After taking a shower, I was lying on the bed when Chenchen came in. She asked me: "Smile, are you unhappy?"
I shook my head, "Are you not unhappy? You are right, and I know you are doing it for my own good. I will definitely pay attention to it in the future."
She came to hold my hand and said, "Smile, I was a little excited just now because I suddenly thought of my uncle. Also, I heard that some diseases are genetically inherited, so I was particularly worried about you. I don't want to care about you.
, but I’m really worried.”
I nodded, "I know. Chenchen, but in a job like mine, interpersonal communication is very important, and it's impossible not to drink. Actually, when I was in Shangjiang City, I rarely interacted with people below, and
I also try my best to control my drinking time. But now I don’t know why, but after arriving in a new place, I feel like drinking more often. I think it may be because I am under too much pressure now and I need to use this to reduce stress.
"
She asked me: "Are you under a lot of pressure now?"
I nodded, and then briefly told her the situation I was facing. Finally, I said: "Chenchen, if you say that I don't want to continue to be promoted, it is absolutely a lie. As a person in officialdom, of course, what I pursue is
that power.
Power is not only a man's dream, but also the realization of self-worth. In addition, if power is used well, it will also be a blessing to the people.
A long time ago, I had no interest in power, but now fate has allowed me to enter this circle, and now I understand more and more that if I don't advance in this circle, I will retreat.
In official circles, everything depends on strength. When a person is in office, others will respect you and please you, but once he loses power, he will become the object of people's contempt. Losers in official circles will not gain others.
of sympathy.
So, now I have to work hard to at least hold on to my current position. I have to do this for my children, my family, and myself."
After hearing this, she shook her head and said, "Smile, I think there is something wrong with your mentality. Being an official is not a lifelong thing. Some things are best left to their own devices.
In my memory, before he retired, my uncle was in a similar situation to you now. He would go out drinking every night, and even at home on the weekends, there would be many people looking for him every day. At that time, the impression he gave me was that he was drinking every day.
It's high-spirited.
But then one day, he retired. As a result, in a short period of time, I found that he suddenly became much older and his whole spirit was gone. Laugh, I am not saying that you should not pursue your ideals now, but I feel that you should not pursue your ideals now.
Some things should be taken too seriously.
Who can tell clearly in this life? Maybe it will be smooth all the time, or maybe there will be a lot of troubles along the way. Isn’t that the case with my uncle? He has already retired, but didn’t he almost have a problem? If it hadn’t been for you at that time
If you help, he might die in prison.
Therefore, I think a person should take some things lightly, so that he can accept them calmly even if he encounters something.
Laugh, I didn’t understand this before. I couldn’t let go of my parents’ affairs until my uncle passed away, and I suddenly understood a lot of things.
Your loved ones left this world right before your eyes and turned into dust. Nothing can be more alarming than this."
I immediately understood what she meant, nodded and said: "Chenchen, you are right. I understand."
She added: "Smile, of course I hope you can always go smoothly, because you are right, that is a person's ideal, and you are also a good official.
But I don’t want you to take some things too seriously. If you take them too seriously, you will feel too stressed and it will also affect the importance you attach to other things in your life.
I think, for some things, we should certainly see the best side of it, but at the same time think of the worst possibility, so that we can accept any result calmly in the future."
I didn’t expect that she could say such words. She was a completely different person from the previous one. I smiled and said, “Chenchen, you are right. I didn’t expect that you could actually understand some things.
It’s really strange that it’s so thorough. Although I’ve thought about what you just said, I’ve never really understood it.”
She smiled and said, "Don't laugh at me. But what I said just now is really what I was thinking. Maybe some things have been suppressed in my heart for too long, and then I suddenly understood them after they were released."
But I also know that many things are easy to understand, but difficult to actually do them. Don’t you think so?"
I nodded, "Chenchen, thank you. What you just said is right. Now I suddenly understand what you mean. What you mean is that the pressure I feel now is actually unnecessary. If
If I don’t take some things so seriously, I will feel relaxed and it will be easier to get things done. Is this what you mean?”
She nodded, "Yes. I remember there was a male classmate in my class in high school. His grades were always fifth in the class, but he played football every afternoon and rarely stayed up late at night. We
The class teacher went to talk to him, saying that he was very smart and hoped that he could spend more time studying. In that case, it would be entirely possible to reach the top three in the class.
As a result, the classmate listened to his words and immersed himself in studying every day. However, his grades declined instead, and he had just passed the majors in the college entrance examination. Why do you think this is? Isn't this pressure?
Is it caused by being too big?
Let’s talk about another classmate in our class. His grades have always been above average, and the teacher didn’t pay much attention to him. But we knew him because he played football every day like the classmate I mentioned earlier. Later, he played football every day.
He performed very well in the college entrance examination and was later admitted to a key military academy."
I nodded, "Chenchen, what you said makes sense and is completely in line with Zhuangzi's thoughts. What you said is 'inaction'. I didn't expect that you unintentionally figured out the most philosophical things of the ancients."
She suddenly felt embarrassed, "How can I be so powerful? Do nothing? I didn't tell you not to do anything?"
I almost laughed out loud, "Zhuangzi's inaction does not mean doing nothing or doing nothing, but it means not acting recklessly, not being chaotic, complying with the objective situation, and respecting the laws of nature. Laozi said, 'Inaction means everything.
"Wei" means that as long as you don't do anything rashly, nothing can't be done. Lao Tzu once said, "If you do nothing, everything will be cured." It means to treat social life and all things with the attitude of "inaction"
Nothing is impossible or impossible.” (To be continued)