This is an era that requires "showing off". Rather than waiting for others to discover you in obscurity, it is better to choose a good opportunity to "show off" yourself at any time.
Today's work needs to emphasize both content and form, strength and image. From personal life to social work, it is still necessary to show yourself appropriately, otherwise the alley will be deep, and no matter how fragrant the wine is, it will not float far. Showing off is not possible.
Reject strength; putting on a show absolutely requires strength.
From the perspective of a person's entire life development, on the one hand, each of us is constantly building, cultivating and transforming ourselves; on the other hand, we are showing our self-worth and gaining social realization and recognition from others. This is performance or
It is "show". Psychological research shows that moderate self-confidence can adjust people's psychological balance and is beneficial to physical and mental health. People have desires, but in this fiercely competitive society, they often suffer from failure, setbacks, and negative spiritual blows.
, so the need to be respected, affirmed, and self-actualized is often not met. If this accumulates, you will have low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and even mental breakdown. At this time, you need appropriate self-affirmation to motivate yourself.
Most people in the workplace hope to be appreciated and recognized by their leaders, but if this hope is always passively waiting, hope will eventually turn into despair one day. People who naively think that they can become famous in one fell swoop by working hard, must know this
There are leaders above the old leaders, and they may often face the dilemma of having too much to take care of themselves, or they may be waiting for their bosses to appreciate them. Therefore, as a person in the workplace, appropriately creating opportunities for oneself to shine will help personal career development. For example, when
When you achieve certain results or complete a task ahead of schedule through hard work, don't forget to do personal public relations. The meeting is a rare stage. Seize the opportunity to speak at the right time and show your personal abilities. You must be able to make a voice to attract the attention of the leader.
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While expressing your merits to your leaders, be sure not to be too showy. Doing favors to your colleagues in a timely manner can win favor, and it can also be considered as buying an insurance policy for yourself. Everyone will enjoy the blessings, and you will be responsible for the difficulties. When you ask for credit from your boss, give credit to your boss.
Team and boss, if you mention your contribution skillfully, the boss will remember you, and your colleagues will be grateful to you. Your brightness will be shown next time you have the opportunity. Don’t be afraid of others criticizing you for your great achievements. If your efforts are not seen by your boss, your own
Talent is buried.
However, in the workplace, it is not enough to have the courage to express yourself. You also need to be good at expressing yourself and not make people feel that you are too expressive. A person who loves to express himself too often is not popular in the workplace. He loves to express himself too much.
As a self-conscious person, when the leader comes to understand the situation, he always rushes to speak. Every time, it becomes a separate conversation between himself and the leader, depriving other colleagues of the opportunity to communicate with the leader. When chatting together, he can only sing a one-man show.
Or if it is a topic that only one person is interested in, your popularity with colleagues will naturally not be very good.
In fact, everyone loves to express themselves deep down, and everyone hopes to have the opportunity to express themselves, so if you only care about your own performance and take away the opportunities for others to express themselves, it will appear selfish. In the workplace
Above all, don’t always be self-centered and treat others as the audience. Over time, others will dismantle your stage, silence you, and leave you to perform alone. To put on a show, you still need an audience, and you still need to have an audience.
The more the merrier.
In fact, in the workplace, you need to show off your merits to give yourself the opportunity to shine, but you can't go too far. There is a very important concept in the workplace that your merits cannot overwhelm the boss, and you must have a second-string relationship with your boss.
The mentality is humility. You must know that "when the birds are gone, the good bow is hidden, the cunning rabbit is dead, and the lackeys are cooked." This is the eternal truth. Of course, overt and covert fights with colleagues will often happen, but if you want to be superior,
The politics in this workplace have to be studied carefully.
For example, when a leader assigns a task or work, and when you successfully complete it, you must be humble and neither humble nor arrogant. Never be complacent and brag about yourself, or speak highly of yourself in front of others and the leader.
In other words, performance must be measured and show the style of a general.
Everyone should have a good understanding of their own personality, temperament, expertise and skills in their own career, because if you don’t know your own strengths and weaknesses, then the leader will not understand them even less, and in this way they will not be able to
Show off your talent.
How do you know your own strengths and weaknesses? In addition to what you think you know, the people around us are actually the best mirrors of ourselves:
Talk to your boss about your work suggestions, not the work content, but your thoughts and mentality;
Talk to your family members, such as parents, spouse, children, brothers, etc., about the impact, feelings and thoughts they think the work has on you;
Talk to your friends about what they think you need to do at work and what they think;
Based on the above content, write down the conversation and give yourself some suggestions, opinions, and practices. In this way, you will know yourself from different perspectives, and then you can correct yourself.
In short, performance performance is not only very important, but also a very profound knowledge, which plays a very important role in the success of many people.
I drank with people from the military academy at night. Although I tried my best not to drink too much, I couldn't stand the influence of the bold and generous character of the people in the army, so I ended up drinking too much.
After returning to my room in the hotel, I didn’t even want to take a shower because I just wanted to sleep. But as soon as I got into bed, I heard the phone ringing. I hurriedly went to get it to check...the only option was to answer the phone.
, because this call came from Zhong Feng.
"I drank too much. I'm getting ready to go to bed." I said, meaning to remind her that if the matter is not important, we can talk about it tomorrow.
But she laughed on the phone, "Why don't you sound drunk? Are you lying to me? You must be with some beautiful woman. Tell me quickly, if so I won't bother you.
"
I couldn't help but smile bitterly, "What? I'm in the hotel where admissions are held, and I had dinner with the admissions staff of the military academy today. They are so good at drinking."
She smiled and said: "Only a ghost can believe it. Let me ask you, today I found a beautiful woman in your restaurant that is being renovated. She said that she is the person you hired to manage the restaurant in the future. Feng Xiao, you have good vision.
Oh. I am a woman, and I think she is very beautiful."
She was talking about Ruan Zhenzhen. Did she go to the decoration site today? It seems that this woman is quite good. I thought to myself. Then I said: "I really invited her, but she is the sister of a friend of mine, and she has already
We’re married. I’m asking her to take care of her, right? Zhong Feng, don’t make random guesses?”
She sighed and said: "Hey! I see, this woman will become your favorite at some point. I found that as long as she is a beautiful woman, almost no one can escape from you. For example, I
Well, haven’t I slept with you? Really, even I can’t control myself from doing that with you. You are so popular with women, I can’t help it.”
I suddenly felt embarrassed, but her words aroused my lust, maybe because of drinking. After thinking about it carefully, I felt that her words were not wrong. Now, even I am surprised about this matter.
Le: Am I really destined to be lucky?
"Hey! Why aren't you talking? Are you really drunk? Are you asleep? I miss you very much today." As I was thinking about it, I immediately heard her talking on the phone.
Her words immediately ignited the desire in my heart, "Where are you? I'll be right over."
But she smiled coquettishly, "No, I'll pick you up. Haha! Of course I know that you have been staying in the hotel where students are admitted recently. I will be on the roadside outside the hotel, under a tree. After you come out, I will
You can see it.”
I was so happy that I hurriedly got up from the bed, combed my hair briefly, looked at the clothes on my body, and felt that they were quite pleasing to the eye, and then quickly went out.
Of course she was there. Her car was parked in the shadow of the lights under the trees. I opened the door and quickly got in. After getting in the car, I looked at the direction I came from. Nothing seemed out of the ordinary.
She noticed me looking around and immediately smiled, "Don't worry, I'm watching for you."
Now I feel embarrassed.
Then she drove to a hotel. She had already booked a room here.
I was a little surprised, "How do you know I will have time today?"
She smiled and said: "Forget it if you don't have time, I just live alone. Besides, aren't you already in my car now?"
Immediately, she gave me a charming smile, and my heart suddenly swayed...
The lights in the room are dim, which itself is full of temptation. We haven't been together for a long time, and we haven't done anything like this together since we came back from abroad. And the process when we were abroad has become a temptation for me at this moment.
The desire factor.
I hugged her immediately.
"I want you." I took her earlobe in my mouth and whispered into her ear.
Her body trembled and she closed her eyes unconsciously.
The electric current from her lips instantly spread throughout my body, making me numb...
I woke up at dawn, and she woke up too. I had long discovered that she had the same habit of getting up early as me. She came and hugged me, "Feng Xiao, do you know? What I saw about that woman yesterday was really...
I’m jealous.”
I smiled and said: "You, I really don't mean that to her. You told me about this matter yesterday, why are you still thinking about it today? Look, I didn't even think about that woman.
It’s done, you reminded me.”
She sighed: "Feng Xiao, do you know? When I was sick, I planned to become a monk, but they didn't want me."
I laughed and said, "Looking at how sick you were at that time, how could anyone want you? Today's monks are all snobbish."
She shook her head, "No. At that time, I told the abbot of the nunnery that I was willing to dedicate all my property to them and just wanted to spend my life there peacefully. But they still didn't want me."
I was suddenly shocked: At that time, she had at least millions of dollars in property, right? So I hurriedly asked: "Where is that temple? Why don't they want you? Did you give a reason?"
She said: "Feng Xiao, do you believe in Buddhism?"
I shook my head, "I don't believe it."
She sighed, "I believe it, but I can't let it go." (To be continued)