Among the six marriage rites stipulated in Zhou Li, nacai is the first gift, which means that the matchmaker comes to act as a matchmaker and proposes a marriage request to the woman’s family. If the woman’s parents agree, the man’s family can formally come to propose marriage. Proposal requires a betrothal gift, which is also called
When asking for a wedding, you usually give a wild goose or a wooden carved wild goose, but the wild goose is indispensable. Whether you are getting married to a royal relative or a commoner, wild geese are a must. In addition to wild geese, you also need to send a few pieces of silk and satin.
, a few mouthfuls of pigs and sheep, and a few jars of wine.
But before the formal proposal, the woman's parents should arrange for the man and woman to meet. This is to give both parties a chance to make a choice. There is no such thing as completely being arranged by the parents, at least not in the Tang and Song Dynasties.
If one party does not agree, the subsequent proposal ceremony can be canceled, but generally the man has to give the woman two pieces of silk or two pieces of cloth as compensation.
After both young people agree, the second step of acceptance will begin, which is to propose marriage at home.
The next morning, Guo Ying came to propose with more than a dozen gifts. Xue Xun specially asked for half a day's leave. He and his wife received Guo Ying in the mansion.
The gifts were placed in the yard, and a wild goose wrapped in red silk was placed in a basket. It was winter now, and there were no wild geese in Chang'an, so we had to carve a precious wild goose out of sandalwood instead.
Then there were two jars of wine, two pigs, two sheep, a bag of rice and five bolts of silk, all tied up with rope and wrapped in red silk.
Although Guo Ying did not have an official position, he came to propose to Guo Song on behalf of his father. Xue Xun was very polite to him, and the Han family also knew etiquette, but being polite was polite, and you still had to ask what you should ask.
Han asked with a smile: "I won't ask about the various ceremonies when the two parties get married. Every family is similar, but can Mr. Guo tell me where the groom's wedding room is?"
This issue is extremely important. They live in Guo Song's house. If Guo Song only has this house, it means that they have to move out and find another house. Han seems to be asking about the wedding house, but in fact he is concerned about himself.
Interests.
Guo Ying chuckled and said: "Guo Song is amazing. He has a garden house given to him by the late emperor. It covers an area of forty or fifty acres on the south bank of Qujiang River. Your love will soon become the daughter of that garden house."
Owner."
Mrs. Han was stunned when she heard that, obediently, it was actually Qujiang Yuanzhai. She suddenly complained secretly to her daughter. Her daughter must have known about it but refused to tell her. However, her heart fell to pieces. At least Guo Song would not rush away.
Go out on your own.
Xue Xun was not very interested in the house. He was more concerned about his daughter's status. He pondered for a moment and asked, "I wonder if Mr. Guo has married first?"
Whether you have married first has two meanings. One is whether you have taken a concubine first, and the second is whether you have married a wife before, including whether you had an ex-wife or if you currently have a wife at home.
This question must be asked clearly, just like Yuan Xiao before, who kept saying that he wanted to marry his daughter, but he actually married a concubine, not a wife, which is completely different.
Guo Ying had asked Guo Song in detail about this issue. He smiled and said: "Guo Song has never married a wife or taken a concubine. This proposal was made by a matchmaker and he married your beloved. He has no other ideas. As for what he will do in the future."
If you don’t know how to take a concubine, it’s up to your wife to decide.”
Xue Xun nodded and took the marriage certificate from the table. It contained Guo Song's basic information, date of birth, place of origin, parents, occupation, and property. It was written very clearly. Although Guo Song was seven years older than his daughter,
Years old, but still very young, he will only be twenty-five next year.
Xue Xun handed the marriage certificate to his wife, "Do you have anything else to ask?"
Mrs. Han read the marriage certificate and asked: "We all know that Mr. Guo's parents died when he was young. I wonder if he has any other relatives in his family or his family situation. Can you introduce them to him?"
Guo Ying knew this aspect better. He sighed and said: "Guo Song is a descendant of Lingwu Hall of the Guo family, and they are very close to our family. In fact, my father's great-great-grandfather had four sons, among whom the eldest
The third time he went to Lingwu County to join the army, he later married a wife and had children in Lingzhou, settled down, and gradually formed the Lingzhou Guo family. However, the relationship between Guo Song and the Lingzhou Guo family was very bad. An important clan member wanted to seek his property and took him away.
He was removed from the family name, so Guo Song never admitted that he was the Guo family of Lingzhou, and my father had no way to regard him as a grandson, but he is indeed my father's grandson."
Xue Xun frowned, "This kind of thing still happens, can't we accept him back into the family?"
Guo Ying smiled bitterly and said: "The problem now is that he himself refuses to return to the family. He is very stubborn. We hope that your wife can persuade him in the future."
Xue Xun asked no more questions about this matter, so why wasn't he himself the same?
"Then does he have any other relatives?" Han asked again.
"I seem to have heard that he has an eldest sister who is married to Fengxiang Mansion. I don't know the details."
Seeing that the time was almost up, Xue Xun winked at his wife. Han took out her daughter's marriage certificate and handed it to her husband. Xue Xun smiled and handed the marriage certificate to Guo Ying.
Guo Ying was overjoyed. Getting the woman's marriage certificate meant that the proposal was successful.
He hurriedly said: "There is a little betrothal gift in the yard, it is a small thought, please accept it."
Xue Xun nodded happily and said: "We will accept the betrothal gift. Next, I will wait for your news."
The next step is to ask for names and Najib. These two processes are actually combined. The main reason for asking for names is that the two parties cannot have the same surname. This is very important. For example, the Zhang family is preparing to marry the Li family. After seeing the marriage certificate of the woman, it is discovered that Li
The family's surname was Zhang a hundred years ago, but it was later changed to Li. This is no longer possible. The marriage will be invalidated, and the woman must return the bride price to the other party.
Compared with the seriousness of asking for names, Najib is more formal, just calculating whether the two people's horoscopes are a match made in heaven, and whether there are any horoscopes that are in conflict with each other. Generally speaking, as long as you give the fortune teller a red envelope, the result will definitely be a match made in heaven.
It takes about three to five days to ask for the name and Najib. If the name and Najib are successful, the next step is to collect the tax and ask for the date. These two steps are also combined. The request is to send financial gifts, and the date is to determine the date of marriage between the two parties.
After the wedding date is determined, the woman has to prepare a dowry and a wedding house. In the Tang Dynasty, marriages were generous, similar to today, and the groom's family had to contribute a large sum of money.
In the Song Dynasty, marriages were generous, similar to today's India. The man's family did not provide many financial gifts, but the woman's family must prepare a generous dowry. The richness of the dowry is related to the woman's future status in her husband's family. Therefore, there were many people who were henpecked in the Song Dynasty. The main reason is
This is because the woman's family is rich, has a large dowry, and has a high economic status, so the family status will be correspondingly high.
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At the same time that Guo Ying successfully proposed marriage, Guo Song officially accepted the appointment at the Ministry of War and would serve as the governor of Ganzhou. At the same time, he obtained the military talisman and took over the 10,000 troops that were about to reinforce Ganzhou.
At noon, Li Nan, a doctor in the Ministry of War, accompanied Guo Song to the military camp in Bashang.
"The soldiers of these 10,000 troops are basically soldiers from Longyou and Hexi. This is because the imperial court considered that the soldiers would be resistant, so it tried to select soldiers with relevant interests. Needless to say, soldiers from Hexi. Once Hexi was lost,
Longyou will become a battlefield, so the soldiers from Longyou also have relevant interests."
Along the way, Li Nan introduced the situation of the 10,000-strong army to Guo Song. Guo Song asked again: "How is the situation of the generals?"
"The army of ten thousand is divided into five battalions, with five generals and ten generals. Currently, both the generals and the generals are vacant. The soldiers are managed by the Ministry of War. This is the emperor's intention. These fifteen generals are all under the command of the Ministry of War.
The governor will make the appointment."
"Then the transfer order to Fengzhou has been issued?"
"It was sent out by pigeon mail yesterday, and the list is the thirty people drawn up by the governor."
Guo Song nodded, turned around and said with a smile: "Lao Kang, you can be counted as a quota later!"
Kang Bao grinned and said, "If a Hu barracks are established, I can agree."
Seeing Li Nan's confused face, Guo Song smiled lightly and said: "He is the leader of my personal soldiers. He once commanded an army of 100,000 in Kang State. There is no problem with his ability. I plan to promote him."
Li Nan looked back at Kang Bao in surprise and said to Guo Song: "His merits can be reported to the Ministry of War, and he will be given a military rank after approval by the Ministry of War. However, his military position can be decided by the governor."
This is actually the power of the Hexi Jiedushi. At present, the Hexi Jiedushi is led by Li Lian, the benefactor, from the capital. Therefore, the Liangzhou Governor and the Ganzhou Governor do not have substantial immediate superiors. They hold power independently and exercise it within their respective jurisdictions.
The power of Jiedushi.
At this time, a large camp appeared in front. Li Nan pointed with his riding crop, "That's the military camp ahead, we're here!"