Xia Youqing was still in a state of emotion. He glanced at Shi Wangyue and said nothing.
"Auntie, would you like some tea?" Shi Wangyue poured pure water into the kettle.
"No more drinking." Xia Youqing said with a headache, "If you are hungry, eat first and stop working."
"I'll boil the water and go over to eat." Shi Wangyue looked polite and elegant.
Xie Baosheng walked to Ning Youguang and said with a smile, "You went out for a while when you were young, and you bought so many delicious things?"
"I didn't buy anything. I just packed a few dishes. I don't know if they suit my uncle and aunt's taste." Shi Wangyue pressed the boil button of the hot water and walked over.
"I'm not picky about food." Xie Baosheng worried about his stomach, "I can eat whatever I have."
After saying that, he called Xie Yizun, "Would you like to eat, one by one?"
He actually heard what his son shouted outside just now.
Pretend you didn't hear it.
It’s just a joke!
"Don't eat." Xie Yizun glared at his mother sitting opposite him.
"Forget it if you don't want to eat it." Xia Youqing said, "Thank you for eating it yourself."
Xie Baosheng picked up his chopsticks and said, "Then I'll eat first. I haven't eaten at noon and I'm hungry."
Ning Youguang reminded from the side, "Uncle and aunt, we will go to the room for a meeting in thirty minutes."
Xie Baosheng responded, "That's great."
After Shi Wangyue boiled the water, she made a pot of tea. Regardless of whether Xia Youqing drank it or not, she poured the first cup for her.
…
Half an hour later, in the room.
"I ran away from home this time, which is similar to the rebellion of adolescence. I deliberately opposed you and deliberately angered you." Ning Youguang sat on the chair and said to Xia Youqing and Xie Baosheng who were sitting opposite on the sofa, "He is so
The motivation for this kind of behavior is, 'You are not good to me, I understand, this is your problem', he wants to use this to achieve his own goal, and he hopes that you will respect him and understand him more."
Xia Youqing and Xie Baosheng both had a very headache.
"How should I respect him?" Xia Youqing said, "How should I understand him? He is only in eighth grade and he doesn't want to go to school. How should I respect him?"
"What can I do if I don't go to school?" Xie Baosheng said anxiously beside him.
"He has already developed a repulsion towards going to school. It's simply not feasible for you to force him to go to school now." Ning Youguang said calmly.
"What should I do if it doesn't work?" Xia Youqing said, "Can you help me provide psychological counseling to your brother?"
"Without his initiative, I would not provide him with psychological counseling." Ning Youguang refused.
"Can't you just do it quietly and don't tell him?" Xia Youqing suggested.
"No." Ning Youguang said, "You are a parent-child relationship, he and I are not. I can't get involved among you and mess up the boundaries of the family. If the problem is not solved, more problems will arise.
.”
"Do you have any good suggestions?" Xie Baosheng asked as if asking for advice.
"My suggestion is that you need to change the way you get along with Yiyi." Ning Youguang said.
"How to change it? Are there any problems with our current model?" Xie Baosheng.
"Are you still continuing the pattern of 'I say and you listen', 'I hit you and you' and 'I order you to execute' that you used when you were young?" Ning Youguang asked.
"He is still a child. We don't need to teach him. Is there any other way?" Xia Youqing was extremely worried.
"It was feasible for you to use this method for a while, but now he has reached puberty." Ning Youguang was a little speechless, "Have you ever understood what adolescent boys need? What he needs now is to share power with you.
, sitting on an equal footing with you, at this time, you must be able to lean down and hear his voice."
"Listen to his voice?" Xia Youqing took a deep breath, "His voice is that he doesn't want to go to school, he wants to be a trainee, he wants to be a star."
Ning Youguang nodded, "Yes, Yiyi also told me that his dream is to be a star."
"Why did he become a star when he was only thirteen years old? Does he think going to the entertainment industry is just playing house? Is it that fun?" Xia Youqing said angrily.
"I don't think there's anything wrong with my dream being to be a star." Ning Youguang said, "Isn't it the same for you?"
Xia Youqing paused, "Can this be the same? I decided to be a star only after I entered high school, and I went to the best film school. He didn't go to school when he was in junior high school. If it were up to him, he would
Don’t talk about getting into the best art school in the future. Even if you barely get into it, you’ll be laughed at as illiterate and low-educated if you don’t get it!”
"These are all things you can have a good discussion with him." Ning Youguang said, "It's not unreasonable. Moreover, dreams have nothing to do with age, and there is no right or wrong about interests, only whether you like it or not. When I was in kindergarten
I decided to become a psychiatrist in the future."
Xia Youqing sighed, "You are different from him. You have been good since you were a child and have good academic performance. Now you have realized your dream and done better than everyone else. That's why you call it youthful determination! What is he?
?He doesn’t study hard every day, and he is known to be naughty and mischievous in school. He said he wanted to be a star, maybe just for fun."
"This is your discrimination." Ning Youguang stared at Xia Youqing seriously, "You are prejudiced against him."
"Why am I biased?" Xia Youqing said, "What I said is all true. You don't even know how many complaint calls I receive from teachers at his school every week. You never used me when you were a child.
Worrying."
"Does not being obedient to me mean that he has to bear your prejudice?" Ning Youguang asked sharply, "Everyone is a unique flower. Parents should cultivate and encourage their children to learn to be loyal to their inner choices. I
"Yiyi's talent is to study, so I am willing to study hard. What you do is to support my study. Yiyi's talent is to play the piano and learn music. Why can't you support him to spend more time and energy in these aspects?"
"You yourself are in the art profession. Why do you have to be a good student first? What is a good student? What is the standard for a good student? It is to be admitted to a key high school and to be a good student.
Art school? Why wouldn’t a student who wants to be true to his inner dreams be a good student?”
Ning Youguang asked a series of questions, which made Xia Youqing a little stunned.
"I believe there will be outstanding people in every field in the future. Supporting Yiyi's interests is what you, as parents, need to do. Moreover, you must abandon those illogical prejudices and give Yiyi the right to draw his own blueprint.
"
"According to you, I can only leave him alone?" Xia Youqing frowned, "What is the difference between this and doting on a child?"
"Parents need to support their children's interests, which does not mean they are indulgent and pampering," Ning Youguang said.
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