I even think that he was drunk or excited. Otherwise, he would not have said such things to me casually. Drunk people tend to reveal their true nature, including their purest side.
So it is easier to trust people.
But I definitely didn’t want to drink anymore. Firstly, I didn’t want him to make a fool of himself, and secondly, Zhu Dan was waiting for me. So I immediately refused, “Next time. Next time you call a few people out and we can eat together.”
dinner."
He seemed to suddenly realize his excitement, and then said: "Okay. Then you go back and rest early."
I asked Xiao Sui to send me directly to Zhu Dan. He is not from Shangjiang City, so I am not worried about him knowing about my relationship with Zhu Dan. Besides, I am single now, so it doesn't matter if I go to meet a girl.
After getting on the bus, I suddenly felt a little funny: Secretary Qian said that there are many beautiful female teachers at Jiangnan University who like him. How is this possible? It is possible that there are one or two, after all, his seat is there, and there are
of women don’t entirely value a man’s appearance.
But his performance just now made me feel something: he is very confident. In fact, this is understandable. After a man succeeds in his career, self-confidence will follow. Also, greed for money and lust are actually
What's inside a man's nature has nothing to do with a person's appearance.
From a psychological point of view, human nature is human nature. Human nature is also called the id. The id acts according to the principle of pleasure. The id is the most primitive part of each person's personality. Everyone's
Nature is the most primitive self, and the id is the storage bank of human biological impulses and desires.
The ego is composed of the original energy of various living things and is completely at the unconscious level. It is all the psychological accumulation that is fixed in the body when a person is born. It is suppressed and excluded from the person for a while.
Irrational, unconscious vitality, drive, instinct, impulse, desire and other psychological abilities.
The ego is the unity of human consciousness and material body, forming a whole life body. The inner whole of human beings constitutes the original existence of human beings and is the original form of the spiritual level.
For the original and completely unconscious spiritual level of the id, it contains all instinctive driving forces that require immediate gratification. It is like a cauldron filled with water boiling with instincts and desires. It acts according to the pleasure principle and eagerly
They are constantly looking for outlets and blindly pursuing satisfaction. Everything in the self is always unconscious.
However, since human beings have now entered a civilized society, due to the emergence of legal and moral constraints, people have a complex relationship between their id and the external world. In order for individuals to adapt to reality, they restrict and suppress their id and begin to follow reality.
Principles, thus forming the self.
The relationship between the id and the self is not static, but is always in a contradictory movement of conflict, entanglement and coordination. It is this contradictory movement that maintains an unfair but almost reasonable society. However, without the constraints of law and morality, people will
The self will disappear, people will be left with only their id, and the world will be in chaos. Human society will return to a form similar to the primitive forest where wild beasts live, because the id seeks its own survival and the satisfaction of instinctive desires.
The necessary driving force. If this driving force is not restrained and restricted by the law, it will arbitrarily derive many criminal behaviors. Therefore, the reason why some people do not commit crimes is not because human nature is good, but because of the constraints of the law and because of their own
Constraints, only legal and moral constraints will promote the internal coordination of a person's personality and ensure that people's interactions with the outside world can proceed smoothly in legitimate ways.
Many seemingly moral behaviors or behaviors that abide by morality are done for self-interest and are driven by the ego. The two most important reasons are personal reputation and legal norms, both of which are motivated by self-interest.
The purpose of moral behavior for personal reputation implies the satisfaction of one's own wishes. The motivation for doing good deeds is to gain the respect of others and thus produce psychological satisfaction. The moral behavior that is forced by legal norms is to avoid legal punishment and avoid legal punishment.
These actions have no real moral significance if they are done because of the losses they have suffered.
The extreme form of the ego is that everything is mine and others have nothing. The vulgar situation based on this reason is what we often see, those developed for physiological needs such as appetite, sexual desire, comfort, etc.
Such as robbery and murder and other extreme illegal activities, so if you don't do bad things, you are not considered a bad person, but you are not considered noble either.
The motivations for human behavior can be divided into three types: wishing to be happy for oneself, wishing for others to suffer, and making others happy to achieve one's own happiness. These three motivations are self-interest, malice, and sympathy. Self-interest and malice are the driving forces of immorality. In fact,
When most people work, they have no direct motivation to do good for others, but their work indirectly promotes doing good to others, and the real main motivation is the salary after work.
A person who does not molest others does not mean that he does not have sexual desire. It is just that the constraints of laws and ethics prevent people from expressing their sexual desire to their fullest. The human body is naturally formed by sex hormones and gonads.
The sexual endocrine system will naturally maintain the basic tension and excitement of sexual desire between the sexes. The human body's cerebral cortex, spinal cord low sexual excitement center and nervous system composed of erogenous zones and conductive nerves will ensure that the body is responsive to the environment.
The sexy temptation existing in the body can generate reaction energy in a timely and effective manner. According to the principles of physiology, it is impossible for a person not to have sexual desire, and moral etiquette defines sexual desire as lust, so it is impossible for such a person not to be lustful.
Some people are too conservative in their thinking. In the eyes of conservative people, there is something wrong with open-minded people. In the modern world, the concept of sex has become more open, and some things with a higher erotic meaning have been generally accepted by the public, such as
Women-related things, such as bishoujo games and gothic lolita, which have become quite popular in Japan and other East Asian regions in recent years, are an example.
According to the mainstream values of modern young people, satisfying sexual desire is an important part of improving the quality of life. On the contrary, the behavior of opposing sexual desire is considered immoral. Therefore, various sexual activity products have been developed, and their uses are not limited to health care.
The sex products industry is also developing rapidly in China. China holds sex products trade exhibitions every year. The number of exhibitors and visitors has been increasing. People are also very willing to buy sex products for fun. Sexual liberation has become the general trend.
, the reason why some people think that people with sexual desires are abnormal is because their values are contrary to human nature.
In fact, there is no need to make a fuss. Sexual desire is an instinctive desire in humans, which is beneficial to breeding the next generation. However, generally speaking, the sexual desire of most animals only exists during the estrus period, and the estrus period of animals usually has a certain limit.
time. But for humans, there is no concept of estrus. In other words, humans can be in estrus at any time when they meet a sexy member of the opposite sex. If it must be divided into periods, people's sexual desire will be stronger in the morning. In the morning,
When meeting a sexy girl, the genitals of young and healthy men will naturally erect.
Men will have the desire to have sexual relations or physical contact with another person. The occurrence of sexual desire is related to the physiological basis of both sexes. One is the sexual endocrine system composed of sex hormones and gonads, which maintains sex for both sexes. The basic tension and excitability of the body, and the second one is the nervous system composed of the cerebral cortex, spinal cord hypo-excitability center and erogenous zones and conductive nerves. They ensure the body's timely and effective response ability to the environment. If a person still wants to prove that he The secretion system is normal.
Sexual desire is an instinctive desire, which is beneficial to the reproduction of the next generation. However, generally speaking, the sexual desire of most animals only exists during the estrus period, and the estrus period of animals usually has a certain period. But for humans There is no concept of estrus, or it can be said that humans can be in estrus at any time when they meet a sexy person of the opposite sex.
If you don't learn to control your sexual desire, it will lead to sexual sin. Single people can satisfy their sexual desire through sexual comfort activities. This is a normal thing. People all over the world have this behavior. It is safe and harmless. For men, it can prevent the occurrence of prostatitis and prostate cancer. Both men and women can understand their bodies through comfort, which is beneficial to their future sexual life.
If it must be done in stages, people's sexual desire will be stronger in the morning, which is why young and healthy men's genitals will erect naturally in the morning. As age increases, the chance of morning erection will gradually decrease. It's a very normal thing. There is no need to worry about it, and there is no need to condemn that kind of behavior. Simple physical contact with the opposite sex is even more normal.
People's suppression of desires makes the so-called civilization and so-called morality possible. In fact, people have always established the interests of some people by sacrificing the interests of some people, so they have always used public opinion and propaganda to suppress the desires of some people. Indulging the desires of other people, so-called asceticism has become a tool of rule by interest groups. They fool the people they rule and make them suppress their desires, while the interest groups continue to satisfy their desires. Perhaps this is domination.
From a certain perspective, humans are actually beasts in disguise. Humans have animal nature, but they also know how to be hypocritical. Unlike other animals, humans will hide their desires. (To be continued)