Then the old director suggested that we go out to have something to eat at noon. He said, "The food in the hotel is really terrible."
I said: "Let's boil the mutton."
He smiled and said: "There is one not far from the hotel."
I looked at the time and said, "I'll go after calling Director Leng."
He said: "I'll order the food first."
I nodded. I knew that he didn't want to disturb me on the phone. He was once the head of our provincial admissions office. Although he has stepped down now, it is really not easy to be able to serve as a consultant without interfering in specific matters.
After calling Director Leng, I reported the situation to him, and then said to him: "Director Leng, Governor He's opinion is that it is best for you to come in person. Also, the leaders of Peking University and Tsinghua University
It's best if you call us to invite us. The dinner is scheduled for tomorrow night. If we don't invite them in advance, what if they make other arrangements tomorrow? It will be troublesome if they can't arrive."
He was silent for a while and then said: "I, the director of the Provincial Education Commission, have been led away by you, the admissions director. Xiao Feng, I really belong to you."
I sensed that he was not joking with me, so I hurriedly said: "Director Leng, how dare I do that? Without you, nothing would have been accomplished now. Director Leng, I'm sorry to bother you.
.”
He said: "Okay, I'll call Tsinghua and Peking University right away. Say hello to your office and buy my ticket right away... Wait, let's wait until Governor He replies.
, if she wants to go to Beijing, ask your office to buy the ticket as well."
I agreed repeatedly.
He then asked me: "Xiao Feng, you are studying medicine. At my age, I always get up at night to urinate. What kind of medicine should I take?"
I immediately understood what kind of problem he might have, "Director Leng, I will buy you some medicine right away. When you arrive in Beijing, I will give it to you directly. Problems like yours are a common phenomenon after people reach middle age.
, the best way is to warm up.”
He smiled and said, "You might as well become my personal health doctor."
I also smiled, "It's an honor."
When we were having lunch at noon, Director Liang said that Wu Shuang's arrangements had been put in place. But now I suddenly became worried, because Director Leng still hadn't responded.
I said: "If no one comes from Peking University or Tsinghua University tomorrow night, it will be a joke."
The old director said: "I don't think it matters. The most important thing about this matter is the attitude of the country in recruiting students. As long as we have leaders from the province here tomorrow, it will be fine. We can specially invite them to the universities again. Of course.
, it would be better if they could come.”
I said: "The main reason is that I have told Minister Dou that they are coming."
The old director said: "Director Feng, there is something I don't know whether I should say or not."
I hurriedly said: "Old director, why are you and I still seeing each other like this? You are an elder I respect very much. If you have anything to say, just say it."
He took a look at Director Liang and then said to me: "What I want to say is that you young people all have one thing in common, that is, you are too impatient. Director Feng, you are a leader.
It’s okay to be anxious when doing things, but no matter how anxious you are, you must stay calm. Do you think I’m right?”
I suddenly felt ashamed, because what he said was true. I am really too anxious when encountering some things, and I want to get things done right away, but in the process, I often become impatient.
, so I often think poorly and even cause unnecessary trouble. In fact, in the final analysis, this is all because I am too impulsive.
I said: "Old director, your criticism is right. I will definitely pay attention to it in the future."
He sighed: "All young people are like this. But Xiao Feng, you are still very young now, and you have reached the position of deputy director at such a young age. And Xiao Liang, you are also relatively young among division-level cadres."
Director Liang said: "Deputy director level."
The old director nodded and said: "Of course I know. The recruitment level of our province is half a level lower than that of the Provincial Education Commission. But that's not what I want to say. What I want to say is that it is a good thing that you young people have passion for doing things, but
It is easy to make mistakes when you are anxious about many things. Look at those big leaders, how calm they are in doing things. Therefore, you need to practice. When encountering anything, you must first restrain your mind, and in many cases
Don't be too anxious, and be patient. Only in this way can you calm down and think about how to deal with the problem. Officialdom, in the final analysis, is still about the knowledge of doing things, and doing things is not that important."
I completely agree with what he said. In fact, I also know that not many people in the officialdom actually work. In fact, what everyone pursues is not to be a director, but to avoid getting into trouble. I went to toast him with a glass of wine and said, "Old director, you
He has rich experience in this area, so tell us more today.”
Director Liang also went to propose a toast to him, "Yes, old director, Director Feng is considered to be very outstanding among our young people, but I am even worse in this regard. Please tell us more."
The old director laughed "haha", "Actually, I haven't learned many things in my whole life. It is precisely because of my weird temper that I will work as the provincial admissions director until retirement, and will never be promoted.
Up. Actually, this is mainly because I am unwilling to change my nature, and at the same time I take many things lightly. The purpose of reminding you of this today is that I don’t want you to follow my old path in the future. After all, you are still very young.
, the road ahead is still long. I hope you can all go further in the future."
I hurriedly said to Director Liang: "Director Liang, let's pay another toast to the old director."
I know that the old director will only open up his chatterbox when he drinks to a certain extent. Besides, there is nothing else going on today. It would be very interesting for us to chat about this topic together.
And you might even gain something.
Sure enough, after drinking several drinks in a row, the old director suddenly became more talkative. He asked us: "Tell me, what is the most important thing in this officialdom?"
Director Liang said: "Human relationships, right?"
I nodded and said, "I also think interpersonal relationships are the most important. As the saying goes? It's okay to say you can do it, and it's okay to say you can't do it. That's how our employment system is now. But it's much better now.
After all, the supervisory power of public opinion is getting stronger and stronger, so political achievements gradually become more important."
The old director said: "That's the truth. You are right, interpersonal relationships are indeed very important, but in the final analysis it is not the most important thing in officialdom, because the establishment of interpersonal relationships requires a foundation. In addition to a person's personality,
In addition to social skills, there is another most critical factor. Do you know what this most critical factor is?"
Director Liang was shaking his head. I thought about it and said, "Are you watching people's emotions?"
The old director nodded and said: "Yes. It means observing words and expressions. A person's every word, action, and even look in his eyes convey some subtle messages to others. These messages reflect a person's true mood and true character at that time.
. We all know that many times, it is not easy for us to really understand a person and understand his true thoughts. People usually hide themselves out of defense or deception.
Behind an invisible mask, you don’t let others know your psychology and thoughts easily. When we appreciate a portrait of a character, we are often attracted by its eyes first. Eyes are the windows to the soul and the most expressive organ.
, a person's emotions and desires can be expressed in the eyes. The same is true in reality. If we want to know a person's thoughts, look at his eyes, and we can understand seven or eight points. Research shows that the eyes are a barrier. The eyes are the brain.
Extending in the orbit, there are third-level neurons at the bottom of the eyeball, which are like cerebral cortex cells and have the ability to analyze and synthesize; changes in the pupils, movements of the eyeballs, etc. are directly controlled by the cranial nerves, so people's emotions naturally
It can be reflected from the eyes: twinkling eyes, indicating that the plan is based on the heart; upward eyes, strong attraction; bright eyes, representing independent opinions; looking at people with cold eyes, suspicious; dull eyes, lacking fighting spirit; blinking eyes, endless knowledge;
Wink at others to show your charm; wink and wink to convey secrets; look at people from top to bottom in a high-profile manner; stare at others and think of other things; dare not look into the eyes of others, feeling inferior; look away first when meeting for the first time, thinking of being at an advantage.
status; looking askance at others, showing rejection; appearing to be sleeping but not sleeping, showing scheming; lowering eyes, showing contempt. We should observe carefully when we get along with others."
I deeply agree. In the final analysis, this is a method of observing other people's psychological reactions, but what I know is not so detailed. I said: "It makes sense. What else is there?"
He smiled slightly and said: "The movements of a person's hands actually have hidden meanings. Under normal circumstances, when taking an oath in a solemn and serious occasion, you must make a fist with your right hand and raise it to the height of your right eyebrow. Sometimes when giving a speech or speaking
When clenching your fists, it means to the audience: I am powerful. But if you clench your fists in front of someone who has a conflict, it means: I am not afraid. Do you want to taste my fist? From this
It seems that clenching fists can bring strength and security to people. On the other hand, people who always clench fists may also be insecure in their hearts. So I used to often observe other people's hands.
So I came up with this rule: clenching your fists means you may feel insecure inside; crossing your fingers is to hide your true inner thoughts; crossing your hands in front of your chest is a challenging posture; spreading your palms when speaking
, means honesty and reliability; the ten fingertips touching to form a spire shape means self-confidence; twisting the hands with fingers interlaced means helplessness; people who like to pull their hair mostly have distinctive personalities; twiddling their lips with fingertips and biting nails means that
Feeling uneasy; those who stare at the other person before shaking hands want to have a psychological advantage; shaking the other person's hand forcefully back is a sign of enthusiasm; those who shake hands vigorously are mostly dictatorial; those who shake hands with moderate strength and look at the other person are trustworthy