Ning Youguang knew that it took Xia Fanxing a lot of courage to take this step.
When a person attributes the source of his misfortune to other people, it certainly makes him feel justified.
But those who have the courage to face their own problems are true warriors.
From the first time he walked into her office with doubts to today, Xia Fanxing finally began to see the part he needed to bear in the shadow of childhood and other issues.
He is working very hard to grow, and the results are gratifying.
"Shall we talk about this today? I think you have told me everything about you in detail. I have a better understanding of you, and I hope you feel this way yourself." Ning Youguang said.
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"Yes, I felt like I was sorting myself out by telling these things today." Xia Fanxing felt happy for a moment.
Telling Teacher Ning about his past, he gained more than he thought.
He began to be grateful to his uncle for allowing him to get to know Teacher Ning, so that he could have a channel to face himself honestly and talk to himself without fear of being laughed at or excluded.
Even if something is ridiculous, it will be a normal thing for her.
He likes the feeling of being understood by her.
He is neither a good person nor a bad person, just himself, but even for such an ordinary and ordinary self, Teacher Ning also gave him great patience and interest to understand his heart.
——All this made him feel respected like never before.
The famous writer Lu Yao said in "The Ordinary World": "People would rather care about the eating, drinking and sleeping habits of a bad actor than the turbulent inner world of an ordinary person."
Fortunately, there are still Teacher Ning and countless people like Teacher Ning in this world.
Let people like him, who are full of pain in their hearts, be seen, understood, treated, and live their own lives again.
He felt that he had now gained the ability to recall the past without condemning himself.
He can find connections between events and look at some problems objectively without imposing his own subjective consciousness.
Slowly, he began to understand why certain things happened the way they did and what impact it would have.
He constantly reflects on his life journey, and learns and comprehends through reflection.
He began to be able to look at himself and everything around him from a strategic and comprehensive perspective. He found that the methods he learned from Teacher Ning were very helpful to him.
The earth is a playground and everyone is an actor.
He used to be a puppet, but now he has his own "exclusive script".
He has the right to choose.
In this huge playground, he can choose his role. He can play whatever he wants to play, and he can't play whatever he doesn't want to play.
Even, he doesn't have a script, he can improvise.
This feeling made him feel unprecedentedly relaxed.
He suddenly realized that maybe he had unconsciously directed many "tragedies", but he didn't know it. It was different now.
If he does not define his life, if he does not insert himself into "tragedy", his life will actually be full of unknowns.
Thinking about it this way, he couldn't help but feel excited and excited.
Think about it:
——"You originally thought you had only one way to reach the end of your life, but now you are suddenly told that you actually have countless roads and countless ways to get there. Do you feel that your life has suddenly become brighter?"
"Since there are so many paths he can choose, he can completely respect his heart and choose the path he wants to take the most."
"He wants to face himself sincerely."
"Break the shackles of living in other people's value labels in the past and let yourself live more authentically."
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After coming out of the National University of Science and Technology, Xia Fanxing put his hands in his pockets and stepped on the golden leaves to go home.
He felt that everything around him was new——
The wind in late autumn is very cool, the air is very fresh, and the way the leaves fall and are blown up by the wind is also beautiful.
Even the child rolling around in front of the small supermarket next to him to let his mother buy candy looks very cute.
He suddenly felt many emotions, and these emotions made him very emotional.
Hot tears fell from the corners of his eyes.
He began to learn to open his eyes and see the world.
This world is not beautiful, but it is real.
If the heart were softer, it would still look a little bit cute.
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"Go up a little, it's crooked, and go down a little to the right." Ming Jinxin stood at home and directed Ning Youguang to hang the paintings, "Okay, okay, I'll take a photo to show you the overall feeling.
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Ning Youguang held the painting and waited for a while.
Ming Jinxin stretched out the phone in front of her, "Look at this painting. How about hanging it here?"
It was a painting by a new generation artist that she bought from an auction house last time. She knew a little about art, but not as well as her daughter.
Therefore, I caught her at home today and asked her to help me come up with ideas on where to hang the painting.
"It's good, but the shelf below needs to be moved." Ning Youguang said while standing on the chair.
"Okay." Ming Jinxin took back her phone, "I'll let the workers remove the shelf later. Come down." She stretched out her hand.
Ning Youguang held her shoulders and jumped out of the chair.
After Ming Jinxin called for workers to remove the lower shelf.
The two stood in front of the screen and looked at it quietly for a while.
"Although this painting is simple, it actually looks pretty good after looking at it for a long time, right?" Ming Jinxin asked.
"It matches the style of the house very well." Ning Youguang said.
Ming Jinxin was happy.
The two moved to the living room.
"Why are you leaving today this afternoon and not having dinner at home?" Ming Jinxin handed a plate of blueberries to Ning Youguang.
"I'm going to see the progress of the decoration with Wangyue this afternoon." Ning Youguang picked up a few blueberries and stuffed them into his mouth.
"Look at the progress of the decoration?" Ming Jinxin was stunned.
"That's right." Ning Youguang said, "Didn't Wangyue buy two houses before? Now they are being renovated. This afternoon he asked me to go take a look at them with him."
"So fast?" Ming Jinxin's mood was quite complicated.
"Is it fast?" Ning Youguang said, "Not too fast, it's been several months."
Ming Jinxin picked up her fork and poked at the star fruits on the other fruit plate in front of her. She ate absentmindedly, but found that her teeth hurt from the soreness.
"So sour."
She couldn't eat the remaining half piece and threw it directly into the trash can nearby.
"Eat strawberries, strawberries are very sweet." Ning Youguang gave her a juicy strawberry.
Ming Jinxin took a bite and said, "It's quite sweet."
Ning Youguang gave her another one, "How is my dad doing lately?"
"What can he do? He's busy. He's on the set every day. I haven't seen him in a month or two." Ming Jinxin said. 1314