Qiao Liang had been to the restaurant where Feng Yunming had chosen to eat several times. He entered the private room with ease. After entering, Qiao Liang smiled and said, "Minister Feng, what's going on today? Why do you want to treat me to dinner?"
Feng Yunming smiled and said nothing, staring at Qiao Liang.
Qiao Liang was a little puzzled by Feng Yunming, and looked at Feng Yunming doubtfully, "Minister Feng, you are looking at me like this, could it be that there is something wrong with my face?"
"Xiao Qiao, why do I feel that you are a lucky star?" Feng Yunming said with a smile.
"Really?" Qiao Liang was confused, "Minister Feng, why do you say that?"
"Xiao Qiao, let me tell you some good news. Secretary Luo has approved your proposal for Zhao Jiejie to serve as executive deputy county magistrate." Feng Yunming said with a smile.
When Qiao Liang heard this, his face suddenly showed great joy, "Minister Feng, is it true?"
"Of course it's true, is it possible that I would still lie to you?" Feng Yunming looked at Qiao Liang with a strange smile, "Otherwise, you are a lucky star. This was originally said by Lao Zhang. Secretary Luo wanted his niece Tang Xiaofei to come When I took over the position of executive deputy county magistrate in the morning, when I went to report to him, Zhao Jiejie's proposal was rejected. But guess what, not long after, Secretary Luo called me back and suddenly changed his mind and agreed. Let Zhao Jiejie serve as executive deputy county magistrate."
"Why did Secretary Luo suddenly change his attitude?" Qiao Liang raised his eyebrows.
"A big event happened today, and I don't think you don't know about it," Feng Yunming said.
"Minister Feng, are you referring to the negative news about Secretary Luo on the Internet?" Qiao Liang's eyes narrowed.
"That's right." Feng Yunming nodded, "Things in this world are so strange. When we force things and don't get it, the results will take a turn for the worse."
Qiao Liang nodded subconsciously. While delighted, Qiao Liang began to pay attention to another piece of information, "Minister Feng, are you saying that Secretary Luo changed his attitude because of the negative news on the Internet?"
"Yes." Feng Yunming smiled, "This negative news was not exposed sooner or later, but it happened to be exposed at this time. Xiao Qiao, I even doubt whether you did it."
"Minister Feng, this is no joke." Qiao Liang didn't know whether to laugh or cry.
"Okay, there are no outsiders here. Look, I scare you. In my impression, you, Qiao Liang, are fearless." Feng Yunming said with a smile.
"Minister Feng, those are two different things." Qiao Liang grinned.
Feng Yunming nodded, joking aside, Feng Yunming still knew Qiao Liang. At this moment, Feng Yunming said meaningfully, "Xiao Qiao, what do you think of that post on the Internet?"
Hearing Feng Yunming's question, Qiao Liang's eyes flickered. He obviously knew more about the relevant information in Songbei. When he saw the post on the Internet this morning, Qiao Liang's heart skipped a beat, thinking of Xi Lan. His special attitude towards Tang Xiaofei, Xi Lan's previous request for help with Tang Xiaofei's hair, and even Luo Fei's various abnormal actions such as asking people from the city bureau to go to Songbei to arrest Xi Lan.
Therefore, it was not that Qiao Liang had no speculations about this matter before, but he did not want to make random suspicions about things without evidence. In addition, his relationship with Tang Xiaofei was okay now. The other party was now actively cooperating with his work and treating him It's no longer as disrespectful as before, so Qiao Liang doesn't want to speculate too much.
Now that Feng Yunming asked, Qiao Liang concealed his true thoughts and said, "Minister Feng, I really don't have any opinion on this matter. After all, there are too many unreliable news on the Internet. There is no guarantee that someone will not deliberately spread rumors about this kind of thing." ."
"If you really want to spread rumors, then the cost of spreading rumors is not low. You have to go in to spread rumors about this kind of thing." Feng Yunming said.
"That's true." Qiao Liang nodded.
Seeing that Qiao Liang was a little absent-minded, Feng Yunming was a little surprised. He knew that the relationship between Qiao Liang and Luo Fei was not good. At this time, Qiao Liang did not add insult to injury to arrange Luo Fei's fault. Feng Yunming could not help but admire Qiao Liang's broad-mindedness. Superior to peers.
Feng Yunming didn't know that there was a special reason for Qiao Liang's reaction. At this moment, Feng Yunming was not interested in gossiping about Luo Fei. He smiled and said, "We won't talk about this anymore. It's better to eat more food. You can If there’s nothing else, let’s have a drink.”
"Minister Feng, you made a special trip to ask me to come to dinner. I dare not have anything else to do. I will definitely drink with you and have a lot of fun in the evening." Qiao Liang said with a smile.
"That's what you said. You won't be allowed to leave until you finish the two bottles of liquor on the table tonight." Feng Yunming said with a smile.
Qiao Liang immediately shook his head, "Two bottles of liquor are a bit much. If I finish drinking it with you, I probably won't be able to find anything."
"I think you are being humble, Xiao Qiao. I have drank with you several times, and I have never seen you drunk." Feng Yunming said with a smile. He has no other hobbies now, except that he likes to drink two glasses of wine every time. When going out to eat with friends, Feng Yunming would usually bring his own wine. Tonight when he was going to eat with Qiao Liang, Feng Yunming also brought these two bottles of liquor.
Then the food and drinks started.
Feng Yunming seemed to be in a good mood tonight, chatting and drinking with Qiao Liang.
"Minister Feng, you are responsible for organizational personnel work. What do you think is the most important thing to do well in working within the system?" Qiao Liang asked after toasting Feng Yunming with a glass of wine.
Feng Yunming picked up the wine glass and drank it all in one gulp, then put it down, lit a cigarette and took two puffs, saying, "If you want to work within the system and achieve success, many people think that the most important thing is to have a backer, a background, or outstanding achievements. Ability, but actually, I think the most important thing is to learn to observe words and emotions."
"Oh" Qiao Liang was slightly surprised and looked at Feng Yunming, "Observe his words and expressions?"
"Yes, watch your words and emotions." Feng Yunming nodded, "This point is not generally important, but very important."
Qiao Liang looked at Feng Yunming and blinked with a sleepy look on his face.
Seeing Qiao Liang's expression, Feng Yunming chuckled, "The so-called observation of words and expressions is to understand a person's inner thoughts, purposes and interests by observing the other person's emotions, language, expression, and posture, so as to adjust one's words and deeds in a targeted manner. and coping methods. To survive within the system, observing words and emotions is a necessary emotional intelligence, and it is also a relatively advanced survival ability. Those who do not understand this method will be confused about people and things, cannot see clearly, cannot understand clearly, and will be trampled on everywhere. Thunder hits a wall. Those who are proficient in this method can be like a fish in water and have both sides. When some people think of observing words and emotions, they think it is flattering and engaging in vulgar interpersonal relationships. In fact, it is not the case. In fact, whether you are doing business, pursuing an official career, or even falling in love , observing words and emotions is a basic and necessary interpersonal communication skill.”
Qiao Liang looked at Feng Yunming intently and said thoughtfully, "Minister Feng, do you think there are any skills needed to observe words and emotions?"
"Of course." Feng Yunming nodded, "Xiao Qiao, I know that you have worked as a secretary and are generally familiar with the skills of observing words and expressions. However, after all, you have little experience and qualifications, so you may not be able to master these skills proficiently."
"Yes, please give me some advice from Minister Feng." Qiao Liang nodded.
Feng Yunming chuckled and continued, "There are roughly four basic skills that need to be mastered in observing words and expressions. The first one is from oneself to others. Guiguzi said: Therefore, one begins with knowing oneself, and then one knows others. In other words, , to understand what others are thinking, feeling, and what they will do next, in fact, the most important thing is to understand yourself first. Learn to deeply understand your own inner weaknesses, desires, and emotions, and you will be able to understand others, because human nature They are all connected. What we often call empathy is actually the premise of thinking about your own thoughts, feelings and interests.
For example, when giving gifts, one trick is not to give gifts that you don't like to others. If you don't like a gift yourself, but you give it to others, will others like it? Another example is, say it in one sentence. , you will feel uncomfortable after listening to it, and it is easy to hurt others. Can you tell others? If you can truly recognize yourself and know how to understand and reflect on your own desires and feelings, you can at least 80% When it comes to understanding others, the remaining 20% is actually just individual differences.
"Yeah. Qiao Liang nodded and listened to Feng Yunming with great interest.
Feng Yunming continued, "The second skill is to pay attention to interests. The so-called bustling world is all for profit, and the hustle and bustle of the world is all for profit. Human nature is reflected in all aspects, and interests are one of them. Everyone, everything, It may be ever-changing, but in the end it is inseparable from the word profit. When considering problems, learn to consider the interests of others, figure out where his interests are and what he cares about, and the fog of many things will be cleared and the clouds will be clear.
For example, if you bring a plan to the leader in charge for review, the leader in charge looks unhappy after reading it, frowns, and seems not satisfied with the plan. At this time, you have to think that the leader in charge may not necessarily be satisfied with your entire plan. If he is not satisfied with it, he should deny it completely. Instead, it involves the assessment content in the field he is responsible for. Are there any unreasonable items? Is there any content that goes against his interests? For example, which tasks are too heavy and difficult to complete, etc.
The third skill is information integration. What is the personality of each person in the unit, what are their strengths and weaknesses, who has worked with whom, who has had issues with whom, what is the career history of a certain leader, and which departments has this leader been in charge of? , who particularly likes to sit at the same table with whom when eating, all these are big data within the system. Your brain needs to be like a computer to analyze, integrate and store these big data. At critical times, it can help you do analysis. judge.
Some young people are more sensitive in this regard. Within a month after arriving at the company, they know exactly what everyone in the company looks like, what department they work in, and what position they hold. Even when they meet in the elevator, they can greet each other enthusiastically. When greeting each other, address the other person's name and position accurately. Some young people are relatively slow in this regard and cannot tell which leader is in charge of what business, and they often even mistakenly call Director Wang as Director Li."
