"The investment resources in the primary market have become scarce, so we can only comply with their wishes and break the original intention and enter the secondary market." Yun Zewu added with a frown.
But the secondary market is cruel, and there are enemies waiting to rip them off with a smile on their faces everywhere.
They themselves are hunters, but they may also become the prey of their prey.
…
Taking advantage of the busy work to come to an end, Wang Yue happened to be on a business trip.
Ning Youguang accepted Gu Xi's invitation and came out for afternoon tea.
In winter, the weather is sunny.
The two met in Langyuan Park next to SJS. There is a Jimu Cafe here.
This is a cafe that Gu Xi has collected for a long time.
"Thanks to you, I can finally check in at Langyuan Park and Jimu Cafe." Gu Xi, wearing a khaki cashmere coat, sat in the passenger seat of Ning Youguang's car.
My mood was extremely good.
"Thank you, you can come out for afternoon tea." Ning Youguang smiled softly.
The drunken sunlight in the afternoon fell on the two of them through the car window, making them feel warm.
"No, the fact that you were able to make an appointment for afternoon tea this time was purely a blessing that the scholar was on a business trip." Gu Xi said with a grateful expression, "Writer Ning is a very busy man and has to work 18 hours a day, so it is too difficult to make an appointment.
"
This year, she made numerous appointments with Ning Youguang, but she failed to make an appointment.
Every time she asks her out on an appointment, her first question is, "Do you have anything important to do?"
As a result, Gu Xi didn't dare to talk to her about anything important.
Sometimes, if she has something to do, I'll ask her to meet her, have a meal or something.
Ning Youguang could basically reach an agreement with her via video call and not meet her in person.
After a few times, Gu Xi could not help but feel depressed to the point where he wondered if he was really not motivated enough.
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "My work this year has come to an end. I have been relatively free recently. I don't have a business trip at Wangyue. If you ask me, I will come out."
Gu Xi glanced at her and said, "Are you telling the truth?"
Ning Youguang nodded gently.
Gu Xi immediately said, "Then let's go eat hot pot next weekend."
Ning Youguang thought for a while and said, "Not next week."
Gu Xi immediately rolled his eyes, "Yeah, right, huh!"
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Wang Yue will just come back next weekend. I have to help him clean up his house."
Gu Xi sighed, "Teacher Ning is handsome, talented, gentle and virtuous. He is loved by such a good woman. The God of Study must be the man who saved the galaxy in his previous life."
Ning Youguang looked helpless, "How can I be so virtuous? He has been gone for more than a week. If I don't help him clean up here, how can he rest at night?"
"Hey, it's a nice house, but you can't sleep after being there for more than a week?" Gu Xi scolded her.
Ning Youguang shook his head, "Looking at the moon has mysophobia."
Gu Xi clicked his tongue and said, "You are so good to him."
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "He is also very good to me."
Seeing this, Gu Xi couldn't help but marveled, "I'm really curious as to why the two of you have been together for so long, lived together, and been in a long-distance relationship, and it's as good as just falling in love. It's hard to find in this world.
"There is no long-distance relationship." Ning Youguang defended.
"Oh, that's about it." Gu Xi waved his hand, "Anyway, there is no one else around you, and you keep in touch every day when you go abroad. This is no different from falling in love."
"I didn't." Ning Youguang blushed.
Seeing this, Gu Xi smiled even more proudly, "You don't have it, can you guarantee that the God of Learning doesn't have it either?"
"..." Ning Youguang.
Gu Xi laughed loudly, "You can't guarantee it, so, are my words wrong?"
Ning Youguang had nothing to say and simply concentrated on driving.
Gu Xi, however, persisted, "Let me just say that you have already entered the state of an old married couple. When I was in high school, I could see that Xueshen can get along well with each other."
…
Soon, the two of them had a few cups of coffee.
This cafe is located in Langyuan. It is a cafe with a simple industrial style design in gray and white tones.
As soon as the two entered the door, they found that it was decorated with many fresh and elegant flowers.
The cafe was almost full. Fortunately, not long after they entered, the customers at the table by the window were ready to pay and leave, so a seat with a good view was opened for them.
After the two sat down, they became even happier.
Because not only is the decoration of this cafe beautiful, the drinks and desserts on the menu also look particularly exquisite.
In winter, every drink and dessert is paired with flowers.
This good-looking appearance instantly increased the two's favorable impression of the store by tens of thousands of points.
Let me ask, which girl doesn’t like flowers?!
What's more, in this cold and depressing winter capital city.
Soon, Ning Youguang's Shanshui and Solar Terms and Gu Ximing's Third Lane came up.
This is three desserts. Ning Youguang's "Shanshui" is a small mountain-shaped dessert made of pitaya puree, cream and chocolate.
There's something cute about being handsome.
"solar season" is a matcha cake in the shape of two emerald green bamboos. The bamboo leaves decorated with green chocolate dots on the two cakes make the overall look more fresh and elegant.
Gu Xi's "three touches" are a pink-purple cake with three pink-purple daisies on it, which looks delicate and beautiful.
As soon as the three snacks were served, the two of them took out their mobile phones and couldn't stop taking pictures.
In addition, at this time, the sunlight from the window was particularly bright, and the snacks that fell on the three-point dessert were even more eye-catching.
Soon, the drinks they ordered arrived.
Gu Xi asked for two cold drink cups with fresh flowers. Not surprisingly, they were very good-looking, one was pink and the other was lemon yellow.
The pink cold drink cup is decorated with pink baby's breath, pink carnations, pink-purple daisies, and a few green leaves.
The lemon yellow cold drink cup is decorated with pink conger, pink-purple daisies, pink baby's breath and green leaves.
"It looks so good that I can't bear to eat it." Gu Xi's eyes were full of amazement.
Ning Youguang picked up the teapot and poured a cup of Darjeeling black tea for each of them.
"We'll come back next time if you like it." Ning Youguang also liked these exquisite snacks and drinks.
The owner of this cafe really knows how to please girls.
"Yeah." Gu Xi nodded excitedly, "We'll come next week."
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "It's nothing special, it should be fine."
Gu Xi ignored it, "I'll take it as your promise!"
She said, "Let's not have lunch then, come over and have more snacks."
Anyway, she just checked it out. The average price per person in this cafe is no more than 100, which is very cost-effective!
"Okay." Ning Youguang nodded.
…
After the two of them finished their afternoon tea, Gu Xi suggested finding a place to have dinner.
"I don't care, anyway, I don't want to go home yet, and I don't want to be separated from you."
"Okay, let's go down the mountain and see where there is delicious food." Ning Youguang happened to be fine, so naturally he had nothing to say no to.
Then, she suggested, "You take the flower basket home to make decorations."
"Don't you say that you can't live without flowers? You can take it back." Gu Xi declined with a smile.
"There are many flowers in my house." Ning Youguang said, "Have you forgotten that my house has a small garden?"
Gu Xi, who was caught off guard and took a mouthful of lemon, could no longer refuse. He picked up the pink flower basket that the two of them had placed on the table, "I just bought two new vases."
…
At dinner time, the two of them drove around the streets and chose a Korean barbecue restaurant with a good reputation.
It was a smoky winter night.
When eating barbecue, it is indispensable to pair it with sake.
It's a pity that Ning Youguang is an alcoholic.
Therefore, the bottle of sake ordered by Gu Xi could only be drunk by her alone.
Pair barbecue with wine, and you can have a good time even if you are alone.
She drank one cup after another of the savory roasted pork belly, roasted beef, and grilled prawns, without caring about her image or her own drinking capacity.
Ning Youguang and Gu Xi have been old classmates for many years, and Ning Youguang knows very well that this guy has a habit of talking when he drinks.
Sure enough, after a few glasses of sake.
Gu Xi's words quickly opened the clip——
"Being with you makes me really happy."
She said, "In front of you, I can be completely myself. I can talk, dance, sing, and eat whatever I want."
"The pork belly is ready." She first picked up the serving chopsticks and gave Ning Youguang a piece of the best grilled pork belly, and then took a piece for herself. "We have different personalities, and we are both cute and cute."
Ning Youguang smiled and peeled a freshly grilled prawn for her, "Old friend, of course."
"There will always be ups and downs in a person's life, there will be triumphs and frustrations, happiness and pain, hope and disappointment. The most important thing is that we can all share these together." Gu Xi picked up the plum blossom cup and took a sip of sake, "Because
You understand me and I understand you."
She said, "With you, I don't have to worry about being laughed at, or being rumored or looked down upon. We are so real and imperfect, we tolerate each other, understand each other, support each other and cheer each other up."
Ning Youguang gently helped her fill up the wine glass.
Gu Xi picked up the wine glass with a smile, "May our friendship last forever."
Ning Youguang picked up his tea cup and said, "May our friendship last forever."
Gu Xi was moved as he spoke, "You know, it's because I have friends like you by my side that I feel that I can be single and not have a lover. It feels good to have you around."
There were tears in the corners of her eyes, "When I'm sad now, the person I want to contact most may not be a man, but I can't help but be a friend."
"Look, how nice it is to eat and drink together like we are now. After we are full and full, we wake up the next day and see the sunshine outside the window. It is another day of vitality. Food, wine and friends can heal any sadness.
It can make me forget the momentary unhappiness.”
Ning Youguang couldn't help but sigh after what Gu Xi said, "It's so fast, it feels like we have known each other for more than ten years."
"Yes, we have been old friends for more than ten years." Gu Xi's eyes widened slightly.
Then, she rolled up her sleeves, picked up her chopsticks and took a piece of beef from the pot to herself and Ning Youguang respectively, "In more than ten years, the little fairy has turned into a big fairy, and I have also changed from classmate Gu to Gu.
total."
"Thank you, Mr. Gu." Ning Youguang picked up the tea cup.
This year, she worked hard and became the most popular best-selling author of the year.
Gu Xi also worked hard to get himself promoted.
She has gone from an ordinary employee of a large company to a manager who has gradually become prominent in the industry.
"Thank you, Professor Ning." Gu Xi said with a bright smile on his face, "However, what remains the same is that we are always here, and we can chat casually without fear of being regarded as crazy..."
Ning Youguang smiled gently, "You're right."
Gu Xi burped from the wine - "It doesn't matter if you are regarded as a lunatic. Anyway, my good friend is a doctor and he has many means to cure me, hahahahahaha."
Through the hazy heat, the smile on Ning Youguang's face deepened.
As Gu Xi drank more and more, her words became louder and louder, "I am especially grateful to you from Jincheng to Jingcheng. You have always encouraged me and made me believe that I can do it. No matter what happens in the future, even if I don't have a boyfriend now,
I feel very happy too.”
When girls are with girls, especially when one of them is single, the topic inevitably turns to men.
"I recently met a boy. Can you help me analyze whether he is interested in me?" Gu Xi put down his chopsticks.
"Okay." Ning Youguang also became a little interested.
"When we first met, he asked me what kind of perfume I was wearing. After I answered, he nodded and smiled and said, it smells good." Gu Xi organized his words a little and said, "The second time, I changed it.
A perfume with a stronger smell, he didn’t ask again. I thought he was interested in my perfume before, but after the second time, I felt like he wasn’t.”
Ning Youguang nodded, "Is there more?"
"Also, he likes to praise me very much and will look into my eyes when he talks to me." Gu Xi said, "One time he looked into my eyes and asked me, 'Your eyes are so beautiful.' I said, '
Really?" He nodded again without saying anything, so I didn't even know what he meant by asking."
Ning Youguang asked back, "Besides, when he was talking to you, would he pat you on the shoulder, back, or elbow you from time to time to close the distance between you two?"
Gu Xi looked surprised and said, "How did you know?!"
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Congratulations, you have met a master of flirting with girls!"
"Ah?!" Gu Xi was very surprised, "How do you say that?"
"From asking about your perfume when we first met, to having physical contact with you later, it all shows that he wants to establish a personal connection with you, and is involuntarily launching a flirtation offensive with you, trying to win your favor. This is for a master.
, be careful."
Gu Xi froze, "Fortunately I told you. Otherwise, I might have been tempted."
After all, the other person is good-looking and personable.
"When a seducer master does these things, it doesn't mean that he likes you at all. It's just to win your favor."
Ning Youguang said seriously, "Remember! When you meet such a man, don't fall in love too quickly because of his tricks. You will definitely lose more than you gain!"
She carefully reminded Gu Xi, "The vast majority of men who do this are scumbags and are definitely not a qualified love partner. From the first time he talks to you, he has no interest in what perfume you use."
, asking you is just a trick!"
She said, "A simple girl like you who is new to the world is the easiest to be tempted, you know?"
Gu Xi was so frightened that he quickly nodded, "I'll block him now!"
…
After sending the drunk Gu Xi home safely, it was already ten o'clock in the night when Ning Youguang returned to the National University of Science and Technology.
It happens to be morning in the United States.
After she finished taking a shower and lying on the bed looking at her phone, she realized that Shi Wangyue had sent her several messages in succession asking if she had received WeChat messages when she got to school.
[Just finished taking a shower.]
Then, she sent the photos taken during today's afternoon tea to Shi Wangyue.
[The sunshine is really nice.] The other party responded instantly.
[Yes, the weather is nice today.]
Ning Youguang said, "Their food is good-looking and delicious, let's go together next time."
Shi Wangyue replied with a smile, [Thank you, Teacher Ning.]
Ning Youguang replied with a cute emoticon and then said——
[I also have to thank Mr. Shi for working so hard so that I can enjoy such a wonderful afternoon tea with peace of mind.]
Far away at the conference table in Boston, everyone saw the boss who had been expressionless suddenly curling up his lips and smiling.
[WeChat transfer￥131400]
Ning Youguang readily accepted the WeChat transfer sent by Shi Wangyue and replied:
[Gu Xi also told me today that high-end boyfriends often appear atm.]
…
The next day was another sunny day.
Ning Youguang got up early in the morning and made breakfast for himself, avocado, shrimp and baguette.
A total of four pieces were made. She tasted one piece and found it very delicious, so she took a picture and sent it to Shi Wangyue.
[picture]
[This avocado and shrimp with baguette is so delicious! You made it before, I tried it today and found it to be pretty good.]
Just after dinner, I looked at the moon and replied instantly——
[Looks good!]
[I'll cook it for you next time.] Ning Youguang was very happy that he could recreate the child's signature delicacy in no time.
[good.]
In the garden of the Boston Hotel, Shi Wangyue was walking and stopped at the garden path to play with her mobile phone.
Yun Zewu could only wait with his hands folded across his chest, speechless.
After Ning Youguang finished his breakfast, he opened the door to the backyard and saw the sun shining on the plants in the yard, casting a shining light on the plants in the early morning.
She felt that everything she saw before her was so beautiful that she couldn't wait to take pictures and share them with Shi Wangyue.
[picture]
[picture]
[A plant that has not been exposed to the sun in winter seems to be desperately carrying out photosynthesis and growing.]
Shi Wangyue just returned to the hotel room when she received these WeChat messages.
Across the screen, he could feel his sister's happiness, and the corners of his mouth raised unconsciously:
[Many times, nature can heal everything, sunlight, plants and water. In front of nature, human beings are so insignificant.]
Ning Youguang quickly replied:
[Our lives are as countless as dust in the latitude of hundreds of millions of years. Those trivial things in the world that torment us are actually nothing as long as we are alive.]
"Are you taking a bath or should I take a bath?" Yun Zewu came out of the room and saw Shi Wangyue sitting on the sofa playing with her mobile phone again. She was speechless.
"You wash it." Shi Wangyue was addicted to his mobile phone without raising his head.
Yun Zewu shook his head and warned, "I take a shower very quickly, you'd better get ready quickly. We'll be going out again in half an hour."
"I know." Shi Wangyue replied.
…
It’s the fourth day of Wangyue’s business trip.
Ning Youguang received a special guest in her office, a reader of her new book.
A girl with good looks, well-proportioned body and well-proportioned clothes.
The girl burst into tears as soon as she saw Ning Youguang, "Teacher Ning, can I hug you?"
Ning Youguang smiled tenderly and hugged the girl, "Nice to meet you."
"Thank you, Teacher Ning." The girl's voice was filled with tears, "Thank you for being willing to accept my consultation."
Ning Youguang guided the girl to sit down on the chair, "I also want to thank you for your love and trust."
The girl sat down on the chair and took the warm water from Ning Youguang, "Teacher Ning is even more beautiful than what I saw in the video."
She looked at Ning Youguang's almond-shaped eyes, full of surprise.
"Thank you, you are beautiful too." Ning Youguang sat down on the chair opposite her.
The girl lowered her head in embarrassment, "My beauty is all made up of makeup."
Ning Youguang smiled gently and said nothing.
She was waiting for the girl to tell her the real purpose of coming to find her.
The girl also knew that it was not easy for her to meet Teacher Ning.
After taking a few sips of water, she decided not to waste her time and quickly opened up her desire to talk——
"...I have been dissatisfied with myself since I was a child. I always thought that with my personality, it was impossible to live a good life, have a harmonious family, and have a husband who loves me very much. I also felt that it was impossible for me to
I will marry a rich man. I always imagine that I can earn a lot of money, but every time I earn a little more money, I can't help but spend it crazily, and then fall into the dilemma of having no money.
.
I don’t dare to face my colleagues and friends without makeup, and I don’t dare to tell them about my family of origin. I don’t dare to tell them that my family was very poor when I was growing up, my parents are both farmers, and I don’t know a lot of Chinese characters.
I don't even dare to show off my parents' appearance in the circle of friends. I think if their dark faces and slovenly appearance are seen by others, others will immediately be able to tell from their vulgar appearance and rough appearance that my family is very poor.
They look down on me even more and feel that I am not good enough.
Sometimes, I still hate myself. I feel that I am fat and short, my skin is not white enough, my face is not pretty enough, and my education is not high enough.
When I was in high school, I always fantasized that if I could successfully lose weight in college and lose 80 pounds, I would become very beautiful.
But when I got to college, I found that I was not as good as I was in high school.
In high school, my weight was 98. In my freshman year, my weight increased to 108.
When I was little, I thought I was pretty good-looking. When I got to college, I found that there were many girls around me who were prettier than me. They were all very well dressed and good at makeup. I didn’t know any of these things. So in college, I didn’t live up to my expectations.
It became so dazzling.
I am still very ordinary, very ordinary. Not many boys like me, and my grades are not good. I will never be the most shining one among the crowd.
So, I worked crazy part-time jobs in college and worked hard to make money.
When I graduated from college, I started plastic surgery to lose weight, and then came to the capital from my hometown."
The girl has been deeply inspired since reading Ning Youguang's new book "Loving You Is Loving Myself", so she has a natural trust in Ning Youguang.
Therefore, even though this was the second time she met Ning Youguang after Ning Youguang's book signing, she was very honest with her, "After coming to the capital, I told others that my parents are businessmen, and our family
The economic conditions are very good. I have been pampered since I was a child. My parents love me very much, and my relatives at home also love me very much. I relied on the lies I made to make friends with some beautiful women, and then followed them to meet more and more wealthy people.
I thought that in this way I could completely put aside my past. I thought that no one here would know me, and no one would know that I was lying. No one would know that I had plastic surgery and was vain, and no one would know that I came from the countryside.
The local girl.
In this way... all my shortcomings will not be discovered.
As a result, several years passed.
I found that I was wrong. No matter how many rich people I met or how many friends I made from well-off families, I still had a deep inferiority complex in my heart. I hated myself and was always dissatisfied with myself.
Even more and more dissatisfied with myself."
As the girl talked, the expression on her face gradually changed, "When boys with good conditions chase me, I only dare to make friends with them, but not fall in love with them."
"What are you afraid of?" Ning Youguang asked gently.
"I'm afraid that when I fall in love and get married, my original family and my original appearance will be known to them. At that time, my senior circle of friends will laugh at me, and my boyfriend and his family will not accept me." Girl.
Pain appeared on his face, "I actually want to marry a boy from a better family, but I know deep down that deep down in my heart I don't believe that I can marry a rich man. So, even if I am working now
No matter how hard I try, I still only dare to make friends with them, but I dare not fall in love with them."
The girl said, "I lived such a contradictory and complicated life every day, until I saw your new book, and you said this in the book - your so-called 'shortcomings', those traits in you that you don't like.
, is actually your most valuable asset, but the expression is a bit too strong.
This is like adding salt to a dish. If you add too much salt, it will be unpalatable. If you add just enough salt, the dish will become particularly delicious.
As long as you use a trait in the right place and use it just right, you and everyone around you will realize that your 'shortcomings' are actually your strengths. They can be used for you instead of becoming you.
stumbling block.
The only thing you need to do is to express these qualities to the appropriate extent at the appropriate time and in the appropriate way, and don’t overdo it.”
"My back suddenly felt numb." Hot tears flowed from the girl's beautiful eyes. "In the past, I never thought about this problem. But when I read this text, I instinctively felt that every word you said was...
That’s right. What I call bragging is actually an over-expression of self-confidence; what I call impetuous is actually the result of excessive positive thinking; as for what I call being pushy, it is actually my excessive leadership, persuasiveness, and expressiveness.
The result of the expression - there is nothing wrong with these things in themselves. I realized that these so-called 'shortcomings' of mine are actually the advantages that others often praise me for. No wonder I can't completely get rid of them!"
The girl cried and laughed again. She quickly took out the book "Loving You Is Loving Myself" newly published by Ning Youguang this year from her bag——
"Fortunately, Teacher Ning, you wrote this book. Otherwise, I don't know how many detours I would have to take and how much life I would have spent to see my own problems, and thus fall into the quagmire of my own imperfections and be unable to extricate myself." Ning Youguang looked at the other people in front of him.
The girl who cried and laughed softly said, "The reason why we strive to grow up is often because the pressure of life makes us painful and makes us breathless.
Those things that although belong to us, but we try our best to cover up, deny and are unwilling to admit, all belong to the category of shadow.
They are hidden deep in our consciousness, and it is difficult for others or ourselves to directly realize their existence.
They constantly suggest to us that we are flawed, annoying, and worthless.
Due to the influence of these hints, we always feel that there is something dirty hidden in our hearts, so we are always reluctant to examine our hearts for fear of exposing this dirt to the broad daylight.
We fear ourselves and the thoughts and feelings that have been suppressed by subjective consciousness. This fear often exists in the subconscious. We cannot feel it directly, but we will be affected by it. In order to cover up the shadow in our hearts, we can only
When you deceive others, you also deceive yourself. At the same time, you let them become the side that destroys our interpersonal relationships, kills our spirit, and prevents us from realizing our dreams. This side is called the dark side of human nature by psychologist Jung."
The girl cried, "Teacher Ning, I often feel like a big liar who denies that he is hiding."
"Jung once asked everyone a question, 'Would you rather be a good person or a complete person?'" Ning Youguang gently called the girl's name, "Xiao Shi, when you feel that you are the biggest liar,
Have you ever thought that each of us is imperfect, and each of us has a dark side that we don’t want to touch? Our relatives and friends don’t want to accept it, and even we ourselves can’t face it. So, many people try their best to pretend, no matter the cost.
People who are loved by adults live a very tiring life."
"I know that many people are not perfect, and I don't want to be perfect." The girl called Xiao Shi shook her head blankly, "I just want to be a better person. I always thought that I can only become better myself."
Only good people deserve to be loved. Therefore, I made up my mind to make myself better, even if I lie."
Xiao Shi continued to confess to Ning Youguang, "I always tell people, 'Be patient, don't be anxious.', 'Be tasteful and elegant.', 'Be sophisticated and know how to love yourself,' 'Eat healthily, don't eat junk.'
Food.’ But the more I act refined and elegant in front of others, the more people behind me feel that I am hypocritical.”
"Because I love Malatang, potato chips and noodles, and drink yogurt and milk tea. I'm very rough at home. I don't wash or put on makeup during holidays, and I don't take good care of my face. I wear random clothes and do whatever I want.
I just want to get something in return, but outside I have to always maintain my dignity and elegance, these things are untouchable."
She burst into tears, "Gradually, I spent a lot of energy hiding my shortcomings, so I despised those around me who showed their dark sides casually, and I became more and more cynical.
I feel that everyone in this world is hypocritical. When I encounter problems, I feel that it is because God is unfair, because I was born in a poor family, did not have good luck, lived in a backward place, and went to the wrong school.
While studying, I chose a major that I was not good at.
My pain was caused by these external forces.
If my parents were rich, educated, and upper-class people.
If my family was rich, I could get good personal training, and I could go wherever I wanted, and my life would definitely be a thousand times better than it is now.
I always daydream about 'if', 'if this', 'if that', what can I do...
But the reality is that I will not become better just because I think this way. Instead, I will become more selfish, ugly, bitter, irritable, and resentful towards my parents.
No matter how hard I try, I can't become what I want.
However, I can't really blame my parents, because even though they were very poor, they worked very hard to earn money to send me to college and gave me the best of everything.
They themselves live a very frugal life and are reluctant to part with food and clothing, but they have never been reluctant to part with me.
So I became more and more divided and conflicted. I didn't want to go back to my hometown, and I didn't want to face my parents.
Apart from sending them money, I didn’t want to see them at all. At first, I thought it was okay, but after a little time, I felt that my life was getting more and more painful. I hadn’t been truly happy for a long time. Ning
Teacher." At this point, Xiao Shi's mood completely collapsed.
Ning Youguang stood up and took the girl who kept blaming herself into her arms.
"Modern society often gives people the illusion that only perfect people can achieve happiness. Many people have suffered heavy losses in the process of pursuing perfection, but they are always unable to achieve their goals. Instead, they will bear a heavy burden on their body, spirit and soul.
Pressure." Ning Youguang slowly patted Xiaoshi on the back, "In fact, behind each of our shortcomings there are advantages, and every dark side corresponds to a gift of life... The dark side is a part of our lives, each of us.
They are all a unity of contradictions, the result of the reconciliation of various positive and negative qualities. No matter which aspect is missing, it is not complete. When I can face the dark side of my heart and face all my shortcomings, that is
Realize the positives of these 'shortcomings'."
Xiaoshi stood up from Ning Youguang's arms, "As time goes by, I have become accustomed to the mask I am wearing. I don't know how I will survive after taking off the mask."
Ning Youguang's clear eyes fell on Xiao Shi's face, "You know very well that you blindfold your eyes, block your ears, refuse to see your true self, and refuse to listen to your inner voice. Suppressing the dark side of your heart in this way will not help you.
It will bring good results, right?"
Xiaoshi was speechless, but her eyes dodge slightly.
"You have forgotten that there is a true self behind the mask. Although you have experienced repeated failures in life, you still deliberately suppress the inner hints." Ning Youguang said, "But you also know very well that your own characteristics will not
Disappearing because of your denial will only hide in your subconscious and quietly affect your sense of identity."
Xiao Shi lowered her head in embarrassment and clenched her hands.
Tears also fell on the book in his hand.
After she found out, she panicked and wiped away the tears on the book with her hands, but found that the marks of the tears on the book could not be wiped away.
She cried harder.
"When many people around us see their dark side, their first reaction is basically the same as yours, they want to escape and get rid of these traits. In order to suppress them, everyone spends a lot of energy, and the final result is often when they relax a little,
It emerges from our subconscious and affects us." Ning Youguang watched her movements quietly and said slowly, "They all think that as long as they can disguise, those around them who want to hide will not be able to see it.
But when they sincerely ask their friends around them, they will find that the dark side they try so hard to hide can be seen by others at any time."
Xiaoshi raised her head and looked at Ning Youguang seriously, her face turned slightly pale.
Ning Youguang's voice was gentle, "Many people think that 'things given by God must be perfect.' In fact, the situation is often the opposite. It is very likely that those things that look like prickly cactus to you, if you peel off the skin, they will be wrapped inside.
The fruit is delicious and sweet.
Jung said, 'It is useless to fantasize about the light, the only way out is to know the shadow.'
If we want to achieve the state of unity between man and nature, we must have a complete self and let the light and dark sides of ourselves live in harmony. In this era, gold is always hidden next to the garbage heap."
"To chase the light, we must embrace the darkness. Only by facing the shadow in our hearts can we experience the complete feeling of positivity and negativity, light and darkness. If we suppress the dark side of our hearts and refuse to acknowledge its existence, we will
It's enslaved by it." Ning Youguang's gaze on Xiao Shi was full of encouragement, "Although the dark side of our hearts is negative, it can play a positive role, providing us with guidance and making our existence complete. Only
Only by recognizing and accepting our complete selves can we have the freedom of choice."
Xiaoshi said painfully, "Teacher Ning, I have tried many methods before, including hypnotherapy, acupuncture, rebirth experience, extreme sports, zazen, meditation... But none of these are effective, and I can't eliminate them no matter what."
That hatred in my heart."
"Jung once said, 'Rather than being a good person, I would rather be a complete person.' While trying to be a 'good person' and striving for recognition from others, we will lose our true self, which is even more terrifying." Ning You
Guang said, "When we grow up, the people around us make us believe that the characteristics we possess can be distinguished in terms of 'good' and 'bad', and that the 'good' characteristics should be promoted and the 'bad' characteristics should be corrected.
Or cover up. This way of thinking has been gradually established from the moment we learned to distinguish 'self' from 'others'. However, as we continue to grow older, we will gradually realize that the world is a unified whole.
Our minds are connected to those of others. From this perspective, we can't help but ask, are 'good' and 'bad' really objective standards? Should we really get rid of those 'bad' qualities in ourselves?
?But what’s good without bad? How’s love without hate? How’s bravery without fear?
Life inherently contains countless possibilities. Once we begin to re-examine the relationship between our inner world and the surrounding material world, we will find that many of the concepts we have been taught since childhood are paradoxes.
It is inherently contradictory and cannot withstand scrutiny.
In this case, why should we deny ourselves and hurt ourselves because of the incorrect labels that we have been instilled in us since childhood? On the contrary, when we recognize and accept ourselves, the authenticity of everything around us can be revealed.
We can also live with more possibilities in life. Because the process of constantly recognizing and accepting ourselves is the process of constantly breaking down our own limiting concepts."
"Teacher Ning, can you please help me see my Yinman face?" A small poem.
"Just seeing your own dark side is not enough for a person's own growth. You must also understand what the dark side brings to our growth, so as to view it with an inclusive perspective." Ning Youguang replied,
"If you are willing to accept growth and change, I will teach you to acknowledge, accept, and embrace the shadows in your heart, so that you can realize your potential, help you open your heart, and completely change your understanding of yourself, others, and the world."
"I am willing to grow and change, I am willing." Xiao Shi cried and begged, "Can you please help me? I really don't want to live like this anymore."
Ning Youguang said, "Are you willing to accept hypnosis?"
"Okay." Xiao Shi thought for a moment and then made her decision, "Teacher Ning, do you want to hypnotize me? When?"
"Now." Ning Youguang stood up.
"Now?" Xiaoshi asked in surprise, "Don't we need to find a hotel or a place to lie down?"
"No need." Ning Youguang said with a smile.
"Then how do you hypnotize me?" Xiaoshi asked in surprise.
"I have this." Ning Youguang took out a thin necklace from the drawer of his desk.
"Use a necklace to hypnotize?" The poem is completely incomprehensible.
"Yes, sit tight." Ning Youguang said, standing in front of Xiaoshi.
After Xiao Shi sat down carefully on the chair, she said slowly, "Please listen to me carefully and follow my words and imagine..."
Her voice became softer and slower: "You can imagine that you approach the elevator, press the button at the bottom, and the elevator opens. You approach the garden deep in your heart, appreciate the surrounding scenery, and then find a comfortable place.
Sit down somewhere, take a deep breath, ask yourself the following questions, and wait quietly for the answers from deep within your heart..."
"Okay..." After the hypnosis ended, Ning Youguang returned to his normal voice, "Xiao Shi, please open your eyes and carefully record the answers I will ask you in your notebook before entering your secret garden.
Ask yourself these questions."
She handed the little poem paper and pen.
Xiao Shi reached out and took it obediently.
Ning Youguang began to ask:
"The first question is, 'Is my life like this because of how I view myself?'" 1314