"You have helped a lot of people." The other party said slowly after listening carefully.
"Thank you for everyone's trust." Ning Youguang smiled.
Today, her studio has grown from being just one therapist to a professional psychological therapy institution with more than 40 therapists and psychological counselors.
As the organization has more and more employees, more and more people can be helped.
The other party asked again, "What does it feel like to be reborn?"
Ning Youguang's clear and gentle eyes fell on his face, "I feel that the dry part of my life has a subtle vitality."
What kind of feeling is that? People who have never felt this kind of thing don't understand.
However, this does not prevent him from continuing to explore.
"Does the life force have a specific direction?"
"There is only one kind of vitality. When seen, it turns into good vitality, such as enthusiasm, creativity, and love. When not seen, it turns into black vitality, which turns into hatred, attack, anger, and destruction." Ning Youguang
Patiently explain, 'The black life force will inevitably produce destruction and attacks. Some are internal attacks, and some are external attacks. People who attack internally will continue to attack themselves, and people who attack externally will have serious emotional problems.
, they show two extreme emotional states on a daily basis. Most of the time, they appear to be very calm and easy to talk to, but at a certain point, they become a powder keg that 'explodes' at a certain point."
Therefore, people who are emotionally out of control usually have low self-esteem and arrogance.
When they have emotions but cannot find relief and cannot digest themselves, they will lose control in an instant and become destructive at all costs.
"So the vitality you are talking about means good vitality." The other party slowly lowered his eyes.
Only then did Ning Youguang realize that this boss's eyelashes were thick and long.
He has a pair of extremely beautiful eyes.
"Yes."
"Do you... think it's bad for people who can't control their emotions?" The other party hesitated and asked again.
"Emotions, whether positive or negative, are not good or bad. Its value depends purely on how the person who generates the emotion uses it." Ning Youguang replied, "And emotions are emotions, and people are people.
, we need to separate. We cannot think that a person is bad just because he has negative emotions. This is unreasonable."
"Are you still feeling emotional now?"
"Of course." Ning Youguang chuckled, "I'm not a saint, how could I not have emotions? However, I have learned how to control my emotions, and my consciousness and brain will no longer be controlled by emotions."
"Is that why you can be so peaceful every time?"
"How should I put it?" Ning Youguang chuckled, "I have always been quite peaceful."
Appearance Yes.
But I didn't expect that the other party would reveal the essence in a second.
"I'm talking about the heart."
"Okay, you're right. I used to be deeply troubled by emotions. I often had uncontrollable self-doubt and regret. I regretted that I had done the wrong multiple-choice questions, said the wrong things to people, went to the wrong place to study, and doubted myself.
Either he made others unhappy again, he didn't do well enough, or he caused trouble to the people around him, etc. He always felt dissatisfied with himself and his mood was very negative." Ning Youguang laughed dumbly, "
Therefore, I am introverted, not good at socializing, and have few friends. Although I have made some progress in my studies, I cannot use the knowledge I have learned to resist the negative emotions growing in my heart. As a person, I have not grown.
, so I really like to spend time alone in the library. As Maugham said, 'reading is a portable refuge'."
"But that doesn't solve your problem."
Are all genius brains so easy to use?
Ning Youguang gained a new understanding of the other party's sensitivity, "Yes, although books have provided me with many ways to teach me how to deal with and solve problems, they cannot solve my psychological problems from the source.
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"Then how did you transform?"
"Learn." Ning Youguang said, "Learn from an excellent mentor how to heal yourself and grow yourself. After you learn, transformation will become a natural thing."
This was an excellent opportunity to open the door to the other person's heart. Ning Youguang was keeping her five senses highly acute, but she couldn't let the other person see that she was testing him.
Therefore, we can only use self-anatomy to let the other party see another possibility of black life.
After thinking about it, she added, "Actually, at the beginning, I didn't realize that reading books alone couldn't solve my problems. I was secretly proud for a while and felt that all the pain I had experienced was 'past', but at that time I didn't
I know it was because I was still a student at the time, with simple interpersonal relationships and being far away from my family. I didn’t have many opportunities to touch my own wounds. But every time I came back from vacation and came into contact with the people around me, I discovered what I thought before.
The so-called 'past' is all self-deception. Those wounds that have not been healed are still hidden in my consciousness, affecting my entire life by affecting my perception of the present and my expectations for the future. This
After that, I realized that the only way to truly get out of trouble is, as a mentor I know said, I can only face my own fragility and dark side openly, find my inner strength from the pain, and get out of the predicament.
Only when you grow up."
"Why keep revisiting old scars?"
There was anxiety and anger hidden in the other party's slightly cold voice.
Ning Youguang answered firmly and calmly.
"Because growth and I will never part together until death."
The man in the wheelchair became silent again.
After a long while, he slowly moved his fingers and said, "Can I have a cigarette?"
"Of course." Ning Youguang nodded, then she turned to look around, and finally fixed her eyes on the tightly drawn curtains, "But, if I want to open the window, is it okay?"
The other party hesitated for a moment and nodded.
Ning Youguang got up and went to the window.
Unexpectedly, when she was about to reach out and open the curtains, she found that the thick black curtains in front of her were slowly moving to both sides.
[Did you tell me about whole-house smart home?!]
Ning Youguang was speechless for a moment, but was quickly healed by the beautiful sunset and sunset outside the window.
As the thick curtains in front of me were opened, the warm yellow skylight from outside slowly entered the room.
Brilliant and mesmerizing.
"Today's sunset is so beautiful." She stood in front of the window and looked at the sky outside the window intoxicatedly.
The current season is the beginning of autumn.
But after she came to Beijing, she found that the weather here was so good that there was no sign of the passing of summer.
She was shrouded in halo and illuminated, making her dazzling.1314
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The explanation of vitality comes from psychologist Wu Zhihong