Xue Huan couldn't help laughing: "Who stipulates it? It must be evenly matched? How is that possible!"
Cheng Huanran sighed softly and replied: "Xiao Qiao always says she is under a lot of pressure and wants to surpass me in terms of professional titles and scientific research projects, and does not want to be too affected by my family background."
Xue Huan finally understood and said, "So she thought so... she was just afraid that your strength would be too strong and affect your future family status, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran explained: "She is a very strong person. She wants to compete for the first place in every field she comes into contact with, and even her family status."
Xue Huan smiled bitterly: "Then she must live a hard life?"
"Yes!" Cheng Huanran explained: "She has always worked hard and is very competitive, and she is extremely purposeful in doing anything. Sometimes in order to achieve her goals, she even has some aggression. Her popularity is a bit bad, which is because of her personality.
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Xue Huan Wensheng: "The status of a family is not determined entirely by economic status. A higher economic status may have more say. But a higher economic status means you spend more time on work. A person
The time and energy are limited. If you spend more time on this side, it means you spend less time on the other side. People with high voices spend relatively less time on their families and children. For example, your father and your mother, when you were young
Your dad spends more time in his family than your mom, and he spends a lot more, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran nodded.
Xue Huan analyzed: "If your father pursues his career like your mother, can you still have a father to pick him up sooner or later? Can you eat with your father for three meals? Dad will take you to play on weekends? How many of them are I remember
The old man and your dad took you on a trip all summer vacation, right?"
"Yeah." Cheng Huanran replied: "Most summer and winter vacations were led by my father. My mother was really busy. Occasionally, she was still on the construction site during the Chinese New Year. At that time, she invested in real estate everywhere, and every day she was a big deal.
I spent a lot of social engagements. Later, the clothing factory and Tianshu Group also took my mother a lot of time. Sometimes my father coaxed us to bed, but my mother hadn't come home yet."
Xue Huan sighed softly and said, "Yes, if it weren't for your father's sacrifice and dedication, your family might not be as glorious as it is today. If your father and your mother were pursuing their careers and throwing you to a few old people, it might be
Your family will be even more brilliant today, but you will definitely not be so outstanding. Your parents and they jointly support this family, but they cannot be evenly matched, otherwise this family will not be as stable and happy as today. My aunt and I are almost the same.
Family status, but your aunt still has to be shorter than me in her career, because she started later than me and her education was not higher than me. When she didn't have to queue, she would go home to take care of her children and family. I didn't have to queue.
During class, I had to do administrative work. So, she spent more time in her family than me, and the distance between me would only get farther and farther. Let me be honest, everything should not be too much."
"Too much is not too much?" Cheng Huanran couldn't understand very well.
Xue Huan explained: "The difference between husband and wife cannot be too big, but it is difficult to pursue similarities and equality. For example, in terms of education, there should be too much difference, otherwise the gap in knowledge will cause poor communication. But there is no need to be exactly the same, right? For example, you
Aunt, I gave birth to A Yue after taking a break from school. It was not easy to be able to study undergraduate for a few years with my family. Could it be that I could ask her to take the postgraduate entrance examination like me? Your father’s education is better than your mother.
Low, your mother never felt that it was not possible, and your father never felt that he had to go further and learn to catch up with your mother, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran smiled bitterly: "I think so too. I think there is nothing big gap between the two. There is no need to be exactly the same. My family background cannot be changed, because the reason I have these is from my grandfather's.
The generation began to accumulate, and my mother had obtained through decades of hard work. Xiao Qiao valued these, but she disdained these, and even worried that I would be stronger than her in my family status in the future. Since we graduated last year, we have been involved in marriage.
We have constant conflicts on this topic. Later, she stayed in the imperial capital and planned to put her career first for the time being. Unexpectedly, more conflicts broke out later. She felt that it was under great pressure, and it was all caused by me. But I felt that it was gradually getting along with her.
As we get farther and farther away, we feel very tired every time we are with her."
Xue Huan's eyes moved slightly, and his voice calmly said, "Then break up."
ah???!!
Cheng Huanran was speechless for a moment and looked at him for two or three seconds.
"Uncle Huan, why don't you persuade us? After all, we have been in love for many years and have reached the stage of talking about marriage. You can't just give up."
Xue Huan stopped: "It's just a marriage, not a marriage. You can get divorced even after marriage, why can't you break up when you fall in love? So what about relationships for many years? Love is about falling in love, marriage is about marriage, who can guarantee the talk
After a long time of love, marriage can last for a long time? You feel good about falling in love with her, but you start to feel tired before marriage is involved. What should I do if I really get married? After getting married, I will consider divorce, but there are a lot of things to do.
Concerns, especially when there are children. After all, once divorced, it will cause the most harm to the child.”
Cheng Huanran was shocked and couldn't help feeling nervous.
“…Yes, if you really get married and find the problem again, it may be even more difficult to solve.”
Xue Huan analyzed: "Just as you said just now, this is obviously a problem with Qiao Hui's personality. It is easy to change the country and nature is hard to change. Unless she is really willing to change her personality, your marriage will not be stable. But like her
A girl who is as strong, independent and strong as a person should not make changes for others easily.”
"Impossible." Cheng Huanran felt lost: "Every time we have problems, she always has to ask me to bow my head, even if the wrong person is her."
Xue Huan smiled bitterly: "Then what are you waiting for? Instead of staying with a piece of boring ribs, it is better to break it if you break it. You are not a child, you should know how to analyze the situation and the future situation. I brought my girlfriend at the beginning.
When I returned to China, even though I found the problem and still gritted my teeth and persevered, it was similar to your current situation. Both of them have been getting better for so many years, and she is even willing to come to a foreign country for me. How could I talk to her about breaking up?
But what's the use of hesitating? It's just a little more upset and helplessness. When you are heartbroken, it's really uncomfortable, but your heart hurts and you've got another relationship, and it's another beginning."
"I..." Cheng Huanran hesitated and murmured in confusion: "Does he really have to break up in the end?"