At this moment, my heart has already been touched by her. I know that her words come from the heart, because I understand her and know her.
My eyes were moist, and I couldn't help but reach out and touch her cheek, "Thank you, Yu Min."
Immediately, I quickly turned around and left her office. I was afraid that I would be so deeply moved by her that I would not be able to control my emotions for a while.
Soon after returning to the private room, Director Wu and Kang Demao arrived. We started drinking.
I said to Kang Demao: "De Mao, today's theme is to congratulate Mayor Wu on becoming the mayor of Kangdu. As the deputy director of the Organization Department, please say a few words first."
Kang Demao smiled and said: "Isn't this a small-scale gathering? Let's congratulate together. Old classmate, you organized today, you can speak first."
Mayor Wu said hurriedly: "Today is organized by Mayor Feng, and I'm here to treat you. Minister Kang is our leader, so you decide."
Kang Demao shook his head and said: "We, Director Wu, are here as seniors. None of us should say this first sentence. Let's ask Director Wu to speak."
I smiled and said: "This is a good suggestion. Director Wu, you can be regarded as my teacher, please tell me."
Director Wu laughed, "Actually, I am the last person who should say this first sentence. I am old, and the world from now on is yours. But if you don't say this first sentence, why should we just push it like this today?
At night? I'm hungry. Okay, I said. Come, let's raise a glass together and congratulate Mayor Wu on his promotion."
Everyone laughed and drank together.
This meal lasted until nearly ten o'clock in the evening. Since I didn't bring a car, I asked Director Wu to give me a ride.
After getting on the bus, Director Wu sighed and said, "Xiao Feng, eating with you guys makes me feel a lot of pressure."
I asked him in surprise: "What kind of pressure do you have?"
He said: "You are all so young, and you have already reached the department level. I suddenly felt old."
I smiled and said, "How old are you? You're just a dozen years older than us. Director Wu, your life has a different kind of excitement. In the eyes of many people, you are also the object of their admiration."
He suddenly laughed. After a while, he said to me: "Xiao Feng, you have to pay attention to your Mayor Sun. At least you have to be wary of him in the future."
I looked at him in astonishment, "Director Wu, why do you say that?"
He said: "I hope I'm being overly concerned. Anyway, I saw him show contempt for you several times when we were eating together today. It's obvious that he has some contempt for you in his heart."
I immediately recalled Sun Dabao's situation when we had dinner together in the evening. After a while, I shook my head and said, "Why didn't I notice?"
He said: "Xiao Feng, you are studying medicine. You should know that each of us has forty-three muscles on the face, which can produce more than a thousand different subtle expressions.
Human beings are animals with the most abundant facial expressions. Many of our emotions and inner true feelings are expressed through facial expressions inadvertently or inadvertently.
Every emotion has some common action characteristics. Many times we don't pay attention to it, but after understanding it, we can understand the other person's true feelings.
In other words, each of us will always inadvertently express our inner true emotions through subtle changes in facial expressions. It’s just that many people don’t pay attention.”
I seemed to understand somewhat, but I didn't expect that he had a deep research on behavior.
He continued: "The subtle expression changes on each of our faces are the same, regardless of our nationality and culture.
In fact, most of our human expressions have a biological basis. For example, the amygdala area in the brain controls people's fearful emotional expressions. When a person is threatened, the amygdala area transmits information, and the person will act in a fearful manner. Expression, this is a natural reaction.
Sometimes people's expressions can be deliberately faked. The most important thing to identify a real smile and a fake smile is to look at the crow's feet muscles. Whether it is a child or the elderly, when they really smile, they will grin with the corners of the mouth upward. The crow's feet muscles are wrinkled in Together. Whether there are crow's feet or not, the crow's feet muscles are the same. When you fake smile, the expression of the mouth is the same, but there is no change in the crow's feet muscles.
For example, the classic photo of the famous American movie star Hepburn showing a dignified smile is a typical fake smile, a smile made for posing. Also, when a person's facial expressions are asymmetrical on both sides, the emotions shown Maybe it's just pretending.
If you suddenly speak loudly and then slam your hands on the table, this is a time lag in gestures in response to something terrible. If you are really angry, these two actions will be performed at the same time."
I was very surprised, "Director Wu, I didn't expect you to have such in-depth research on this aspect."
Perhaps my words piqued his interest, and he then continued enthusiastically: "In fact, those who cannot engage in normal social interactions, such as schizophrenia patients, do so precisely because they cannot correctly recognize each other's expressions. All of them reacted in a way that ordinary people cannot understand.
For example, when a patient with schizophrenia sees someone smiling at him or her, it is originally a kind smile, but the patient may interpret it as a hidden threat to himself. This makes it easy to understand why some patients with schizophrenia suddenly engage in violent and harmful behaviors. the reason.
In interpersonal interactions, 90% of non-verbal information comes from the face, eyes, eyebrows, mouth, nose, and subtle changes in facial muscles, all of which express different meanings.
The eyes concentrate most of the information on facial expressions. From the eyes, you can sometimes judge whether a person is calm or guilty, sincere or hypocritical: looking straight at the person appears to be frank; avoiding the gaze appears guilty; squinting the eyes appears frivolous.
The pupils of the eyes can reflect people's psychological changes: when a person sees something interesting or likes something, the pupils will expand; when a person sees something they don't like or hate, the pupils will shrink.
And so on, as long as we observe carefully, we will discover the true side of a person's heart."
I suddenly became nervous: Since he has studied this area so deeply, wouldn't all my false performances in front of him be seen by him? I didn't want to discuss this issue with him anymore, so I hurriedly He asked: "Director Wu, you said earlier that Mayor Sun looked down on me?"
He nodded, "Yes. Because I noticed more than once that when he was looking at you, and when he was talking to you, one corner of his mouth turned up slightly. This is a typical expression of his The contempt for you in my heart." (To be continued)