Just like if we were to interview a top scorer in the college entrance examination, and you asked him how he achieved such good results and you told him how he should answer, he would definitely not be able to answer the question well.
He might say that I worked very hard to achieve such good results. He might also say that it is because I have a talent for learning. He might also say that it is because he is interested in learning.
But in the end, among hard work, talent, and interest, which one is more important for achieving good results? This is probably a question that no one can answer.
Therefore, as a parent, you should think more about how a child learns well. Don’t believe in famous teachers or experts. Then, you spend a lot of money on cram schools for your children. Then you spend a lot of money on cram schools for your children.
I pay a lot of money to hire a famous teacher for guidance and one-to-one teaching.
All this has no effect at all. If a child studies well, he does not need to attend any cram school, he can still study well. Because the time students study in school can completely allow him to study well. Those teachers who teach them are all
No worse than any teacher who runs a cram school.
Even famous teachers, experts, and the like are just because they accidentally achieved some results in teaching, and then they were rated as outstanding teachers and experts. Then they can use this halo to deceive people.
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If these famous teachers and experts are really that powerful, then their own children should all be admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University. There should not be children with poor academic performance. But what is the actual situation!
Speaking of these famous teachers and experts, even if they are professors from Tsinghua University and Peking University, can their children be admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University? It is obviously impossible. Their children may study well, or they may not study well.
Is there any relationship between the child's learning and the genes of his parents? This is something we still can't explain clearly. If there is no relationship at all, it doesn't seem to be the case. Some parents have hobbies.
Inherit it to your children. Let your children also have such hobbies.
But if there is such a genetic inheritance, then the children born to parents who are good at studying should also be good at studying. But the actual situation is not like this. Some children who are top academics may just be children with average academic performance, or even
He is a child with poor learning.
A person's learning ability is definitely related to genes. But how much this relationship is related to genetics is uncertain.
Therefore, when it comes to dealing with children's learning issues, it can only be decided by the parents themselves. If you give birth to a child who studies well, it can only be regarded as a kind of luck. It is almost like buying a lottery ticket. Who knows, who
What kind of children can be born? Will they grow well or study well? Will they be smart or stupid? This is something that no one can decide.
In this matter, we must never believe in any famous teachers or experts. It seems that with their guidance, the person who ranks last in the class can get the first place in the exam again.
Learning is completely a process of self-understanding. It is also a process of exploring a learning method that suits you.
Every child who studies well must have a different learning method. Some people like to study this way, some like to study that way. Some people like to study at night, and some like to study during the day.
The author also heard of a magical thing. There is a child in the Qingbei Class of a key high school who never does much homework in school. Every time he does his homework, he copies other people's homework. It makes others feel that he is a poor student.
This kind of child seems to be inferior to others and needs to copy other people's homework to complete the task. But when they take the exam, they can get good results such as eighth in grade.
And those children whose homework was copied did not do as well in the exam as this child. What do you think is the reason? Could it be that this student does not know how to do homework in normal times, but when it comes to the exam?
, it was just a flash of inspiration, and then I could do all the questions on the test paper.
Obviously this is not the reason. Why does this student use such a unique learning method? It must be someone’s own idea. Although we cannot personally investigate this matter, if we imagine it, we will know that this child uses such a unique learning method.
The learning method is definitely to save time.
When people spend time thinking about problems while doing homework, they save time by copying homework, and then study some topics that they don't know. Because these homework may feel too simple for others. Doing homework is not useful for others.
What is it used for.
Therefore, people save time on doing homework and then study other things. In this way, people can get good results when taking exams.
In fact, when it comes to exams, the author believes that it is time for the school's exam system to be reformed. Because until now, we still have not understood the word "exam" in the school.
What is an exam? An exam should be a very important matter. The success or failure of this matter will have a certain impact on a candidate's life and future. Such an exam is a real exam.
Just like our high school entrance examination and college entrance examination. There are also postgraduate entrance examinations after going to university. There are also civil service examinations after graduating from university, and various certification examinations in society. Such as driving license examinations, teacher qualification certificate examinations, including corporate examinations.
Employment interviews are considered real exams because this exam is very important to you. It is related to your job benefits and future lifestyle.
But schools have to conduct many exams every year. Like the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination, they are all called exams. But in fact, these exams are the same as the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination. Can they still be regarded as exams?
The leaders of our education department have repeatedly emphasized not to engage in performance rankings, not to cater to exam-oriented education, and not to reward children who study well. But what is the use of just saying this. If the examination system is not changed, then students, teachers and parents will
Why don't we just focus on fractions?
‘Tai Kao, the teacher’s trick, divides the lifeblood of students.’ This is a classic saying created by traditional exam-oriented education.
Normally these exams, such as monthly exams, mid-term exams, and final exams, have almost no impact on a person's life and destiny. In essence, this kind of exam is not an exam at all. Because you
In such an exam, it doesn't matter whether you do well or not.
Originally, these exams are insignificant to a student. So what if they do well in the exam. So what if they do poorly in the exam. They have no fundamental impact on a student's study and life.
On the contrary, these exams will affect children's mood and their interest in learning. Because learning requires an interest. But this exam directly affects children's interest in learning.
This is because the child who originally felt that he was doing well in his studies ended up not doing well in the exam. The child who was originally in the top ten of his grade suddenly dropped to more than 100, or even several hundred, in his grade in an exam. That is not
This will immediately dampen the child's enthusiasm for learning.
Learning requires a spirit of self-confidence. If there is no self-confidence, how can it be possible to study well. But this exam will severely damage some children's original interest in learning.
Also, the academic performance will also affect the unity of the children. Originally, the two children played very well. But when they took the exam, one did very well and the other did very poorly. In this case, which one did well?
Children, some look down on those with poor grades.
Therefore, these usual exams have no positive effect at all. They will only encourage some students and parents to compare themselves with each other. Once their children do well in the exams, they want to show off everywhere. Say that their children are doing well.
I did very well in this exam. I ranked first in my grade or among the top few in my grade.
Parents who do not do well in the exam feel that they can’t hold their heads high. They feel that their children are not as good as other people’s children. In this case, the exam has completely had a bad effect. Originally, this usual exam is irrelevant. But
Due to people's comparison mentality, people feel that such an unimportant exam is very important.
Also, many children will be nervous because of exams. Because they know that if they do not do well in the exam, their parents may be unhappy. Parents with bad tempers are better off. But parents with bad tempers will be unhappy.
He would scold his children, or even punch and kick them, because of a test.
Why do parents care so much about these unimportant tests? It’s because parents take these tests too seriously. They feel that if you don’t do well in these tests, you won’t be able to study well in the future.
Another point is that parents all hope that their children will succeed and their daughters will succeed. They will always place their hopes in life on the next generation. It is as if children's learning is not for the children themselves, but for our parents.
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I think those parents who get angry when they see their children doing poorly in exams are very failed parents. They completely regard their children as tools for their own success.
They feel that as long as their children study well, they will have a good job in the future, and then they can enjoy happiness in the future.
It is because of this mentality that many parents attach great importance to their children's usual test scores. If the children study well and do well on the test, they will be very happy. But if the children do not study well, or because they did not do well in a certain test,
If you do well in the exam, you will feel very angry.
Parents who think this way will definitely not be able to teach students who are really good at learning. Because they don’t know what learning is all about. They always compare learning with some simple physical labor. They always feel that as long as they work hard,
, you will definitely be able to learn well. If you don’t work hard, you will definitely not learn well.
In fact, learning is a very complex mental work. It does not mean that you will be able to learn well if you work hard. If you don't work hard, you will not learn well. There is no inevitable connection between hard work and learning well.
Therefore, the most important thing for a qualified parent to have when dealing with their children's academic performance is to have a normal mind. No matter whether the child does well or not, they must treat it with a normal mind.
Also, when dealing with children's test scores, please spend more time researching to find out what are the reasons for your children's good or bad scores.
When we look at a child's grades, we can't just look at the total score. And then we don't look at the scores in each individual subject. Just when we see that the total score is less than the last time, we accuse the child of not working hard and that his academic performance has declined. This is obviously ridiculous.
Nonsense.
There is no child who can stabilize his or her grades at a single score every time, or in other words, who can keep his or her grades improving without deteriorating. This is simply impossible.
Although sometimes, there are some students who can take many consecutive exams and keep improving. But there are always times when they regress. It is impossible for them to improve their academic performance in high school for three years without regressing once. This is
Something that is simply impossible.
If we look at the students' performance rankings, we will know. It is difficult for any school to stay at the top of the grade. Of course, it is possible in elementary school. After all, in elementary school, the school also
There are not many children. The competition is not that great. There are some children who are particularly good at studying and can remain at the top of their grade.
But it's different when it comes to middle school. There may be hundreds of people in any middle school. The competitiveness suddenly becomes much greater. If we have studied this aspect, we will find that in any middle school, we can maintain the
It can be said that there is no child who ranks first in grade.
Of course, we can't be too absolute. Nothing in the world is absolute. There are also some students in middle schools who may be academic gods, and they may always remain at the top of their grade.
However, such students certainly do not appear every year. This kind of student who has always been at the top of his grade in middle school will almost have no problem getting into Tsinghua University and Peking University.
Students like this who can remain at the top of their grade in middle school do not happen every year in any middle school. It may be that in many years there will be a student with particularly excellent academic performance and outstanding performance.
Therefore, when it comes to children’s academic performance, parents must not care whether they do well in the exam this time or how poorly they do next time. Whether they do well or poorly in the exam, it is normal.
There is no need for us to care about these ordinary exams, because these exams are not real exams at all.