Chapter 1146 A person can only change himself at most, don’t think about changing others
This group of people's unique views on the relationship between men and women and the status of men and women opened Ran Qiuye's eyes again. She felt that these people were so interesting. It would be great if she could become friends with these people and chat like this often.
Silly Zhu didn't know what was wrong, and suddenly sighed: "Oh! I say Xinghua, Da Zhuang, it's so miserable for us old men now, we have to be bullied by these women all day long
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It's really shameful for a big man to join us. It's all the fault of this boy Hongxuan. If you hadn't been this boy, we wouldn't be like this now, and these girls wouldn't be so arrogant!
Da Zhuang, Xinghua and I are yours from now on. As for Teacher Ran, I guess if he really enters your old Han family, if you dare to argue with Teacher Ran, Uncle Han and Aunt Han will both
I have to deal with you well, you will suffer the consequences from now on!"
Han Dazhuang did not dare to accept what Silly Zhu said, so he could only lower his head and pretend to be an ostrich. However, he also knew in his heart that if Ran Qiuye really married him, then in their family it would really be like Silly Zhu said. He dared to let Ran Qiuye
Even his parents can't forgive him if he doesn't like it!
But if Ran Qiuye really wants to marry him, don't worry about what other people do. He must first take good care of such a good wife. It's too late to hurt him. How can he make his wife unhappy?
Seeing Han Dazhuang not answering, Silly Zhu felt a little bored. He glanced at Duan Hongxuan and suddenly sighed: "Oh! But speaking of it, think about it since Hongxuan recognized the deaf old lady as his godmother the year before last, he started to help us.
Now that I think about it, Hongxuan’s help and changes to us are quite small!
Precisely because of the big brother Hongxuan, our changes have been quite small. Thinking about how we could have avoided such bad days today, it is all thanks to Kai Hongxuan's help!"
Qin Huairu and others nodded indifferently, Qin Huairu said: "What Zhuzi said is wrong, Hongxuan has done little to help us. If there was Hongxuan or not, you all know what kind of life you three are living today!
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Wu Xinghua said with emotion: "Indeed, Hongxuan has helped us very little and changed us very little."
Everyone was talking about Han Dazhuang's help and changes to us. Duan Hongxuan listened with curiosity.
Now he looks slightly different from before, his temperament has become moralistic, he is like he was like before, and he almost has a sense of presence in Qiheyuan.
Now you are just helping him deal with the pressure of the environment and providing him with a platform to display his strengths. His various performances now are just the display of his own abilities, not the changes you have made in him!
Xiaojia nodded one after another, and they all felt that Han Dazhuang's help and change to Xiaojia was very small. Everyone felt that it was with Han Dazhuang's help that each of us, whether it was our family or ourselves, had a very small change, and that kind of change
Still no use!
Han Dazhuang continued to shake his head: "What they said is not that you changed them, but that you helped them change their environment and reduce the pressure in their lives to the best of your ability.
, providing them with a stage where they can show themselves!
Do you have the power to change a person?
Everything they show now, whether it is their personal character or the success of their work, has something to do with you. It is their own possession and their own efforts.
You firmly believe in one sentence: God can change yourself, and anyone who wants to change others is insane!"
So don't let them talk about you like that. You just gave them a little help and helped them change their environment, but you didn't change themselves. The rest is their own efforts.
and their own nature!
Later, I will give Ran Qiuye some advice, so that I can stop looking for Teacher Ran, and my group will work harder to help Ran Qiuye. At Duan Hongxuan's current age, as long as Chen Guangcheng finds a way to get the approval of Duan Hongxuan's parents, those two
People's affairs are settled in a matter of seconds. If we pay close attention, maybe two people can get the certificate and get the matter sorted out!
People are the most difficult to change. As the saying goes, a country is easy to change, but nature is hard to change!
But you didn't change him, you just helped him change his living environment. He no longer has those pressures. Now, whether in life or at work, what he shows is only his own nature and ability. As long as he
Without a suitable platform, coupled with his own efforts and lessons learned, everything he shows now is gone, but that is not the change you made in him!
The same goes for Sister Xiang Hong. From now on, it is just because of the pressure of life and environment that he looks like he can only be a bad wife who takes care of the family.
It's just that because of the environment he will be in in the future, he will be able to use his talents and there will be no platform for him to show off. I am sure he will continue to stay in his original environment. The pressure that life puts on him may make him. But there is no
To properly utilize his strengths, for the sake of living and for his children, he may first be forced to do something he is willing to do.
The strange thing is that those people gave me the same feeling as everyone else. Although the conditions outside of those people's homes were very ordinary, underneath those people did not have the same sorrow for life as others. Instead, they were all depressed and slow-lived.
Life is full of hope.
Everyone was listening to Han Dazhuang's words, wanting to hear what else I could say to help Xiaojia gain more knowledge. They thought that suddenly I would say something like that, which almost made Xiaojia's tongue flicker.
Now that he has quit the steel rolling mill and has no job, you heard the young man say that what he did in the quality inspection team was wrong, he dared to speak up and even dared to praise others. It seems that there is little difference between him and his future self.
Duan Hongxuan listened to what Han Dazhuang said and thought about it in his mind. The more he listened, the brighter his eyes became. The more he listened, the more he wanted to make friends with those people. His eyes lit up when he looked at Han Dazhuang.
The small family thought Han Dazhuang's words were satisfactory at first, but the more they listened, the more unreasonable they felt. Everyone could not help but look at Chen Guangcheng with admiration again.
He wants to deny the cognition and values that others have formed over decades. That is basically possible. At most, you think you have the ability!
Now Duan Hongxuan understood that it was all because of the young man named Han Dazhuang behind him.
That kind of denial can only be self-denial. If you are willing to deny yourself and start over from the beginning, others will have a way.
Take Sister Qin for example, he is very well-spoken, but has little discernment when it comes to dealing with people. He is very good at getting along with people, and dealing with people is his specialty!
Although you know very little about Han Dazhuang, you have also heard that Han Dazhuang has few talents and skills, and he is also very incompetent. It is an exaggeration to say that I am a genius.
Moreover, Han Dazhuang seems to be a big boy, and Duan Hongxuan's background makes you deeply understand that a child's growth, education, and family environment have nothing to do with it.
His blind date, Ran Qiuye, is actually one of Han Dazhuang's friends. It's quite wrong to think that Ran Qiuye doesn't have such a genius friend next to him!
After Xiaojia chattered for a long time about the difference, Han Dazhuang shook his head and said: "If you want to say that you have helped them a little bit, then you are doing something wrong, but if they want to say that you have not changed anything about them, then how dare you
deny.
Next, when Chen Guangcheng and Duan Hongxuan were getting along, as long as Ran Qiuye didn't do anything stupid, with the simplicity of people in that era, Chen Guangcheng's wife basically ran away.
That man was really honest. Duan Hongxuan couldn't help but look at Ran Qiuye again and found that Ran Qiuye was listening very seriously, with a serious expression and thoughtful eyes. Duan Hongxuan felt more and more that Chen Guangcheng didn't have such a unique friend.
, plus Ran Qiuye is willing to work hard, in the long run, if Ran Qiuye will also be bad, it would be wrong to think that it would be a mistake to be in a bad relationship with Ran Qiuye!
Looking at everyone present, and then looking at Han Dazhuang, Duan Hongxuan could not help but think of a sentence: Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to Mo are white.
Thinking of that, Duan Hongxuan's face didn't even burn. Why did he think of the child?
"Pfft!"
Li Xianghong said in surprise: "Hongxuan, why did he say that?
The key is that the genius is willing to help the friends around him. As my friend, with my influence and help, as long as he is willing to work hard and step back, he will not be anywhere near where he was before.
So you don’t think that you changed them. You think it is very difficult or even almost possible for a person to change others. A person’s change can only end with you. The only thing I can change is myself!
And that kind of self-change is also very difficult and almost hard to see.
He casually thought about what was going on.
Is it difficult for you people to succeed today? Is it because he made some changes happen to you?"
He himself is not that kind of person. He just lacks a platform for him to express himself in the future. His own nature has not changed. To say that it has changed, it is just that he has lost some experience and lost confidence.
Han Dazhuang was secretly observing Chen Guangcheng's various behaviors. I found that Chen Guangcheng was secretly peeking at Ran Qiuye several times. Han Dazhuang was secretly happy. It seemed that there was no way.
Okay, that's it. The worst we can do is have a banquet for two people on July 1st.
"Yes, Hongxuan, if it were him, Sister Qin, how could you not be today? You still know how to do it now. It would be your turn to do something as bad as going to the street to get off work!"
Look at the two older girls playing outside the yard. They look healthy, dull and polite. Now those two children are almost raised by Han Dazhuang. Look at those two
From the look of the older girl, you can tell that Han Dazhuang is not good at taking care of children. You can tell with the naked eye that if the two children continue to grow up like this, they will be in trouble.
Ran Qiuye is one of Duan Hongxuan's friends. In the future, my child will be taken care of by Han Dazhuang.
Duan Hongxuan is a primary school student and comes from a scholarly family. The people you met today give you a very bad feeling.
If a person really wants to change himself, this means that he must deny everything he has in the future, and deny it from the root, which means that he must reshape his own cognition and values that have been formed for decades.
, that is very difficult!
So don’t think so evil of you!"
If a person can make some changes through his own efforts, that person is a great person!