794 The inferiority complex of the strong, the self-confidence of the weak
The higher he climbed in his career, the more Su Dong felt that there were fewer and fewer close friends around him.
For example, like Aimar, we haven’t contacted each other for a long time.
Not only with Su Dong, but also with Messi.
It was a very strange and special feeling. In David Silva's words, Aimar felt a little ashamed.
Because when we made friends, his status in European football was higher than that of Su Dong, and Messi was far incomparable to him. He was just a little fanboy who might need his help at any time.
But gradually, Aimar discovered that not only Su Dong had surpassed him, but also Messi had surpassed him. This made him feel uncomfortable and he didn't know how to continue to get along with them.
There are many such cases, not only happening to Su Dong, but also to Messi, and to everyone.
Whether actively or passively, Su Dong's friends are gradually decreasing, especially those teammates who once fought side by side. Some have retired, some have even become head coaches, and most of them have stopped contacting him.
So every time, when Su Dong meets his former teammates, he will feel a very special feeling of intimacy.
But he wouldn't go out of his way to get close to them, he would just take the initiative to walk over to them and say "Long time no see" to them. After the game, he would walk over to say a few words to them and say goodbye and so on.
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"You look more confident than before!" Mohamed Sissoko praised sincerely.
"Really?" Su Dong asked with a smile, but then quickly shook his head, "Actually, I'm still the same as before, a little inferior."
"How is that possible?" Mohamed Sissoko was very surprised.
Su Dong has low self-esteem?
If this were told, who would believe it?
A person with low self-esteem was able to pass the ball in a one-on-one fight just now?
If Su Dong had a low self-esteem when he was in Valencia, does Sissoko still believe that this is possible now?
"Maybe we have different definitions of inferiority." Su Dong smiled.
Perhaps it was because of old friends, or perhaps because Sissoko had seen everything that happened when Su Dong became famous in Valencia, so he was willing to say some things.
"Perhaps you think that low self-esteem means that you feel ashamed of yourself, that you have no confidence in anything you do, that you feel inferior to others, that you are submissive in doing things, and that you are easily looked down upon by others."
Sissoko showed a black question mark face, didn’t he?
"I think that always thinking that you are not doing well enough is actually a form of low self-esteem."
Sissoko was silent for a moment. He really hadn't thought about what Su Dong said.
Is it considered a form of inferiority if you feel that you are not doing well enough?
There are some things that Su Dong has never told others about, and there are some feelings that he can never share with others, even his closest parents, fiancée and friends, these will be buried deep in his heart forever.
He really feels that he has low self-esteem because he always feels that he has not done well enough. Even though everyone around him has been telling him that he has done well enough and is outstanding, he is still trying to do better.
good.
Is this just self-improvement?
Born in a weak football country, coupled with the experience in Portugal, it is unrealistic to say that it had no impact on Su Dong's psychology.
Having the plug-in "Road to the King of Football" system has indeed improved Su Dong's psychology, but it cannot erase the psychological shadow deep in his heart.
It's like a person who has been poor for many years suddenly wins the lottery and has a huge sum of money. What will he do?
Can he suddenly become confident?
Even if he deliberately acted confident, in reality, his mentality was still that poor person before. Even after many, many years, he had become successful and famous, but the shadow of his poverty still lingered in his bones.
This is a lifelong thing!
Is this a bad thing?
Su Dong thinks not!
His inferiority complex made him work harder and more diligently, keeping him motivated to become stronger all the time.
It is a psychology that everyone has, even some people who seem extremely confident.
Maybe behind self-confidence, there is low self-esteem.
If you want to understand inferiority complex, you need to understand what self-confidence is?
In Su Dong's understanding, there are two types of self-confidence: strong and weak.
The so-called strong self-confidence is a strong mentality. When you look at something and your opponent from a higher position, and you are sure that you can do it, succeed, and defeat him, then you
In the process of doing it, you will reveal a natural and strong self-confidence.
It's like a strong adult fighting with a weak child. There's no reason not to be confident, right?
The so-called self-confidence of the weak is actually full of unknowns about the future.
Your opponent is stronger than you, things are very difficult, you don't know whether you can succeed, you don't even know what the consequences will be, everything is unknown.
In fact, people in this situation often have low self-esteem.
Just like Su Dong, when he faced three defensive players alone, he was actually not sure whether he could do it, but he was the captain of the team, and he had the responsibility, obligation and mission to help the team.
further reverse the situation.
It is this sense of responsibility and mission that makes him still try his best even though he has low self-esteem and is at a disadvantage.
And the process of trying your best is, in Sissoko's view, confidence!
Su Dong has talked with many big names, such as Beckenbauer, Cruyff, Platini, Maradona, Zidane, Ronaldo...
He found that he couldn't tell the difference between inferiority and self-confidence among these people.
Many times, for many legendary moments, when they think about it afterwards, they actually were not sure enough at the time, but it was their sense of responsibility and mission that prompted them to do it and do their best, which in the eyes of others is just a kind of
confidence.
"Seek truth from facts, recognize yourself, stick to yourself, do your best, and face it calmly!"
This chapter is not over, please click on the next page to continue reading! "This is my attitude. As for whether I have low self-esteem or confidence, it doesn't matter!"
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When Su Dong smiled and expressed his feelings, Mohamed Sissoko was really shocked.
In all the years since he landed in Europe, no one has ever said these words to him, and no one has ever taught him these principles.
Benitez is like a cold machine, the Italian coach is not much better, and Sissoko is gradually lost.
But Su Dong's words made him sober up. He began to feel that blindly denying himself and blindly demanding himself to cater to others would only make him become more "inferior" and even fall into a kind of "inferiority".
"Vicious cycle.
He has his own strengths and weaknesses, he is not Vieira or anyone else, he has a name.
His name is Mohamed Sissoko!
"Thank you, Su!" Sissoko stretched out his hands and held Su Dong's hand very, very hard.
Su Dong was a little surprised. He was speaking purely out of his own feelings. These were his personal thoughts. He didn't know why Sissoko's reaction was so big.
But it seems like this should be a good thing.
Oh, no, it may not be a good thing for Manchester City.
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Sure enough, Manchester City won another victory in the new season after overturning Juventus 3-1.
Six consecutive wins in the league and two consecutive wins in the Europa League. If it were not for being eliminated from the League Cup, Manchester City's state this season would be unstoppable, and Su Dong's performance has once again won unanimous recognition.
Especially when he was replaced, the scene where all the fans stood up and applauded him attracted the attention of all media and fans around the world. This was considered to be a signal that Su Dong had completely conquered the Manchester City fans.
But against Juventus, it was Sanchez who was elected man of the match.
When the Chilean winger faced Juventus, he almost completely broke Juventus' right wing into a sieve. Decelli was completely disabled and became the weakest link in Juventus' defense, allowing Manchester City's offense to do whatever they wanted.
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However, it's not all good news.
While Manchester City reversed Juventus 3-1, in another group match, Poland's Lech Poznan defeated Red Bull Salzburg 2-0 at home, also winning two consecutive games.
It's really shocking.
After drawing 3-3 with Juventus in the first round of the group, Lech Poznan defeated Red Bull Salzburg 2-0 in the second round, which made people even more convinced that Lech Poznan is becoming Manchester City.
The top opponent in the group stage.
After two rounds of games, Manchester City has won two consecutive games and scored six points. Lech Poznan has scored four points with one win and one draw, ranking second in the group. Juventus ranked third with one draw and one loss.
Third, Red Bull Salzburg lost both games and scored no points.
In other words, judging from the current situation, Lech Poznan is most likely to threaten Manchester City's top spot in the group.
According to the schedule, in the next two rounds of the group stage, Manchester City will face Lech Poznan at home and away, first home and then away, and will attack Lech Poznan. These two games will be key battles for the top spot in the group.
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For Juventus, if they want to counterattack in the group stage, they must win Red Bull Salzburg in the next two games. At the same time, it is best to pray that both Manchester City and Lech Poznan will lose in the battle.
, it is best if both rounds are draws, and Juventus wins both rounds, then they can counterattack.
The reason for this passive situation of being controlled by others is also related to Juventus' failure to play well in the first two rounds.
They failed to win against Lech Poznan at home and suffered a reversal at Manchester City in the away game. Juventus just missed the three points at home.
If we could win Lech Poznan at home, we wouldn't be so passive now.
But there are no ifs in this world.
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Over the weekend, in the seventh round of the Premier League, Manchester City faced Newcastle at home.
Due to continuous fighting, Su Dong was forced to take a break this game and sat on the bench.
Guardiola also rotated the lineup.
As a result, Newcastle's French winger Ben Arfa performed extremely bravely in the first half, assisting his teammates to score twice, helping Newcastle take a two-goal lead.
Subsequently, Newcastle continued to withstand Manchester City's passing pressure and patiently looked for opportunities to counterattack.
Until the second half, Manchester City failed to get a chance.
Su Dong came on as a substitute in the 70th minute, and in the 83rd minute, after retreating to receive the pass, he planned an attack. Adam Johnson scored a goal to help Manchester City get a goal back.
In the 89th minute, David Silva, who also came on as a substitute, sent a diagonal pass. Su Dong shot from ten meters on the left side of the penalty area to equalize the score for Manchester City.
But in the end, Manchester City failed to score again.
2 to 2, Manchester City was held to a draw by Newcastle at home.
