Xue Huan leisurely turned to the pomegranate seeds and smiled and said, "You don't need to guess. Tell me, the family is harmonious and happy, the elderly are strong and healthy, the parents are loving and successful in their careers, younger brothers and sisters have excellent academic studies, entrepreneurs are starting businesses, and those who go to school are going to school.
You are the most dazzling newcomer among the younger generation in the hospital. Apart from these, what else can you worry about? What else can you do besides feelings?"
Cheng Huanran was slightly stunned and smiled bitterly.
"It just happens that something is not satisfactory! No wonder the old saying goes that every family has difficult sutras. In other words, everyone must have troubles, they are all different."
Xue Huan smiled softly and said warmly: "Isn't it? People, as long as they have desires, ideas, and goals, they will definitely have troubles. This should be the truth that "all worlds are suffering."
”
"Oh..." Cheng Huanran sighed: "Actually, I am not greedy. I just want to find someone who has the same interests and hobbies, similar values, and is happy with each other. I just need to fall in love and get married. Just live a lifetime of affection with my parents.
”
Xue Huan laughed silently: "Isn't this greedy?"
Forehead?
Cheng Huanran smiled bitterly: "Uncle Huan, why isn't this greedy? In other words, it's just to find someone I love to marry and live a good life - the requirements are not high, right? The basic requirements are coming!"
Xue Huan narrowed his eyes and shook his head gently.
"It may not be. As for what you said just now, as a person who has been in love and marriage for more than ten or twenty years, I think your goals are quite high and your requirements are quite high."
Cheng Huanran couldn't help but ask: "Really?"
"Of course!" Xue Huan whispered: "It's not easy for each other to please each other and love each other. In the vast crowd, if you want to find someone who you like, and they just happen to like you, the chance is actually not high.
.First of all, your starting point is a high point, and it is a very high starting point when you look at it. When you stand at the height you are standing, many people can only look up behind or below you. Because your own cultural level and your parents give it to you
Your foundation is too high for ordinary people to reach."
"Is there any more?" Cheng Huanran asked with a raised eyebrows.
Xue Huan nodded: "It's about the same height and the same appearance, otherwise you may not like it. In addition, the so-called three views are similar, and people with similar family and career views are not easy to find. It's hard enough to find a person with similar three views.
, not to mention other things.”
Cheng Huanran was extremely sad and murmured: "...I'm really asking too much?"
"Actually, in the eyes of people of my age, love is actually very simple." Xue Huan replied: "We have lost the control of youth hormones. We just hope that our partner can live with me calmly and warmly, and not make noises and make noises.
Just jump. The so-called love is that simple for people of our age. The so-called 'great love' is just to understand each other and understand each other."
Cheng Huanran was slightly stunned.
Xue Huan said in a gentle voice: "I have been young, I have pursued a passionate love, and even have the ambition and confidence to love until death. But with the hard-working reality of life and work, I found that love is just
It’s just a while, but more of a long life. People always say that young couples come together in old age. In fact, it’s not just old age. In the past few decades, middle-aged and young people, we need more companions, not that much.
There are not so many so-called 'couples'
It is called "thrilling" and "exploding emotions". No matter how beautiful love is, how beautiful the skin is, and how rare the romance is, it cannot withstand the struggle of time. Therefore, finding someone to partner with should be the goal of marriage, and
It is not what young people call the ultimate pursuit of love or the destination of love. Marriage is much larger than love. Don’t always regard love as the whole of marriage, it is too one-sided and too narrow-minded. Marriage is much more complicated than love, and it is more important.
many."
Cheng Huanran seemed to understand but couldn't help but whisper: "Actually, I... I pursue love and marriage. I also want to find a beloved person to combine a family with one or two, just like my parents.
A cute child who continues to reproduce my genes and inherits the love of the family.”
Xue Huan smiled and explained: "After all, what you are pursuing is marriage. You are a child who grew up in a traditional family, and your personality and qualities ultimately belong to tradition."
"Yes." Cheng Huanran nodded: "In the end, I still have a happy marriage."
Xue Huan smiled and said, "No matter how beautiful love is and how passionate the hormones are, they will eventually become dull. Especially when they are in their forties and fifties, they will become even dull. When they are in their sixties, seventies and eighties, they will be supporting each other and companion.
That's it. Love and marriage are inequality, they are completely incompatible. When I was studying abroad, I was in my prime and had a good time, so the object I pursued was beautiful and smart, and I was in the same major and school as me, and my worldview and values were similar.
When I decided she was my future partner.”
"What happened later?" Cheng Huanran was confused and remembered that he was a very beautiful and proud foreign woman. But he was still a child back then, so he didn't remember clearly. He asked, "Isn't my current aunt?"
Xue Huan shook her head: "No, she is a foreigner. When I was confident that the destination of love was marriage, I encountered a series of problems. At the same time, I also realized that her view of family and my view of family
So much difference. From then on, my relationship with her gradually got farther and began to feel disgusted. In fact, you and your partner are the main body of your small family, just like the main framework of the family. If you are with her
Inconsistent views on family means that your framework cannot be stable, even if it is temporarily done, with the addition of children and the elderly, more and more things are built on this framework, which will eventually lead to instability and shock or even a thrill of family.
collapse."
"Family View?" Cheng Huanran couldn't help but think of Qiao Hui's various family remarks.
——If your career has not been completed, no marriage can be discussed! Without a stable career foundation, marriage has no meaning!
——Unless I am awarded the title of associate professor or above, I will never have a child! Having a child requires a lot of time and energy, and it is not worth it. At most, one is given.
——The starting point your family gives you is too high, and I can only be stronger than you in other aspects, otherwise we cannot maintain a similar height in the family, and the family will be unstable at that time!
...
Cheng Huanran frowned and whispered helplessly: "Uncle, can the two subjects in the marriage really be evenly matched? It seems that neither you nor my aunt, my dad and my mom are like this."