The question is, Yao Anling thinks Yao Anyi is more "easy to bully", making it easier to arouse her.
After all, compared to Yao Anyi, Yao Anhong is her brother, who has been in poor health since he was a child. Yao Anling is reluctant to disturb her brother's hard study; and Yao Anxin is the only two girls in the group and the oldest, who is about to have haircuts.
Now, Yao Anling is too embarrassed to always call her cousin who is so much older than her.
The most important thing is that there is a big age difference between the two, and Yao Anling always feels distressed that her cousin cannot understand what she is talking about.
Yao Anxin: "..."
——Are you sure I don’t understand?
——Are you sure it's not because you have too many ideas and I can't keep up with your brain circuits?
The group of kindergarten students greeted Gu Qingling and returned to their respective places in a polite manner.
Yao Anling signaled Yao Anyi to get ready, and she was about to start asking questions. After getting Yao Anyi's response, Yao Anling took out the "questionnaire" and asked the old lady Gu Qingling one question after another.
"It seems that you have discovered it," Gu Qingling said with a smile, "It is indeed the case. Many people think that children do not understand anything. When they grow up, they will understand. But this is not the case. We
It can be assumed that a child is a blank slate. He doesn’t understand anything at the beginning, but it’s not that he will naturally understand it when he grows up. Instead, he understands what he learns.”
"Why do some adults think that this child understands it even though he didn't teach it? In fact, it's not that he didn't teach it, but that he didn't pay attention to where the child learned it."
"A child's learning does not start with teaching him how to read and write, but he has been learning since he was born. He has to learn to breathe, learn to drink milk, learn to eat, and learn to understand the world..."
…
Gu Qingling opened a new door for these children, and she even used Yao's Academy as an analogy.
Obviously there are so many courtyards at home, and she can just invite her husband to her home. Why does she need to set up a special academy and send them to the academy?
There are only four of them in the family. Even if we include the unmarried Master Yao Liu, Miss Yao Qi, and Miss Yao Ba, there are only seven people. There is no need to spend so much money to set up such a separate academy.
But Gu Qingling told them that this was not the case.
Comparing Yao's Academy to a "closed environment", where all their food, drinks, and toiletries are kept, then whether it is their academic status or living habits, they must follow the rules of Yao's Academy. In the long run,
Will they become what Yao's Academy expects and grow into what Yao's Academy expects?
"Don't deny it in a hurry. Think about it carefully. How did you develop the habit of going to bed early and getting up early? Did you develop it in my yard, or did you just stay with your parents at my command?
Just developed it?”
"Did your etiquette and rules develop slowly because you invited your nanny, or were you placed in an environment like Yao's Academy, coupled with the strict requirements of your nanny and your husband?"
"Look at you now, and then look at your appearance before I intervened in your teachings. Compare it carefully. When did you start to change? And what changes happened around you before and after this change?"
"People are one of the factors, and the environment is also very important. The environment I create for you is to make you better and become the person you want to be."
…
The consequence of completing the questionnaire at Old Lady Gu Qingling's place was that I came back with a short essay - a summary of a related thought report.
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Yao Anyi looked at her, a little speechless: Aren't you tired of acting like that every time?
But he didn't dare to say it, so he could only pretend that he didn't know. Then he lowered his head and recalled the old lady's words and wondered if it was like that.
Each of the four of them has undergone great changes after the old lady intervened.
Among them, he himself, because of the old lady, was finally able to be a boy openly. He went to school and after school with his cousin Yao Anhong, did homework and played sports together (except that their sports were boxing, while the girl's was boxing.
It’s just a five-animal show).
As a girl, in order to cover up her secret, she had to keep her head down, for fear that others would see her secret.
In the eyes of others, he became "ugly and weak", which was what Yao Anling scolded him for the most - a boy, like a sissy, really annoying.
But what did the old lady say at that time?
The old lady specially called Yao Anling to her side and said, "Sister Ling, do you know why Brother Yi became like that?"
"How do I know why?"
"Because he was raised as a girl since he was a child. He had to learn the rules of a girl and do what a girl should do. If he didn't do it well, he would be punished. Anyone who would be suspected of being a boy
You can do things that he can't."
…
This doesn't work, that doesn't work. Yao Anyi, who was forcibly restrained, lost his vitality and only dared to do things that were allowed by others. Even so, he still had to be frightened, fearing that his secret would be discovered.
At that time, the old lady just gave a "specific example" to "educate" Yao Anling, but now that she thinks about it, Yao Anyi seems to understand why the old lady said that now.
Because the old lady really felt that it was not his fault that he looked like that, it was just because he was put into an "illusion" growth environment and grew up according to a wrong mold, so he grew up like that.
A strange look that everyone hates.
Several people returned to their dedicated study room. Yao Anling asked Yao Anyi for the recorded questionnaire, and read the questions one by one.
While reading, she also confirmed with everyone how the old lady explained it at that time.
After all, the answers on the questionnaire were very simple, but the old lady also gave detailed explanations behind the answers. Yao Anyi didn't have time to write them down, so everyone could only remember them in their heads.
The reason why we discuss it as soon as the investigation comes back is because we are afraid that once this time passes, everyone will not remember clearly.
"Do you think what the old lady said is true? Does the environment really have such a big impact on a person?" Yao Anling tilted her head, not really understanding this question.
Yao Anyi said weakly: "I think... it should be true."
With everyone's eyes on him, he felt a little frightened when he spoke, but he still mustered up the courage to finish what he wanted to say.
"Don't you know it just by looking at me?"
"I...I am the best example."
"I'm a boy, but... I was raised as a girl, so I'm... a little weird."
