Gu Zhanyan: "Actually, there is no such thing as a good boy or a bad boy. They are all taught by adults. Li Wenjun was famously naughty when he was a child. Do you think he is a good boy or a bad boy?"
Liu Dongmei: "This..."
Gu Zhanyan said: "You said that corporal punishment is wrong, that's right. But punishment is necessary. Because children don't know what behavior is appropriate and what behavior is inappropriate, that's why a guardian is needed. When a child repeatedly deliberately commits inappropriate behavior,
We need to punish him and let him understand the seriousness of the matter. He can't just laugh and talk it over lightly. Our teacher faces more than forty students in one class. In fact, among these forty, forty of them will behave inappropriately.
.Some children will remember it after being reminded and will not do it again. Some children will deliberately and repeatedly do inappropriate behaviors, and the teacher will punish them. For example, let them stay after school or in physical education class to copy texts and words.
I just want to use the least harmful and most beneficial way to let the child know that his behavior is inappropriate and know where the bottom line is."
Liu Dongmei: "Dian Dian and Zazao seem to be very good without any teaching."
Gu Zhanyan sighed: "There are no perfect children in this world. Do you remember how naughty Diandian used to be? In winter, he used bamboo poles to knock on the ice on the eaves, breaking the glass of many houses."
Liu Dongmei smiled: "No."
Gu Zhanyan: "I took her with me and asked her to go door to door to apologize and compensate. Then when she came back, she made money from me by washing dishes and taking out the garbage and paid it back to me. She was actually very unconvinced. I asked her, if you finally finished the painting
A painting, I like the sound of tearing paper, so I tore up your painting. Will you be angry? She said yes, I would be very sad and angry. Then she understood and said that for her own happiness,
It is wrong to hurt others. This is to find a way to make her feel the same and have empathy."
Liu Dongmei said: "I remember that she seemed to continue knocking afterward."
Gu Zhanyan said: "Yes, she said she still wanted to knock. I worked with her to find a way to stand on the eaves and knock from the inside out. Then I would not accidentally hit the glass. Or find a place without glass.
, such as railings and horizontal bars. It satisfies her nature without hurting others. Because I think about her, no matter what I say to her, she doesn’t have such a strong resistance."
Liu Dongmei nodded slightly: "This method is very good."
Gu Zhanyan smiled: "Li Shenxing is actually very smart. He has not found the point to stimulate his inner drive. He wants to work hard but doesn't know where to work hard. You are his mother, the one who knows him best and is closest to him in the world.
So you have to think carefully about how to help him find the right goal and then communicate equally. This is the most important thing. You need to let him understand that you are here to help him, not against him."
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The four old people have been married for more than ten years, but this was the first time they met. It was really a bit sad and sighing.
In fact, Li Changming and Liu Cuihong were quite nervous.
The Liu family, like theirs, are both workers and peasants, so no one in the family should dislike the other.
But the Gu family is different. Both parents are senior intellectuals and experts who grew up in big cities.
If one were to follow the past concept of a family, the lintel would be much higher than that of the Li family.
So in order to welcome their arrival, Liu Cuihong and Aunt Tang bought vegetables, cooked and cleaned. After a busy day, she even went up the mountain to pick some early-blooming azaleas and unknown white flowers, and found a vase to put them in.
Li Changming also felt restless all day long.
Gu Zhanyan felt very sorry and kept comforting them: "Don't be nervous. In fact, they are very easy-going people and don't care much about the details of life."
Liu Cuihong said: "Hey, that won't work. We can't let your parents think you're not marrying well."
Gu Zhanyan smiled and hugged her: "How could it be possible? I have a good marriage. My parents-in-law love me and I have two children. My husband is both capable and handsome."
Liu Dongmei, who was helping on the side, pursed her lips and smiled: "Yo yo yo. The older you get, the sweeter your mouth becomes. You always do things like coquettishness and complimenting others."
Gu Zhanyan hugged Liu Dongmei again: "I'm telling the truth. I also have a good sister-in-law."
Liu Dongmei shook her head and said, "Tsk, tsk, tsk, I don't know if it was Master Jun who influenced you. You are really talking more and more like him now."
Li Wenjun drove over to pick up Gu Shichu and Lan Zhi at around four o'clock.
Everyone came to the door to greet him.
Then the four old men held each other's hands, their eyes red.
"Thank you for taking care of Zhanyan for us."
"Thank you for raising such a wonderful daughter."
Gu Shichu said: "We don't have much to bring. I heard that my parents-in-law like to drink some wine, so I brought two bottles of Maotai and fruits."
"You're welcome, you're welcome, come as soon as you come, don't you need anything else?"
Li Shenxing suddenly snorted inside: "My Maotai liquor is piled up in a mountain."
Originally, he had grandparents, and he felt that he was better than Li Jinyan in at least one thing. But now Li Jinyan's grandparents are also here, and they are experts.
Now he is inferior to Li Jinyan in everything and is unwilling to do so. He will never let Li Jinyan be proud and make everyone happy.
Li Wenyong turned around and glared at him fiercely.
Li Shenxing shrank his neck.
Liu Dongmei smiled at Gu Shichu and the others: "I'm sorry, the child is talking nonsense. It's because we didn't teach him well."
Lan Zhi smiled: "The child is still so young, it doesn't matter."
"Uncle and aunt, sit down." Liu Dongmei, Lan Zhi and the others nodded, stood up, took Li Shenxing to the room, and said seriously, "If you can't talk well today, please don't say a word again. If you
If you can't do it, we won't go out tonight. I'll sit in the room with you. Let's read books and write in red books. It's good."
Li Shenxing shouted: "Mom, why are you like this?"
Liu Dongmei said: "It is precisely because I am your mother and I love you that I have to teach you this."
Li Shenxing turned his head angrily.
Liu Dongmei asked: "A truly rich person is a spiritually rich person. People always lack something to show off. Is your uncle rich? He is richer than you. Have you seen him show off? Your aunt is knowledgeable, at least better than you."
You have knowledge, right? Have you seen her show off?"
Li Shenxing lowered his head.
Liu Dongmei added: "Mom knows that you want to surpass Li Jinyan. This is a good thing. Mom supports you."
Li Shenxing glanced at Liu Dongmei in surprise.
Liu Dongmei said: "But you have to think carefully about what aspects you can surpass him in to truly prove that you are better than him. For example, whether your father is great or not, whether you have money, whether your grandparents are strong or not, these are nothing to compare with."
Because you have not contributed anything to them. Their status and wealth are all obtained by their own abilities. If you want to compare with him, compare your own abilities. For example, academic performance, sports, do you understand?"
