In fact, the reason why people are distressed is not because of emotional distress, but because of unsatisfied desires.
You must know that not only material things, but also emotions, security, respect, spirit and career, everything we need are actually desires.
People want too many things. Failure to satisfy them will bring pain and loss, while being satisfied will bring happiness.
If we look at the Marlows Hierarchy of Needs theory, needs that can be satisfied through material things belong to the lowest level.
So often in the stage of pursuing material things, people are most likely to feel the beauty and nourishment in life.
Just like kids these days.
In the New Year, there are meat to eat, new clothes to wear, money to raise money, and firecrackers to set off, which makes it so beautiful.
I can’t wait to celebrate the New Year from the beginning of the year to the end of the year.
Even adults are the same. As long as they have more money this year than last year, they can slightly improve the material conditions of their families.
You will have endless joy and satisfaction.
So it can be said that when people thirty years later remember the early 1980s, they think that time was extremely beautiful.
It is because in the process of reform and opening up, the people of our country have turned from poverty to wealth one after another and have indeed gained a lot of material wealth.
It’s also because people back then really didn’t care too much.
It is also this New Year's Eve, the first time in the world.
Ning Weimin hired Sister Tan from the cigarette shop to let her two wolf-like children run free and eat.
A plate of fried peanuts and six sliced braised eggs were eaten by the two children before they even had time to be served.
A large pot of braised hairtail was brought up, and a few pairs of chopsticks were inserted into it, but disappeared after a while.
A stewed chicken, and half of it was eaten while watching.
While the two teenagers devoured another plate of braised ribs.
They were still burping with moist burps.
Facing the croquettes, steamed pork with rice noodles, pork slices and snow-white steamed buns that were next to be served, I stared at them with nostalgia.
Then he said it to his mother one by one.
“Mom, this year’s New Year’s Eve dinner is so delicious. What you cooked is so delicious. It’s a pity that I’m so full that I can’t eat it anymore...”
“Mom, our family hasn’t had such a rich meal in several years. It would be great if the New Year’s Eve dinner every year could be so sumptuous...”
Looking at the two children’s shining eyes, Sister Tan couldn’t help but hug her children one by one.
Tears flowed out uncontrollably.
"Mom is lucky. She has met a good person and a noble person. Mom must work hard so that you no longer have to go hungry and can have such a sumptuous New Year's Eve dinner every year. You must also study hard and give Mom
Let’s strive for success…”
The situation is very similar to that of Sister Tan. As the best cutter in the sewing club, Su Jin’s family has also changed drastically this year.
This year, Su Jin not only paid off her family’s debts, but also hosted an equally sumptuous New Year’s Eve dinner.
And he also made new clothes for his father, his sister, and himself.
This point is originally more important to the Su family than to other families.
Because it has been many years since the Su family, whose ancestors were tailors, has not worn new clothes.
This year, it was all thanks to Ning Weimin that their family broke the curse.
Especially Su Jin’s sister Su Xiu, as a girl, this year has made up for the regret of lack of clothes since she was a child.
Whether it’s a summer skirt, a spring and autumn singlet, or a winter cotton coat, she has a new outfit.
As a result, the girl became more and more beautiful, and she showed the graceful appearance of a young girl in her prime.
It is no longer the shabby attire of the old days of using pockets as shirts and stringing handkerchiefs together to make skirts.
She can now hold her chest up and raise her head to face strangers, unlike before where she always dared not raise her head and always did something wrong.
In this regard, Su Jin’s father Su Shenzhen said this.
"Clouds think of clothes, flowers think of appearance. A decent piece of clothing does not need to cost much money. It can bring out a person's temperament and mood, and increase people's confidence. Do you think it is important or not? Thanks to you,
Son, thanks to you as the backbone, our Xiu'er finally found confidence. I finally have hope for my illness. But...it's been hard on you for so many years..."
Father's praise made Su Jin suddenly want to cry.
The tears flowed down unknowingly and flowed into the mouth along the bridge of the nose. They were salty and bitter.
To be honest, he had not tasted this for a long time, so he was very surprised.
Throughout the ups and downs of the past few years, he has rarely shed a tear.
I thought I was numb to the idea of crying.
Nowadays, life is full of good things and happy things, so there is no need for tears at all.
Why did he still cry?
strangeness……
Compared with Sister Tan and Su Jin, Yin Yue, who is a Pierre Cardin clothing salesperson, obviously earns more.
Since the price increase of Pierre & Catton clothing, in order to ensure the stability of service quality.
Even though Ning Weimin added four more people to the Jianguomen store, the number of customers each person at "Meichun Yangmeizi" received was reduced by one-third from the past.
However, the income of the four of them has still increased significantly.
To put it bluntly, the work is easier and you can earn more money.
So this year, her family's situation will be even richer.
Not only did I buy piles of fish and meat for my family, but I also bought a large color TV and a washing machine.
I bought new clothes, new schoolbags, and new stationery for each of my two younger brothers.
And also bought a big gold ring for the grandmother who raised the three siblings.
"Grandma, please open it and take a look. I bought it specially for you. It's a good thing..."
When offering the treasure, Yin Yue was deliberately reserved.
As soon as I opened it, the golden light flashed, and the white-haired old lady started praising it.
“Oh, I haven’t seen this thing in years. Oh, this is really gold, why is it so bright? What’s the writing on this...what, what k?”
Hey, I’m really confused now.
Yin Yue couldn't figure it out even after thinking for a long time, so she had to rely on inventions to make it up.
“Grandma, this probably means it’s quite valuable. Isn’t King the biggest among poker cards? 18 King, how valuable is that?”
“Anyway, this is pure gold. It’s purer and heavier than the one you sold for the three of us back then.”
“How do you like it? Grandma, do you like it? It’s a pity that I can’t find the same style as yours.”
Unexpectedly, these lovely words made grandma burst into tears.
After silently wiping her sleeves for a long time, the old lady held her granddaughter's hand and said, "Good boy, grandma's love for you is not in vain... I didn't expect... I didn't expect that it took so long, you still remember..."
Compared with the above families, Zhang Shihui’s New Year’s Eve was worthy of his status as Ning Weimin’s partner.
Because it seems more noisy.
Not to mention anything else, he and Liu Weijing actually drove a tricycle together and delivered a corner sofa to the father-in-law's family.
It was enough to attract the attention of the neighbors, and almost half the people on the floor came to watch the fun.
You must know that the Liu family is on the fourth floor.
After all, no one has ever seen anyone else buy furniture on New Year’s Eve and go to such great lengths to move it to the fourth floor.
Fortunately, the sofa is a piece of furniture that has one large and three small sizes and can be assembled together.
Otherwise, even with the help of a tricycle driver, it would be difficult to complete such a challenging transportation task.
To be honest, this job is not only exhausting for the young couple.
Because it was a "surprise attack", Zhang Shihui's father-in-law and mother-in-law were caught off guard.
In short, the whole family was busy and busy, until everyone was sweating profusely and their bodies were soaked.
Just then I cleared out a space in the house to accommodate this big thing.
After the tricycle driver left and everyone was sitting on the sofa to rest, of course the old couple asked questions angrily.
“What’s causing this fuss between you two? You’re so cool, why did you bring a sofa like this today?”
"It's just that all this fussing and chaos at home has delayed the New Year's Eve dinner..."
How did you know that Liu Weijing was still angry?
It was okay if her parents didn't ask, but when they did, she immediately gave Zhang Shihui a severe scolding.
“It’s not too bad for him... As a good son-in-law of ours, I went to Xidan today to queue up... to buy Tianfu Hao’s pickled pork ribs. I said you and I both like to eat them, so tonight... I want to add a hard dish to the New Year’s Eve dinner.”
"Originally... I was quite happy. I thought he was quite thoughtful. Then just buy it and you'll be fine when you get back. No... he wasn't just wandering around. This time he went to Xisi Furniture
I went to the store and immediately fell in love with this corner sofa.”
"The price was two hundred and seventy-five... At that time, he, a big fool, touched his pocket, paid for it, and hired a tricycle to pull it back. The result was great, there is no room for it in our house.
Huh? Now we can only reinstall the car and deliver it to you, the second elder."
"The one who pulls the three-wheeler is suitable for me. It's going to be expensive today. A job that usually costs two or three yuan, but he makes a trip for ten yuan. Plus this trip, he made half a month's worth of money in one afternoon.
I just put together this set of sofas and made it into a three-hundred set. Oh, don’t mention it, it pisses me off..."
Zhang Shihui felt quite embarrassed, but refused to admit her mistake.
“Who are you stupid? Just tell me whether this sofa is good-looking or not? This is a style that just came out this year, just like the one in the foreigner’s home. Didn’t you also like it when I first bought it?”
“There is no place to put it. It doesn’t mean that I don’t know how to buy things. It can only mean that we are not lucky... No, no, it means that our parents are more lucky than us.”
"Look, if there is such a sofa in my parents' house, I will be willing to sit and lie down in the future. How comfortable it is! How elegant! By the way, I will buy a separate glass coffee table for you and me later.
Here, it will be more decent to entertain guests in the future..."
Hey, don’t tell me, Zhang Shihui really knows how to speak nicely.
Now Liu Weijing's parents were not only relieved, but they also felt that Bai Luo's sofa was quite suitable, and they were also happy.
“Yes, yes, I think this sofa is good. It’s suitable for our home...”
“Hey, don’t tell me, my son-in-law has a very good eye and is good at picking out things...”
For this reason, Liu Weijing, who had lost the Allied Forces, was even more angry and gritted his teeth.
“Oh, Dad, Mom, why are you still talking to him? You don’t know that he likes to spend money carelessly.”
"There are a lot of appliances at home, so that's it. He can still resell them. But why do you think he bought several bicycles and kept them in the house? They are all new cars. If they can't be ridden, they will take up space in vain. They should be kept in the yard.
I’m afraid of getting caught in the rain.”
"There are also watches, men's and women's watches, domestic and foreign, mechanical and electronic, different brands. I bought them for more than ten yuan. He also bought them. How many hands does he and I have? Can we wear them?
"
Now Liu Weijing’s parents cannot disapprove of their daughter’s attitude.
As an old man, the most important thing is to be diligent and thrifty.
“Shi Hui, this is your fault. To earn money, you have to know how to spend it. How much money do you earn, and you don’t want to be so lavish in your life. You have to think about the future..."
“That’s right, if you have money, you won’t have half a year to spare. Why have you forgotten the old saying? Do you need it if you buy it? Don’t just buy it blindly if you don’t need it. Your money didn’t come from the strong wind..."
Zhang Shihui wiped some sweat from his forehead and finally bowed his head humbly this time.
"Dad, Mom, what you are talking about is. I accept the criticism and promise not to buy bicycles or watches in the future. But since I have bought them, of course I can't just leave them at home for nothing. I still have to put them to use as much as possible. So I plan to
After the Chinese New Year, I will send you some bicycles and watches from home. Dad and Mom, please help me and use them for me..."
Now Liu Weijing’s parents were both surprised.
“Yo, you want to bring it to us?”
“Ah, no matter who uses it, it’s not a use. Anyway, we are a family, and the wealth will not flow to other people’s fields..."
"This... is still not appropriate. You should keep your valuables yourself. No one in my hometown would take their children's things like this..."
"No, parents, I must ask my second brother to help me with this. Let me tell you the truth, I actually want to buy a motorcycle. If you don't leave the bike, I won't have room to put it at home. Then Liu Wei
Have you ever seen an old couple who have been poor for half their lives giving away cars and watches like this?
How can you still love such a generous son-in-law in your heart?
Absolutely.
As for the daughter?
Since you are your own biological child, what can you do if you are a little wronged?
Stop talking nonsense, go get down to work in the kitchen, we still have to cook the New Year’s Eve dinner.
Of course, there are so many people who have benefited from Ning Weimin, and so many people whose life situations have been changed because of him.
Not everyone is so satisfied and happy.
There is always an exception.
For example, in the backyard of the cigarette shop in Huanghuamen, "Zhang Dashao" was performing the grand ceremony of kneeling three times and kowtowing nine times.
The old man burst into tears and shouted with great sadness, "Zhang Mingwu, an unworthy descendant, has failed in his family education and kowtowed to his ancestors..."
On the wall in front of him were eight wooden signs and two iron signs.
The sacrifices were extremely rich.
In addition to the three main sacrifices: fish, duck and hot pot.
In addition, there are eight bowls of dishes, ten sets of chopsticks, and wine cups.
If anyone of Zhang Shihui’s age were here, he would definitely be surprised by this scene.
It’s not just that the New Year’s Eve ancestor worship practice, which has disappeared for many years due to changes in customs, has reappeared here again.
Moreover, this kind of ancestor worship ceremony also has many things that are not quite right with the established ritual practices.
For example, what Zhang Dashao worshiped was neither the ancestral hall picture nor the main wooden tablet.
Rather, it is a palace entrance badge with ten hot noodle characters written in both Manchu and Chinese languages.
For another example, although the sacrificial utensils arranged by Zhang Dashao are crude and ordinary, the dishes are indeed fragrant and really make people salivate.
If you look carefully, the texture is far beyond anyone’s imagination.
Let alone all the chefs in the capital, even if Puyi's own brother was here, he would be shocked.
Because not only chicken, duck, fish, sea cucumber and swallow's wings are available.
Even like the oven-roasted pork and clear sauce pork that have been extinct for many years in the capital.
No one knows how to make butter uttar or milk cake, we have them all here.
There are even a few dishes that even he may not have seen before.
This is like taking the New Year’s Eve dinner made in the Queen Mother’s birthday kitchen a hundred years ago and using time travel technology to move it here...