There is no need to guess, many people already know, Chen Ru is not blind or deaf.
Knowing it, knowing it, from Wen Ying's solemn words to her parents, the meaning is different.
Being looked at by two pairs of eyes, Wen Ying cleared her throat: "We did talk. You all know the person, it's Xie Qian."
Of course it's Xie Qian.
Who else could be there besides Xie Qian?
I have seen the best early on, and it is difficult to settle for others.
Chen Ru asked: "When did you confirm the relationship?"
"end of last year……"
The second family meeting was originally to discuss which job Chen Ru should choose, but the content of the meeting was temporarily increased and turned into Wen Ying confessing her relationship status to her parents.
"Isn't it high school?"
Chen Ru wanted to deceive Wen Ying.
Why would Wen Ying admit something she had never done before: "Of course not. We were all focused on studying in high school, how could we have time to fall in love!"
It’s true that we didn’t have puppy love in high school, and Wen Ying is very confident.
There was an imperceptible smile on Chen Ru's lips.
In fact, whether there was puppy love in high school or not, it is no longer important to pursue it now.
Just like Wen Ying said, in high school, Wen Ying and Xie Qian did not delay their studies at all. They were at the right age and did the right things. Even if they already liked each other at the time, what did it matter?
A smile flashed across Chen Ru's lips, and Wen Dongrong coughed dryly: "It's right not to fall in love early in high school. If you focus on falling in love early, how can you get good grades? In college, it's really time to fall in love.
Given your age, your mother and I will not interfere with your feelings, but there is one thing... let your mother tell you."
Wen Dongrong winked at Chen Ru, and Chen Ru felt funny: "Okay, I know how to say it!"
"Well, then you guys have a good chat and try to understand everything once and for all! I'll go out and buy something."
Wen Dongrong finished speaking and left with his hands behind his back.
He said he was going out to buy things, but he didn't even bring his wallet which was placed on the table. Apparently, he deliberately left a separate space for his wife and daughter to talk.
Wen Ying had a vague guess in her heart: It couldn't be what she thought, could it?
Wen Ying prepared herself mentally, but Chen Ru opened her mouth in an unrelated direction: "Xie Qian is a very good boy, no one can deny this. No matter whose daughter has found such an excellent boy,
My friends and family will be very happy, and of course your father and I are also very happy. But I still have to ask you, is Xie Qian good to you?"
Excellence is an external condition.
Whether you get along well or not is the internal condition.
Xie Qian is not only outstanding personally, but also has a good family background.
Chen Ru didn't know enough about the Xie family in detail. Just what she felt from Zou Weijun was enough for Chen Ru to be cautious.
It's okay to fall in love. Going to the next step in the future, is Xie Qian just good to Wen Ying? Is it okay for the Xie family to talk?
Chen Ru was thinking very far, and Wen Ying didn't understand her mother's worries: "He is very, very good to me."
——I am also very, very good to Xie Qian.
Wen Ying added silently in her heart.
It was hard for Chen Ru to imagine what Xie Qian and Wen Ying were like when they were in love. Xie Qian was very cold and difficult to get close to. But Xie Qian was very protective of Wen Ying, even if Chen Ru personally asked him to help persuade Wen Ying.
He rejected all attempts to study abroad.
Does this mean you like Sakura very much?
Even if there is something going on over there with Xie's family, Xie Qian's attitude is firm, and Xiaoying has nothing to be afraid of.
If the Xie family wants to find fault with the eggs - hum, Xie Qian is excellent, is Xiaoying inferior?
Chen Ru changed the subject: "Let's talk. When I go to work in Shanghai, you can take Xie Qian home for dinner. I know that times have changed a long time ago. You young people all have your own ideas, thoughts and behaviors."
You are both bolder than when we were young. It's not my turn to teach Xie Qian what to do, you are my daughter, I have to take care of you..."
It's coming, it's coming, what's supposed to come has finally come.
"Sex education" is late but arrived.
Chen Ru spoke seriously, and Wen Ying also listened seriously.
In her previous life, there was a deep estrangement between mother and daughter. Wen Ying had never heard any relevant education from her parents. This was a very novel experience for Wen Ying.
Little did he know that Chen Ru's brain cells were almost exhausted.
Chen Ru was embarrassed because she explained it so clearly.
I didn’t explain it clearly and I was afraid that Wen Ying wouldn’t understand it, which had the opposite effect in the end.
"...In short, there are some things that you can't do, but you must think about it before taking that step. You can't do it if you don't want to. You can never use sex as a bargaining chip to please your boyfriend."
Chen Ru also specifically gave Wen Ying a negative example.
When Chen Ru was in school, a female classmate in her class found a partner with good conditions. In this relationship, the man was the dominant partner, and the female classmate couldn't help but worry about gains and losses.
Later, the man fell in love with someone else and wanted to break up with his female classmate.
The female classmate took the most wrong step to keep her husband: she sacrificed herself.
"It's not the kind of dedication I thought, is it?"
Wen Ying frowned.
Chen Ru rolled her eyes at Wen Ying and said, "You continue to listen."
The "sex education" in that era was even more lacking than it is now. Female classmates had sex with men but did not know how to use contraception. After two or three months, they had morning sickness, but the teacher discovered the signs.
"Then what?"
"We don't know exactly what happened in the middle, and then she dropped out of school. Some say she aborted the child, while others say she gave birth to the child and gave it to the man to raise. Anyway, she has no contact with us anymore."
Chen Ru whispered: "The man was not affected in any way. He still had a good job after graduation and married a well-matched wife arranged by his family. On the other hand, she has lost contact with us for many years, and no one knows whether she is doing well or not!
"
A relationship is destined to be fruitless, and having a relationship will not change the outcome.
Both men and women were students at school, but in the end it was only the female classmate who dropped out due to pregnancy, and the man was not greatly affected.
does it worth?
Confused!
Wen Ying was dubious, suspecting that Chen Ru had made up a counterexample story to warn her. Chen Ru was not angry: "Why did I make up such a lie to deceive you? That girl is my classmate, and naturally she is also your Aunt Wu's classmate. See you next time.
If you ask your Aunt Wu, please ask her if this is the case."
Why did Wu Chunqin wait until so late to get married?
I was somewhat affected by this incident.
Wu Chunqin feels that it is too dangerous for a woman to enter marriage when she is not strong enough. Let alone marriage, even the intimate relationship before marriage is dangerous. When we are in love, it is true that we vow to each other, and it is also true to destroy each other when we are no longer in love.
If you place all your hopes on your partner, what should you do if your partner changes his mind?
The female classmate back then couldn't handle her partner's change of heart.
She can't even take care of herself.
Having a relationship is not something that can be accomplished by one person. It is not the fault of the female classmate who does not know how to use contraception. In the end, the man is basically not affected and still lives much better than ordinary people. The female classmate dropped out of school and moved away from home for many years.
this is the truth!
Chen Ru brought up the old story not to intimidate Wen Ying, but to teach Wen Ying how to protect herself.
The starting point is good, and the teaching method is very hard-core.
If Wen Ying had really just come of age, how would she dare to go too far after hearing such a story? She must stick to her bottom line honestly.
Now, Wen Ying couldn't confirm the progress herself, so she could only assure Chen Ru: "I know, I will definitely protect myself!"