The four rays of light gradually converged in the nine heavens, then flashed down, turned into a sacred light, and appeared in front of Yingsheng. They were the four sages of "Yuan Zhen Liheng".

"I really convinced you. I'm still at a disadvantage in the four battles and one of them. Even the Holy Heaven can't do anything to you." Hengtong said with a smile.

Their faces were slightly pale, but they were in good spirits, so their injuries were probably much healed.

"We are going to join forces to break the mist and towers of the five-colored sky." Li Jian said seriously.

"That competitive heart is still making trouble, a guy who loves to interfere." Feng Taihe said with a pointing point.

Isn’t the most taboo thing for practitioners to win?

A competitive spirit is a double-edged sword, including the psychological quality of daring to compete, striving to win, and being positive. It is the driving force for progress.

But once a person has a competitive spirit, he will constantly adjust himself to the best competitive state and make progress in this continuous adjustment process.

At the same time, through this competitive spirit, we can promote our comprehensive progress and all-round development.

However, being competitive and having a strong mind is often eager to win. Once you fail and cannot win, you will not be able to bear the psychological pressure brought by failure and cause various problems.

This will make it difficult for people to withstand setbacks. Once they lose to others, they will easily become depressed and decadent, and it will be difficult to look at problems and learn lessons objectively. Once they have gained advantages, they will easily be proud and complacent, blindly confident, and it will be difficult to achieve great success.

Competitiveness also breeds selfishness, jealousy, vanity and narrow-mindedness.

Therefore, it is particularly important to view wins and losses correctly, avoid extreme ideas, correctly view the relationship between yourself and others, encourage yourself not to be afraid of losing, and to temper more. What is important is that after failure, you can summarize experiences and lessons.

You should know that the true wisdom of dealing with people is: the best people know the strong and keep the weak, while the lower people compete for the strong and are competitive.

In the world, many people are very competitive, which is a good thing to some extent, indicating that they have the desire to admit defeat and have a positive and ambitious attitude.

However, it is one thing to have a spirit of not giving up in your heart. Being competitive and having to make a win or lose in everything is another thing.

During the conversation between people, there are often conflicts of opinions, which is common.

But competitive people will argue endlessly because they differ from others' opinions until they are speechless.

The same is true between husband and wife.

If a competitive party quarrels with the other party, he often refuses to give in and uses every means to accuse the other party of his mistakes. He will not give up until the other party bows his head and admits his mistakes.

It is also obvious between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The calculating party often causes trouble for the other party. Once a dispute arises, he often cries, makes trouble and hangs himself until he joins all forces to make the other party surrender and is willing to quit.

If a person is in a state of competitive strength for a long time and often wins, there will inevitably be a crisis.

A friend's argument won for a while, but he may lose the favor of his friends and others from then on; one couple wins in front of him, but in a few days, the other half may retaliate on other things; the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to win, but the loser is full of anger, and may complain in front of his son or husband, leading to a larger-scale war breakout.

Fighting for strength and being competitive in everything is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence. People with great wisdom know that to know the strong and keep the weak, that is, to know the right, strong and masculine, but willing to be in a weak position.

This is the competitive competition of the inferior.

As for the superiors who know that the strong and the weak are: the opposite is the movement of the Tao, and the weak are the use of the Tao.

The true Tao is a cycle of change; the true Tao is reflected in weakness.

In short, the real Tao is changing and moving. Tao works, and the weakest method is used.

Change and movement are the law of the world. Spring, summer, autumn and winter are constantly changing, yin, yang, cold and heat are constantly changing, and everything is changing and reborn.

Therefore, being strong to a certain extent is the starting point of weakness; being weak to a certain extent is the beginning of strength.

When dealing with people, if you are always competitive, you will not be far from failure. Perhaps in the hearts of others, you will lose a lot.

Therefore, people should know how to keep the weak. The more they keep the weak, the more they can carry it; the more they keep the weak, the more they can survive.

Keeping the weak can preserve vitality and accumulate energy.

The weakest thing in the world is water. Anything can change the shape and direction of water. In a circular instrument, it is a round shape, and in a square cup, it is a square shape, which seems to be unintentional and weak.

But once the time is right and the energy is enough to form a flood, nothing can stop it.

In fact, many people who are at a disadvantage do not understand the principle of keeping weak.

When a person is at a disadvantage, if he does not know how to accumulate energy, he is eager to achieve success and blindly becomes bigger, his momentum will often decline and perish early.

During the battle, the swordsman was knocked to the ground by the opponent's heavy punch, and usually lie down until the end of a few seconds before getting up.

Because if you get up immediately, you are often prone to continue to suffer a fatal blow and be defeated directly.

Therefore, martial arts masters know how to keep their weakness at the weakest time, accumulate energy, and then get up and fight back, which can often turn the world around.

So, how to keep the weak?

Great wise people often recognize their shortcomings and perceive potential crises in the future when they are in power; and when they are frustrated, they can persevere, accumulate energy, and wait for opportunities to come.

Deeply versed in keeping with the weak.

Start with small things, keep a low profile when the opponent is strong and accumulates strength, so you can wait for an opportunity to defeat your opponent and achieve success.

People should understand that seeing crises when they are proud and accumulating strength when they are frustrated. They should show weakness appropriately, so that others can have more room to play and make others win more. Understanding the strong and keeping the weak is a great wisdom.

A competitive spirit is actually a vain heart that is causing trouble.

It is a psychological state of human beings. Regardless of ancient and modern times, men, women, young and old, rich and poor, all have self-esteem. If the self-esteem is distorted, it will be vanity.

Vanity is a distorted self-esteem, an excessive expression of self-esteem, a personality defect that pursues false expressions, and an abnormal emotional and psychological state manifested by people in order to obtain honor and attract universal attention.

Vanity is manifested in behavior, mainly blind comparisons, even a lot of praise, over-value others' evaluations, too strong desire for self-expression, strong jealousy, etc.

People with strong vanity have relatively strong dependence, lack of independence, and think they have "deficiencies" in their abilities.

People with vanity have stronger self-esteem than ordinary people. However, due to dependence, they lack self-confidence. Outwardly, they are too strong self-esteem, too sensitive to certain things, caring about others' evaluations of themselves, and inwardly, they are not convinced that they can achieve their wishes through hard work, hoping to get what they want through quick methods.

This kind of dependence is caused by incomplete and incorrect education by parents. It is often caused by parents who also have vanity and dependence without knowing themselves. Generally, parents focus on the development of their children's virtues, but do not know how to cultivate their children's abilities, or their abilities are not very strong.

The desire for vanity and the self-esteem shown in one's appearance, knowledge, role, property or achievements; the desire for praise or praise refers to the psychological state of protecting one's self-esteem in a false way.

There are two manifestations: one is to use any means to make yourself stronger than others. After being stronger than others, you will gain happiness and satisfaction in the gap with others; the other is that when you are limited by conditions and cannot make yourself stronger than others, you will feel torture and pain in the gap with others.

People with strong vanity actually live a very tiring life because they live between extreme self-confidence and extreme inferiority, and there is no middle ground.

"To be honest and suffer with face" is an old saying, which largely summarizes the psychology and behavior of such people.

As some people say, "Vision is hard to say is an evil deed, but all evil deeds are born around vanity and are nothing more than a means to satisfy vanity."

To overcome vanity, you must distinguish the boundaries between self-esteem and vanity, correctly understand your own strengths and weaknesses; you must be an honest person; you must cultivate your own practical qualities.

Some people really want to be respected and appreciated by others, but often cannot get what they want. An important reason is that they are trapped in the misunderstanding of vanity.

Vanity is a mentality that seeks glory and glory on the surface.

People with great vanity often regard fame and fortune as their internal motivation to control their actions, and always care about what others say about themselves.

Once others have a little intention of denying themselves, they think that they have lost their so-called self-esteem and cannot stand it.

Vanity refers to the superficial brilliance, and it is the psychology of pursuing superficial brilliance.

Vanity is an excessive pursuit of honor. It is a deformed reflection of the personal psychology of moral responsibility and a bad psychological quality. Its essence is an emotional reflection of egoism.

Everyone is more or less a little vain. Most men pursue their reputation, status, etc., while women pursue their own clothing and appearance more.

The Supreme Taoist ancestor said: "The rare goods are used to make people govern by sages, which is the belly but not the eyes, so they are removed and taken from them."

A vanity in small respects leads to the decline of morality, and a great deal leads to the abyss of sin.

Especially those who are overly vain always start from a certain personal motivation and pursue a temporary, superficial, false effect, and even commit fraud and deception, completely lose the ability to evaluate their own behavior based on the social value of the behavior. The purpose of their behavior is only to obtain honor and attract universal attention, and to be praised and envied by people around them.
Chapter completed!