend their own money to play games?" Lao Tan asked puzzledly. When he was in school, the school paid for the games and the team uniforms were also issued by the school.
"Why don't you spend your own money?" Lin Yan showed her indifference to Lao Tan's ignorance, and continued: "You also have to pay the training fee, which is ten thousand a year. Your son gets five pairs of sneakers a year, but he doesn't dare to buy expensive ones.
, an expensive pair costs more than 2,000.”
Lao Tan didn't say anything. He knew about this situation and recognized it. Who could his son like it?
The cost of supporting a sports student is three times that of an ordinary student, and ordinary families cannot afford it. Fortunately, Lao Tan makes a lot of money, and Lin Yan also earns a high salary, so there is no burden.
Nowadays, Lin Yan rarely asks for money from Lao Tan. The two are relatively independent financially, but the financial power is still in Lin Yan's hands, and Lao Tan doesn't interfere.
To be honest, he can't live a good life. He has been the boss all these years and doesn't care about anything.
"I see that his shoes are all good, not broken or missing, and can be worn," Lao Tan said.
"You can wear them if you want. He plays ball all day long, and the soles of his shoes have been worn out in two months. Are they not broken? Are they not easy to slip and fall?" Lin Yan said.
When Lao Tan thought about that, he stopped talking.
After dinner, the two of them washed up one after another. When they were about to go back to their respective houses, Lao Tan tentatively said, "I'll sleep in your house."
"Why are you sleeping in my room? What if you don't have a room?" Lin Yan flatly refused.
"Aren't you a couple?" Lao Tan said with a smile.
"We are a couple, but we can't sleep together. I don't care. It depends on who sleeps with whom. I don't care. I really can't find a lady."
"What kind of lady are you looking for if you have a wife?"
"Huh! Huh!" Lin Yan sneered, "Don't think that I don't know what you are doing outside. You can be honest if I don't tell you."
"You mean I have someone outside?" Lao Tan got angry.
"You said it yourself, I didn't." After Lin Yan finished speaking, she went back to the house and closed the door.
Lao Tan looked at the closed door and suddenly remembered what Brother Li said yesterday when he was drinking at his old neighbor Brother Li's house. Brother Li said that a couple of forty and two was just that, a man and woman living together in a reasonable and legal manner, but not a man and a woman.
They didn't even talk to each other for a whole day, they were tired of seeing each other, and they were lying on the bed back to back, so it was better to sleep in separate rooms.
The younger Jiang Runping asked: "You don't want to do anything if you don't do it?"
"How old do you have to be to think about it? Besides, look at how many of them are working with their wives now, not all of them with Tiezi." Brother Li said, taking advantage of the wine.
"Do you have any iron? Lao Li." Jiang Runping asked.
"Everyone has an iron man, and he is a master of it. If a man does not have iron, his life is worse than a turtle. I have not heard what people say these days, living with your wife, doing errands with an iron man, flirting with the lady and looking for the enjoyment of a massage."
A man is under great pressure to support his family and his parents. He works all year long and never has enough money to spend. He is afraid to go home and leaves all his cards. He has twenty yuan in his pocket and can only have pocket money. His wife looks at her coldly, saying that she is not as good as a pet dog and can only be outside.
Let’s go, there’s iron everywhere.”
Brother Li's jingle rhymes, but it is also the basic reality of men today.
He concluded: "Don't look at it like this. A couple will be a couple until they are separated. They will live together for the rest of their lives. No matter how good they are, they just drink and chat with each other when they are depressed. If they don't get some sleep,
, to comfort each other.
Gentlemen play well outside and know that home is both outside and inside. No matter how bad your wife is, she can look after your house, and no matter how good your wife is, she will not watch over you to live your life. Your virgin wife should just find a partner of the opposite sex, a spiritual partner.
It can’t be true.”
Lao Tan curiously asked about the current situation of him and his sister-in-law. He said that they were an old married couple. What could they do? The children were not at home, and the couple worked in their own classes and took care of their own stalls. No one interfered with the other. They lived in the east and west houses for three days.
We can have a meal together and talk less.
"I have a drinking party almost every day after get off work. The guys in the team are very good. Today you invite them, tomorrow they invite them, and I invite them the day after tomorrow. It doesn't cost much, and they are all drunk in small restaurants.
Life is so stressful, I have been tired from working all day, so I just need to drink some wine to relax and unwind. The brothers gossip and gossip, and go home drunk to sleep. Your sister-in-law doesn’t care, she does yoga every day, and if I drink too much
Make a pot of tea and have millet porridge to drink the next morning."
"Old Li, you are still happy." Jiang Runping said with envy.
Brother Li said like a philosopher: "Do you know what happiness is? Happiness means that no matter how much you drink, your wife will always be by your side."