"I suggest that you give him enough time and space to grow, and grasp the importance of his growth. This is the responsibility and mission of a parent." Ning Youguang looked at Xia Youqing and said, "A mother has a dream for her child.
Support is the driving force for children to succeed, which is in line with psychologist Skinner's reinforcement learning theory.
——The so-called reinforcement refers to the consequences of affirming or denying a behavior, including rewards or punishments, which will determine, at least to a certain extent, whether this behavior will be repeated in the future. Reinforcement can be classified according to the nature and purpose of reinforcement.
Divided into positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement.
Positive reinforcement means that if a certain behavior brings pleasure and satisfaction to the actor, such as giving food, money, praise and care, etc., the actor will tend to repeat the behavior;
Negative reinforcement means that if a certain behavior can reduce and eliminate the unpleasantness and disgust of the actor, such as reducing noise, cold, heat, clicks and scolding, etc., the actor will also tend to repeat the behavior."
"If you support Yiyi's dream, it will be a positive reinforcement for him.
This kind of positive reinforcement acts on his dreams, which can enhance his self-confidence and make him more willing to realize his dreams. At the same time, it also makes him more able to resist the difficulties and obstacles caused by chasing his dreams, so that he can
Stay on the road to realizing your dreams.”
"For Yiyi, your unconditional support and encouragement are the most solid backing, because he knows that even if he fails, he will have your support, so that he can give it a try for his dream. If you blindly deny Yiyi, he will only
Destroying his self-confidence will, on the contrary, increase his self-confidence."
Both Xie Baosheng and Xia Youqing know the importance of self-confidence for children.
"It's not that I don't support him in realizing his dream." Xia Youqing argued, "I just hope he can study hard now. When he grows up and he wants to be a star, will I still not support him? I'm just
Help him chart a better path."
"I'm sorry, I personally think that your so-called plan for Yiyi is not a plan, but a kind of coercion. It is a very cruel way of stuffing him into a jar and letting him grow according to your requirements. Although you are right
He is good, but he is not given freedom." Ning Youguang said, "Think about it from your perspective, if someone supervises you and prevents you from doing what you want to do in the name of your own good, how would you feel?
Sample?"
Her daughter's words were so sharp that Xia Youqing didn't dare to look at her face.
After a long while, she asked feebly, "Then what do you think I should do now?"
"What you need to do now is do your best to relieve his stress and emotions so that he can maintain his enthusiasm for life and the future." Ning Youguang said.
"How can I do this?" Xia Youqing felt it was too difficult, "I don't even know how to ease my own emotions."
"I'll come, I'll come." Xie Baosheng comforted his wife and said.
"Come on -" Xia Youqing complained, "What's the use of fishing for three days and drying the nets for two days?"
Xie Baosheng said, "Am I always on business trips and busy?"
In fact, he also felt deeply guilty about his younger son's education.
That's why I usually dote on him.
In the past, when his children were young, he always thought that it would not be too late to take care of them later when he had time. He waited and waited until his son reached puberty, and when the parent-child relationship problems at home became serious enough that his son would run away from home.
Yesterday, when he heard that his son was missing, he immediately regretted it!
Deep regret.
At that moment, he suddenly felt that he was busy talking about business and making money every day, but in fact it didn't seem to mean much compared to his children.
He thought that if something happened to his son, he would definitely not be able to forgive himself, even if it cost him everything to get his son back.
Later, I heard from my wife that her son ran away from home to find his sister in the capital.
He almost burst into tears of gratitude on the spot.
fortunately……
Fortunately, I still have a daughter who my son can trust.
Otherwise, he really doesn't know what to do.
Therefore, after seeing his son today, he couldn't get angry at all. He felt that it was a great blessing that he could still stay in front of him.
After thinking about it, he gritted his teeth and made a decision.
"Honey, that's it. Don't you always dislike me for being too busy at work and not caring about family? But the company is so big, with thousands of people waiting to eat, and as the boss, I can't just ignore them..."
Xia Youqing looked at him, "Just say what you want to say."
"Look...can I call Shengxing back to the headquarters to help me?" Xie Baosheng asked cautiously, "When he comes back, let him go on all the business trips in the future, so that I can stay at home with you."
Xie Shengxing is the only son of Xie Baosheng and his ex-wife.
After studying abroad, I never came back.
Xia Youqing was stunned for a moment and then said angrily, "Of course, there's nothing wrong with that. Sheng Ying is capable and he's your son. As long as he wants, he can come to your company at any time."
Xie Baosheng breathed a sigh of relief and smiled naively, "I haven't asked him yet, but it would be best if you could support me."
"What should I not support?" Xia Youqing complained, "We are going to be stars one by one, how can we manage the company in the future? What's more, do you think he is the material to run the company? Besides,...
If I want to inherit your mantle, I have to be able to compete with his brother, otherwise, if I don't have that diamond, I won't be able to stop Porcelain from living."
What she didn't say was——
"Thank you, you have a company, I'm not short of money either."
"My son can still live a good life without your family property!"
Xie Baosheng was so moved by Xia Youqing's words that his eyes turned red.
He hugged her tightly and said, "Honey, thank you."
Ning Youguang raised his lips slightly.
Destiny has come here again in a roundabout way.
There are similarities and differences.
The same thing is that Xie Shengxing will return to China to inherit Uncle Xie's company.
The difference is that because of the support of his parents, Yiyi can find his goals in life and the direction of his future efforts early, and will not become a troublesome second generation ancestor and demon king due to serious problems such as doting and lack of love.
…
After getting his wife, Xie Baosheng said earnestly, "Yes, can you teach me some education methods?"
"Of course." Ning Youguang nodded, "But this is not easy to do, and the results cannot be seen in a short time."
"I understand, I understand." Xie Baosheng said, "Don't worry, I will work hard to do it well."
Then, he rubbed his hands again and said, "I may have to trouble you more often in the future to help and give advice."
"This is not a problem." Ning Youguang said, "The most important thing is that you can see the problem and are willing to correct it and pay attention to the family education issue." 1314
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Well, thank you for your support, little darlings. I love you.