It was in the late 1980s when I went to college. At that time, the atmosphere on college campuses was still relatively conservative and not as open as it is now. It was on the college campus that I met my first love, let’s call her Yun.
When we fell in love at that time, we were not like young people now. We would hug each other and even rush to bed within a few days. I was born in a rural area, and my own ideas were relatively conservative. In addition, most girls of that era were also relatively conservative, so until we
When we broke up after graduation, she and I didn't go too far. We didn't even hold her hand, let alone kiss or hug.
Our usual dates include studying together in the evening, fetching meals and water together, taking walks on campus, and going out to visit shops and bookstores with her on Sundays.
We were still assigned jobs by the state at the time, and Yun was a directional student. This was already clear when she filled out her application form, so she had to return to her hometown town to work after graduation.
I was born in a rural area. It was the hope of several generations of our Zhu family to step out of the countryside and make a difference in a big city like S City. It was also the original intention of my parents who worked hard to support my education. Therefore, it was impossible for me to follow Yun back to her remote hometown.
She went to work in a small town, and in the end, our tentative love affair ended without any solution. With tears in her eyes, Yun returned to her hometown town alone, while I stayed in the bustling city where we went to college.
After graduation, I was assigned to the credit department of a state-owned commercial bank.
The person in charge of the credit department at that time was a vice president named Cheng. He was the uncle of Xie Fangju, the wife I later married. It was vice president Cheng who arranged the marriage between me and Fang Ju.
To this day, I still remember the first time I met Fang Ju. She came to her uncle's office to look for him. I happened to have work to report to Vice President Cheng. I remember when I knocked on the door and went in, I found someone there.
A beautiful girl in elegant and elegant clothes was sitting at Vice President Cheng's desk, holding a financial newspaper in her hand and seemed to be reading it with relish.
Seeing me entering, the girl put down the newspaper and stood up slightly. Vice President Cheng pointed at her with a smile and introduced me: "Xiao Zhu, come and meet me. This is my niece Xie Fangju."
At the same time, he pointed at me and introduced the girl: "Fang Ju, this is the Xiao Zhu I mentioned to you before. Although he has only been working for a few years, he is very capable and motivated!"
Xie Fangju smiled sweetly at me and stretched out her hand: "Hello."
My smile looked a little silly, so I quickly stretched out my hand and shook her back. I didn't dare to squeeze hard at all, because I felt that her little hands were as soft as cotton, and I was afraid that she would crush them if I used any force.
In this way, Fang Ju and I met.
Vice President Cheng thinks highly of me and wants to be with me and his niece Fang Ju. But to be honest, I feel pressure in my heart because Fang Ju’s family is not only a girl who was pampered and grew up in the city, but also her family background is very
Her maternal grandfather and another uncle were both high-ranking officials in the province or other provinces, and her father's generation was also a well-known scholar in the country. Such a family is simply not something that a child like me who comes from a rural background can afford to rise high.
But Vice President Cheng kept cheering me up at the time. He said to me: "Young man, it all depends on the person. If you don't fight for it, how do you know if there is such a possibility? You know, when you pursue a girl, you have to be brave and don't be afraid of failure.
As long as you like it, go for it, Tong, I support you!"
With Vice President Cheng's words, I really had the courage to pursue Fang Ju and really won her heart. We began to fall in love officially.
In fact, Fang Ju's parents didn't agree with us when we were together. Although I was introduced to her by her uncle, Fang Ju's parents still felt that the contrast between our family backgrounds was too great, but Fang Ju was very optimistic about me at the time.
, and there is another reason. Fang Ju’s first love at that time was also a prostitute. After dating Fang Ju for several years, he broke up with her and then went abroad. This incident hit Fang Ju very hard, so I can also be considered as one of them.
I came to her when she was at her most vulnerable mentally, so she was very dependent on me.
As we got along, Xie Fangju's family gradually recognized me and felt that I was down-to-earth, reliable, hard-working, and a talented person. In this way, my relationship with Fang Ju was finally recognized by both families.
, we officially held the wedding.
On our wedding night, I discovered that Fang Ju was not a virgin. At that time, she asked me a little shyly: "Do you mind?"
In fact, to be honest at the time, I didn't mind. Because I was still a virgin at the time, and I had never touched my girlfriend Yun in college. After I got to work, I didn't have any other girlfriends because I was so focused on work, so I kept myself clean until my wedding.
night.
But now that I have married Fang Ju into my family, what can I say? So I had to smile and comfort her and said, "I don't mind."
Hearing what I said, Fang Ju's nervousness slowly relaxed. She snuggled into my arms gently and told me about the past, telling me that her first night was taken away by her first love.
It's a pity that although the man looked handsome, he was actually a cynical playboy. He didn't cherish her and dumped her when he took the opportunity to go abroad. That's why Fang Ju was particularly disgusted with the man introduced to her by her family.
Other women who were from the same family as her would rather choose a simple and poor boy like me who came from a peasant family.
At that time, Fang Ju nestled in my arms and said to me sweetly: "As long as you are in this city and have our family to help you, it is not difficult for you to have a career, so I don't mind your family background and origin at all.
, I only care about you as a person who treats me well." Then he looked at me and said to me sincerely, "From the first moment I saw you, I felt that you are a very down-to-earth and reliable person, someone I can rely on throughout my life.
man."
I was very moved when I heard Xie Fangju's heartfelt words. I thought at that time, just because of her trust in me, I would continue to be good to her and work hard to show her family that she was a good person.
Fang Ju did not make a mistake in choosing me.
However, some things are easier to think about than to do. Later, when I resigned from public service and went into business, the biggest resistance I encountered came from Xie Fangju’s family, especially her mother and brother.
Fang Ju's brother Xie Fangyan is a top student who graduated from the Economics Department of Cambridge University in the UK. He has always had a strong sense of superiority in front of me. When he knew that I was going to quit my public job and go into business, he immediately sneered at me.
At that time, he looked at me and said, "You are the only one who wants to go to the sea to swim in the tide?" Then he patted me on the shoulder and said to me in a mocking tone, "Boy, someone like you should have an iron job."
Cherish it, and it will be good for you to be a section chief or something like that in a bank, and the faces of the folks in your hometown will be bright enough. Don't follow others to do business regardless of the sky and the earth, and don't give in when the tide comes.
The sea water choked my nose!"
Faced with Xie Fangyan's arrogance and rudeness, I smiled faintly at him and then said to him: "Then let's just wait and see!"
Xie Fangyan was stunned for a moment, and then replied to me very arrogantly: "Well, I want to see what kind of career you can do?"
Although Fang Ju's mother, my mother-in-law, didn't say it in front of me, the disdain in her expression was very obvious. She said to Fang Ju in private at that time: "Tell him to stop messing around. When the time comes,
He can't make much money by doing business, and our family has to wipe his ass."
Fang Ju conveyed these words to me tactfully. At that time, Fang Ju actually didn't agree with me going into business overseas because she was afraid that the risk would be too great. After all, I still had a good job in a bank at the time. But I just relied on the feeling in my heart.
With an unyielding spirit and despite all the pressure from all sides, he finally resolutely resigned from his public position and went into business.
Needless to say, I went through all the hard work at the beginning. At first, my family, including Fang Ju, looked on coldly at the business I was doing until I relied on the connections I had accumulated in the bank to build the company into a great success.
, Fang Jucai gradually became optimistic about my abilities, and then mobilized her family background to help me.
I admit that Xie Fangju’s family did help me a lot in the process of my success, but without my persistence and the connections I accumulated in the bank, I would not have had the career I did later. In short,
Due to various factors, I finally succeeded and became one of the famous real estate developers in S city.
After I succeeded, the Xie family came to take credit one after another. Xie Fangyan and my mother-in-law reminded me openly and secretly that without the help of the Xie family, I would not be where I am today. Fang Ju often said these words. I know that Fang Ju is
I felt insecure and feared that I would change my mind once I became successful, so I endured all these things.
What I couldn't bear was that after I became more and more successful, I wanted to bring my parents, who had worked hard all their lives in my hometown, to the city to enjoy the happiness, but I met with Xie Fangju's fierce opposition. In the past, when my parents came to live occasionally, because
It is impossible for rural people to be as particular as city people, so some details of life aroused Fang Ju's great disgust.
Now that I heard that I was bringing my parents over, Xie Fangju made a three-part agreement for me. The general meaning was that my parents were not allowed to live with us, and we could buy another house for them to live in. To be honest, I felt very uncomfortable because we lived in a villa.
, there are multiple rooms in it, and there are places for servants to live. How come my parents who gave birth to me and raised me have no place to stay? I brought the old people to the city so that they can enjoy the filial piety of their sons and daughters-in-law in their old age. If I
What is the difference between buying them another house and letting them live out there, and letting them stay in the country?