583 May we still be able to drink and dance at night
When a bowl accidentally falls on the ground, for the Zen master, it is like hearing the sound of the universe, and his whole body relaxes at the same time.
Many of us today can break bowls hundreds of times without feeling anything.
Because we live in the superficial world, with shallow joy, shallow mood, shallow work... and shallow living.
But that’s not the case when traveling.
Especially taking part in a trip that has no goals and no rush.
I’ll give you the world and everything else is as you wish.
In this case, although time is limited, everyone can still arrange themselves according to their own free will and devote themselves wholeheartedly.
Next few days.
Some people went to play in the nearby Doki Doki Amusement Park.
Some people hide in a bookstore in the mountains and look out from the transparent bookstore. Everything they see is green, transparent and natural, and they feel an immersive reading experience.
Some people go out to take pictures of mountains and rivers, enjoy the scenery, experience the fragments of life that take a break from the busy schedule, and feel the atmosphere of fireworks in the world.
Regardless of what everyone expected when it came.
At least during the few days spent in the mountains, everyone experienced what they wanted to experience.
Everyone lets themselves go in a seemingly reluctant way, allowing themselves to recuperate and be nourished, surrounded by a steady stream of small happiness.
The longer the flow, the faster time passes.
The day of departure.
The sky above everyone's heads is so blue, and the gauze-like clouds are gorgeous and colorful, like precious oil paintings painted softly on the sky. It's so beautiful.
Ning Youguang looked at the sky above his head, feeling as if he was reading an ancient book or lying in hot water and taking a bath. It was extremely comfortable.
Taking a short break from the busy schedule, the team building team of "Starlight" felt truly healed and relaxed.
When the return bus started slowly.
There are also many teammates who are cheerful, fun-loving and full of energy.
They opened the car windows, waved to the surrounding green hills and fields, and shouted loudly——
"I hope the green hills remain, and I hope we can still drink in the morning and dance in the evening."
"May all our wishes come true and arrive as expected."
As it says in the book:
"The sea and sunset do not belong to everyone, but everyone yearns for sunset and the sea."
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After Xia Qi learned that Ning Youguang had followed Shi Wangyue to team building, it was already three days later when she heard from her again.
"I sent you a message two days ago, why did you stop talking after just a few words?"
"Because I'm on vacation." Ning Youguang told Xia Qi in the video while sitting in the office.
"What does vacation have to do with my phone call?" Xia Qi, wearing soft home clothes, held an empty milk bottle in her hand.
"Of course it does matter." Ning Youguang said, "I can't explain the problem you told me in just a few words. I can only talk about it after I finish my vacation."
"Can't you say a few more words if I can't explain it in just a few words?" Xia Qi rolled her eyes as her phone screen flashed.
"No." Ning Youguang shook his head confidently.
"Why?"
"Because it will disturb my vacation."
Xia Qi was speechless, "Hey, just talk to me and I'll ask you a few questions. Why are you interrupting your vacation? I'm thousands of miles away, how can I still use up your vacation?"
"
"It's not that you can use up my vacation." Ning Youguang said seriously, "It's that talking to you will affect my mood on vacation."
"Hypocritical." Xia Qi complained.
"This is not hypocritical." Ning Youguang retorted with a smile, "You should have no worries while on vacation. I go to work every day and seriously consult with clients for a better vacation. If you go on vacation, sit facing the valley and It would be a pity to talk to you about various issues while we are walking by the stream and the surrounding scenery."
However, there are always people talking about problems everywhere, and there are always very few people with whom we can have a peaceful vacation.
Therefore, when you have it, you should cherish it even more.
Xia Qi in the video was deep in thought.
After a while, she put down the milk bottle in her hand, said hello to her confinement sister-in-law at home, and hid in her room, "Can you talk to me properly now?"
"Of course." Ning Youguang took a sip of water from the thermos cup, "You told me last time that the complementary food your mother-in-law arranged for your child was inappropriate, right?"
"yes."
When talking about the problems she faced, Xia Qi's mood became visibly depressed.
My whole body was full of fatigue, "In addition to the issue of complementary feeding for the child, I discovered that my mother-in-law has a certain parenting habit. The child must drink 100ml of milk every two hours, go to bed on time, and add complementary feeding according to the amount. I am so anxious. She has to do everything at the same time. Otherwise, the child will lose the initiative to eat."
"Is there anything else?" Ning Youguang listened quietly.
I couldn't help but sigh in my heart: "The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really a difficult problem since ancient times."
"Also, whenever I put forward parenting suggestions that are more in line with the actual needs of the baby, my mother-in-law always says very stubbornly: 'What you said makes sense, but this method of mine has been specially learned before. Yes, it’s a very scientific parenting method. Look at your husband, doesn’t he look good now?”
"What's even more outrageous is my husband. I asked him to communicate with his mother and not to interfere too much in the children's affairs, but he said that he had said it, but he couldn't say it, and asked me to be more tolerant and tolerant. You know? In our family, we only have one mother-in-law. If she interferes in the children's affairs, our family will be extremely irritable. If she doesn't interfere, my husband and I will be very good, and the children will be very good..."
Across the screen, Ning Youguangdou could feel Xia Qi's suffering.
As she listened, she understood that Xia Qi was talking to her about parenting issues on the surface, but in fact it was just a superficial issue.
Her underlying problem is the difference in parenting concepts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The problem she is facing now is not at all about raising her children.
It's about adults and the relationship between adults.
"You and your mother-in-law are of different generations and have different views on parenting. It is normal for you to encounter friction. Moreover, people of your mother-in-law's generation have verified that their parenting methods work well and find it difficult to change them casually. In this case, You need to put aside each other's positions, start from the actual needs of the child, take a closer look at the child's needs, combine the actual situation and characteristics of the child, have more benign communication and discussion among family members, integrate the wisdom of family members, and finally form a set of The most suitable method of raising children, after all, raising them healthy, strong and smart is the most fundamental wish of a family."
"That's what I said too." Xia Qi in the video was leaning on the bed and was very anxious, which shows that her problem is indeed very difficult for her. "We also often discuss this issue and have agreed on the problems to be solved before communicating. , but as we talked, we started to go off track, and in the end we couldn’t reach an agreement.”
"Then your communication methods also need to be adjusted." Ning Youguang said.1314