Come on, come on, Du Lan said that the best skill of middle school boys is to ask why.
As a life coach, Dulan understands them very well. His education is actually the same as parents asking their children to clean their rooms. It is very simple, but it is difficult to make their children obedient and clean their rooms.
The child will ask why the room needs to be tidied? He does not feel any discomfort at all living in the room.
Why do it? This is a question that requires a lifetime of study.
Why should you practice? The reasons given by religions are generally divided into two types. One is that as long as you practice, you will have a promised land flowing with milk and honey, go to heaven after death, or join a good family in the next life. The other is
It means that if you don't do it, you will go to hell. To put it simply, it is coercion and inducement.
When parents ask their children to clean their rooms, they sometimes say this: If you don’t clean your room, there will be cockroaches, mice, and viruses in the room, which are bad for your health. This is a threat. Or if you clean your room, your body will be healthy.
After you clean up the room, I will give you pocket money. This is an inducement.
This is the truth, why should we do it? When a sergeant hears it, he or she will practice it diligently. When a sergeant hears it, he or she will live or die. When a corporal hears it, he laughs. There are only a few sergeants who want to consciously practice it.
More people are sergeants who just follow the steps and don't practice if they can't. There are also a few people who not only don't practice themselves, but also persuade others not to practice.
Dulan said that this is a problem that life coaches must face. In fact, the truth is very simple and can be explained clearly in a few sentences, but it is difficult to make people practice it, and it is even harder to create a practical environment.
When parents ask their children to clean up the house, what do the children say? Yes, is it really necessary to clean up? Neatness and slovenliness have no impact on the children. Parents either coerce, induce, or
Tell your children to look at how other children clean their rooms.
The same is true for life mentors. Dulan said to practice benevolence, justice, etiquette, wisdom and trust, and the middle school boy asked why?
Yes, why? Is it for success or for happiness? Even a middle school boy still asks what is the meaning of life in the end? Life has no meaning anymore, so why should we practice benevolence, justice, propriety, wisdom and trust?
This world is full of deception, hypocrisy, and intrigue. Adults are two-faced and not worthy of trust at all. Adults deceive everyone into practicing benevolence, justice, propriety, wisdom, and trust, just for control, and purely out of selfishness. This is a complete scam.
Now Dulan arranges for everyone to study in order to prepare for the next game. Arisu Ryohei thinks that this is Dulan trying to control him.
It's like parents asking their children to clean up the house. The children think this is control. This is the evil of the parents and the tragedy of the original family. Why should they clean up the house? You have to make the decision about your own house. If it is messy, it will be messy. If it is messy, it will be free and messy.
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Coercion and inducement, and other people's attempts to have children have failed, because some people are unwilling to clean up the house, and feel that it is completely meaningless. Doing nothing is the most comfortable and comfortable.
Ryohei Arisu, Harita Seikawa, including the adult Zibuki Koori, they more or less don't like Dulan's dictation. Even their parents, leaders, and teachers, they are not willing to obey, let alone Dulan.
Just a stranger I just met.
Du Lan said that now he understands Chu Xuan better, and Chu Xuan doesn’t want to lie to others, but his teammates are too incompetent.
For these three people, they only felt that Dulan wanted to control them and had bad intentions. If they listened to Dulan's words, they would definitely lose themselves and their freedom.
Only Komabe Daikichi felt that Duran's arrangement was reasonable and he was willing to give it a try. After all, he had been mixed up in society and had experienced the years of being an orphan after losing his parents.
His father was a domestic violence man who always drank too much. His mother chose to divorce and abandoned his father and son, and Komabe Daikichi also dropped out of junior high school to enter the society. When he returned home, he found that his father had died of illness.
There was no chance for revenge. This made him reflect for the first time. After losing his father, he was not very happy, but felt a little lost.
Then when he was in the society, Komabe Daikichi also worked hard and was appreciated. He gradually realized that you have to pay for what you want. He became the manager of the bar because he worked harder and harder than others.
to learn.
For this reason, although he could not summarize any theory, he gradually formed his own set of behaviors. If he could not come up with a plan, he should work hard to follow those who had plans and implement them.
Of course, as far as Komabe Daikichi's experience is concerned, he was indeed controlled by his native family. However, control is also two-way. Excessive control will lead to the separation of wives and children, and insufficient control will lead to the collapse of etiquette and happiness. Just the right amount of control means that a father is kind and his son is filial.
Because control is two-way, it does not mean that if parents control blindly, children will be obedient. So it is really complicated, and the truth is like this. In practice, you have to face complex social and natural environments, which can be daunting.
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So Duran wants everyone to practice, but none of the three except Daikichi Gobe actually want to practice. They are full of dissatisfaction with society and are very disgusted with their own experiences. They feel controlled by their parents and teachers when they go to school, and they feel controlled by their leaders when they go to work.
Now that they finally no longer have their parents, teachers, and leaders, they are very dissatisfied as they have to be controlled by Dulan and the game.
Why do they want to participate in the game of life and death? Why do they listen to Duran's command? Why, why, why?! Why can't the world run according to their wishes? Why can no one understand their voices? Why don't they have the opportunity to show their talents?
Why do I have to cater to this society? Why are all the jackals and tigers in charge, and why are all the hypocritical and pretentious people controlling the world?
It's like a child asking why I clean my room? He thinks it's okay if I don't clean it.
Why, why? Life is meaningless at all. Murasaki Koori has already given up once, but the irony is that she passed the game instead of giving up on life.
So what does this dying country, Dulan's arrangements, and his own life mean?
Dulan looked at the expressions of the three people and said that it was easy to reason with them, but difficult to get them to practice it. Even if there was a death game, it still couldn't make them stick to practice.
On the other hand, Tomobe Daikichi is good, full of practical power, and he keeps working hard for the loyalty of his friends. As long as he is recognized as a friend, he is willing to do whatever it takes. He no longer needs to find the meaning of practice. In the beginning, he was for revenge.
Later it was for friends, and now it is for survival. In short, the goal is clear and full of motivation.
The other three were less motivated. Arisu Ryohei had clearly received training from the nobles, but could not find any reason to practice it.
Mencius said that practice does not need a reason at all, because human nature is inherently good, and everyone has the driving force for practice, which are the four principles: the heart of compassion, the heart of shame, the heart of resignation, and the heart of right and wrong.
Legalists say that laws are prescribed and those who do not practice them will be punished.
The reason why Mohism's universal love cannot be implemented is because the internal laws of Mohism are stricter than anywhere else, and those who do not love universal love will be directly punished.
Taoism means that Taoism is natural and you just need to practice it according to human instincts. Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are sleepy. This kind of practice does not require much external control.
Xunzi said that it is impossible not to control, but must be controlled, because human nature is inherently evil. If people just eat and sleep, they will do bad things.
Therefore, Dulan, the life mentor, has always used coercion and inducement to put the protagonists in a dilemma, and then let them choose a path to practice. Now for the three middle school teenagers, they don't even want to accept the death game, let alone
Accept Duran's chatter.
Sure enough, in this world, only beautiful girls and handsome boys are the driving force to inspire practice. Dulan thought that if a group of beautiful girls and handsome boys came, they would definitely be inspired to practice, and even the second graders could not stop their beauty.