I really didn't expect that Kang Demao would be so honest. You know, the things he told me were the biggest traumas he had ever suffered in his heart. Moreover, he is now talking about the hurts he has suffered.
It's just adding salt to the wounds I've had in the past.
Remember what Freud said - if a person is hurt in childhood, he will feel a strong sense of insecurity when he grows up.
Freud compared the conscious part of a person to the tip of an iceberg above the water, while the subconscious is the huge part of the iceberg below the water. Although the subconscious is unknown, it often controls people's behavior unconsciously.
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He also proposed the "childhood shadow" theory, which believes that people's traumatic experiences, especially childhood traumatic experiences, have an important impact on people's lives. Most of these traumas are suppressed to the subconscious area because of people's self-protection mechanisms. Although
We think it is gone, but if you are accidentally touched by something, it will jump out and make you miserable, and even lose control of your emotions and behavior. The subconscious mind is generally suppressed by consciousness. For example, although desires control what we do
There are many things happening, but our consciousness always suppresses them.
So, at least I can feel that Kang Demao has always been insecure, such as his suspicion of Lilac. It is precisely because of this that he is so eager to become stronger and stronger as soon as possible. Therefore, he behaves too much.
Pursue shortcuts.
In the past, I only knew that he had lived in a very poor family since he was a child, so he had always suffered from low self-esteem. And that was why I sympathized with him.
His words just now made me suddenly feel a sense of extreme sadness - doesn't his personal experience illustrate the sadness of education in our country over the years?
Many people say that the failure of our country’s education is due to insufficient investment. Some people say that there are problems with the examination system. Others say that there are problems with textbooks, educational methods, etc. But now, I finally realize that the real problem with our education is
Where is it——
What is really lacking in our education is respect, respect for everyone as a human being. That is, worship of human dignity.
In fact, as long as we pay careful attention, we will understand a very important fact - today's government is a government with economics as its core mission. In the eyes of the government, people are also purely economic animals who make and spend money. For example, official textbooks
Said: Our main contradiction is the contradiction between the people's growing material and cultural needs and backward productivity... This is actually materializing people and turning them into desires.
Maslow's five-level theory of human needs believes that human needs are arranged in a certain order according to importance and hierarchy, from basic to complex, and are divided into: physiological needs, which are the basic needs for personal survival. Such as eating, drinking,
Residence; safety needs, including psychological and material security, such as freedom from the threat of theft, prevention of dangerous accidents, job security, social insurance and retirement funds, etc.; social needs, people are members of society and need friendship
and a sense of belonging to the group, interpersonal communication requires mutual sympathy, mutual help and approval; respect needs, including the requirement to be respected by others and having inner self-esteem; self-actualization needs, refers to realizing one's own expectations for life through one's own efforts, thereby
Really feel meaningful about life and work.
This theory is one-sided. For example, it cannot explain why there are many socially responsible poor people in our world from ancient times to the present.
Even for poor people, do they always list material needs as the most important value? Mandarin believes that material is the most important. While Mandarin is spreading, it also spreads this materialistic view to many Chinese people and shapes the concepts of many Chinese people.
and thinking. Then let us open the Chinese textbook and see what our traditional concepts are: Qi was hungry. Qian Ao was on the road for food, waiting for the hungry to eat. Those who were hungry were covered with clothes.
Hey, Maomao came. Qian Ao held food on his left and a drink on his right, saying: "Ouch! Come eat!" He raised his eyes and looked at it, saying, "I won't eat the food I came to you, so that's what I do!" and then thanked him!
Yan, eventually died without eating. When Zengzi heard about it, he said: "Weiyu! It's a sigh, it can go away, and it's a thank you, it can be eaten."
This is an article from "Book of Rites. Tan Gong". Translated into vernacular, it goes like this: A severe famine occurred in Qi. Qian Ao prepared meals on the roadside for hungry people passing by. There was a hungry man.
The man covered his face with his sleeves, shuffled his steps and looked dimly in his eyes. Qian Ao held food in his left hand and soup in his right hand, and said, "Hey! Come and eat!" The hungry man raised his eyebrows and looked up at him.
, said: "I ended up in this situation just because I refused to eat the food that was given to me in contempt!" Qian Ao caught up with him and apologized to him, but he still refused to eat and eventually starved to death. After Zengzi heard this, he said
: "I'm afraid it doesn't have to be like this! When Qian Ao calls rudely, of course he can refuse, but after he apologizes, he can still go and eat."
This is the allusion of "Don't eat the food that comes after you".
The values embodied in this article are completely different from the current official concepts. I think this ancient article is full of meaning, that is, poor people also have dignity, and poor people should also respect dignity.
It is a pity that in the official language, the status of human beings is too small. Human beings are a species full of spirituality, thought and imagination, and are by no means just consumption animals.
Therefore, what we set up in education is a cage of human nature and a kind of self-dwarfing. This is not only the misfortune of each of us, but also the misfortune of the entire country.
Sadly, this kind of education is the system, or the inevitable result of the system.
In the final analysis, this is brainwashing.
In today's North Korea, or in our country a few decades ago, the citizens have been brainwashed under this kind of education system. Although reform and opening up have been carried out for many years, the education model based on brainwashing still exists.
If I analyze Kang Demao's experience in reverse, it is not difficult for me to find that there are deeper reasons -
Brainwashing education is to make it easier to rule, and such an education model must exist in a country with a privileged class. Whichever governance model the system adopts, it maintains the same thing, and that is privilege.
Yes, it is privilege. With the development of privilege today, it is no longer just a power unique to some high-level people. It has become a concept deeply implanted in the souls of the Chinese people. Therefore, this is
Such a phenomenon - as long as people have a little bit of power in their hands, they will use the little power they have in their hands.
Isn't this what happened to Kang Demao since he was a child? Because his family was poor, the teachers used the little power they had to despise him. They would never think about what this would do to a child.
How much harm will it cause in the future. (To be continued)