Some people are busy getting married, while others are busy being single.
While Hong Yanwu was enjoying the happiness of marriage, no one would have thought that Yang Weifan had just waited for the divorce procedures to be completed.
To be honest, even Yang Weifan himself could not have imagined that he and Zhou Manna would reach this point.
Indeed, when Zhou Manna stubbornly went abroad, he discovered that he did not really understand his wife.
But at the beginning, he did not think that his marriage to Zhou Manna was so hopeless.
He always thought that Zhou Manna was just too playful, too willful, and too immature.
It was because she was an only child that she was spoiled by the two elders of the Zhou family.
Think about it, even she is still a child, how can she have the courage to take on the responsibility of being a mother?
So he tried his best to restrain his sorrow and pain, tried his best to consider from the other party's point of view, and took the initiative to excuse all Zhou Manna's actions.
He thought that as long as Zhou Manna saw what a truly foreign country looked like, she would be satisfied.
Slowly, through comprehensive cognition and observation, you will be able to make a rational judgment.
At that time, they can have a good talk.
She will probably realize the mistakes she made because of her idealization, and she will probably regret it.
But no matter whether she takes the initiative to admit her mistake to him, as long as she wants to come back, he is willing to forgive her at any time.
From then on, they completely forget all the unpleasantness, live a good life, and restore their former peace and tranquility.
He even had another child so that the parents of the two families would no longer have to worry about them.
But he never expected that even though he always believed that the difficulties faced by their relationship were temporary, everything would get better one day.
But the development of things was exactly the opposite of what he expected.
First of all, since Zhou Manna went abroad, he could get less and less news about her.
She said she didn't have time to reply to him because she was very busy with work and study.
In this way, her letter quickly changed from several pages to one piece of paper.
Sometimes I can't even finish writing a page, and the content of the letter is full of idealized perceptions of life abroad and it becomes more and more serious.
So even though he kept insisting on writing letters to Zhou Manna, the letters were full of thoughts about her and concern for her life.
But this long-lasting persistence was replaced by the other party's gradual indifference.
In the end, her only feedback became a routine overseas phone call every week.
Even because the time is random and there is a time difference, sometimes he may not receive it.
Then this call will have to wait until next week when she remembers it.
Secondly, even these few communication opportunities can still make the tension caused by their different ideas increasingly serious.
After taking her own initiative and going abroad for a period of time, Zhou Manna actually wanted to interfere in Yang Weifan's future.
She was dissatisfied with Yang Weifan's further studies at the Military Art Academy and proposed that Yang Weifan should also do so and come to Paris to study vocal music.
In this way, Yang Weifan can enter the international music scene and achieve more brilliant achievements.
At the same time, they can also have a romantic relationship with each other.
But on this issue, Yang Weifan has his own persistence and clear understanding.
He knew where his current achievements came from, so he naturally refused.
The reason is also very good. He said that his music can only grow on the soil of the Republic.
He went abroad to study vocal music, which was not only blind but also ineffective.
Moreover, he has never thought about entering the international music scene. He only needs recognition and liking from domestic audiences.
There is no need to hang around behind the foreign devils, and there is no need for them to admit anything.
So instead, she asked Zhou Manna if she had had enough fun and when she would be back.
As a result, the two of them were at odds with each other.
Probably influenced by the free air of France, Zhou Manna, who is abroad, is not only good-tempered, but also knowledgeable.
After the two quarreled countless times, she actually knew how to use legal means to coerce her husband.
She said that if Yang Weifan doesn't go abroad, he doesn't love her, and then their differences will become more and more serious in the future, so that they will no longer have a common language.
In that case it would be better to get divorced.
He also said that she was not planning to come back anyway, and it was Yang Weifan's choice whether he wanted to maintain a relationship with her or not.
What happened next was even more unexpected to Yang Weifan.
Because when he deliberately broke off contact and wanted both of them to calm down.
Zhou Manna actually didn't just talk about it, she actually sent a domestic lawyer to visit him to handle the divorce procedures.
This is really unbearable.
Yang Weifan drove away the lawyer, and in a rage, he finally scolded Zhou Manna on the phone.
Because she lost control of her emotions, she couldn't help but bring up old matters again and start questioning her for having an abortion on her own initiative.
But what he didn't expect was that in the face of his accusation, Zhou Manna not only showed no regrets, but actually hurt him even more seriously.
She claimed that women should not be childbearing machines, and that many French women never wanted to have children.
So not only does she have no regrets, she also doesn't plan to have any more children in the future.
In Yang Weifan's disbelief, Zhou Manna's voice seemed to come from a very deep cave.
At this time, she made full use of all the insights she had absorbed abroad to give Yang Weifan an emotional fatal blow.
"I know what you think of me. But I don't care. Don't flaunt yourself too high with your morals. Because we are all normal people, ordinary people, mortals."
"I have never noticed in the past that your thoughts are so outdated and pedantic? What kind of revolutionary tradition and patriotism do you really believe in? It's ridiculous and childish."
"Let me tell you. People, first of all, live for themselves. They need food and clothing, work, rest, entertainment, social interaction and reputation. They are all for themselves and not for others. They are their own physical and psychological needs.
It's not someone else's. As long as you can get along well with others, care for each other, help each other, and respect each other."
"However, if you want to hinder and sacrifice yourself too much for others, that is beyond the nature of ordinary people like us. You are like this, and so am I. It is better for each other not to be too demanding of the other, and not to have too high demands."
"I'm not afraid to tell you. After I came out, I realized that in fact, the relationship between husband and wife is nothing. Only trying to realize personal value is the first priority. No matter how good the relationship is, if the degree of social recognition between a couple is too different,
There is no way to last a lifetime. No matter how close the relationship is, no one may stay with the other person forever."
"Growing old together? That is an unrealistic and illusory pursuit of the Chinese people. Do you have to use feudal ideas to tie two people like grasshoppers on a rope, and let one person become a stumbling block for the other, then it is moral? Not to mention, if you want to use
Children have come to restrain us women..."
Hearing this frank confession, Yang Weifan felt as cold as if he had fallen into an ice cellar.
He was not afraid whether Zhou Manna would really abandon him, but he still couldn't control a psychological fear.
That's because he didn't know that going abroad turned a person who once cared so much about him into such a cold person?
Or is Zhou Manna originally a selfish woman who is never satisfied like Ayimei in the movie "Cold Heart"?
But in any case, there is no point in studying it in detail.
Because he no longer has any extravagant expectations for his wife who is in a foreign country...
That day, when reality was completely shattered, Yang Weifan notified Zhou Manna's attorney with tears in his eyes and trembling with chills.
Then he decisively owed the divorce agreement and ended everything.
From ideal to reality, from hot to cold, it only takes more than half a year.
I remember that when sending Zhou Manna to the airport, Yang Weifan had imagined various scenarios when he would reunite with his wife.
But such a scenario did not come true, and the reality before him was something he had never imagined in his dreams.
Maybe this is life, it is always different from what people imagine and plan.
On May Day, the divorce procedures were still going through the process, and it took a long time to be separated by an ocean.
That being the case, Yang Weifan still prepared gifts and went to Zhou's house to visit his nominal father-in-law and mother-in-law in order not to be disrespectful.
He hasn't told the old man about it yet, because he is afraid of affecting the mood of the old couple during the festival.
I originally planned to keep it secret for now and wait until after the holidays to find an opportunity to talk about it.
Unexpectedly, when he was saying goodbye after dinner, Minister Zhou personally walked him to the door.
Not only did she hold his hand, but she solemnly said, "Thank you, you have always been a good son-in-law."
She also said with guilt, "We failed to educate our daughter well, so I'm sorry to the Yang family."
It turns out that the old man already knew everything.
The remaining thing is how Yang Weifan informed his parents.
And this was easier than he thought.
Because when he went home for dinner the next day, he found his mother lying in the room with tears on her face and unwilling to come out.
The nanny at home quietly told him that Minister Zhou and his wife had just arrived in the afternoon.
He immediately understood what was going on.
Of course, although Moody couldn't think about it, Yang Yaohua had been through fire and water, so his attitude was very calm.
Someone even brought me a bottle of Moutai and wanted to have a few drinks with my son.
The father and son didn't say anything at that time. They just poured it on and drank. They drank three glasses in one go.
Only then did Yang Yaohua ask someone to take back the cup and say to him, "Xiao Liu'er, you have grown up before you know it. Speaking of which, I, as a father, have been negligent in your growth and have not fulfilled much responsibility.
But now I want to tell you two sentences, hoping to help you in the future."
"First, even if you are engaged in literature and art, you are still a soldier. What you do must be like a man and cannot disgrace a soldier. Especially if you become a public figure, only by always maintaining this will others respect you.
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"Second, you still have a long way to go. Although you encounter bumps in the road, it doesn't matter. You still have to keep your eyes on the road ahead. Because a person's happiness does not lie in how much he has, but in how little he cares about.
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These words immediately made Yang Weifan's eyes wet.
But his feelings didn't come from elsewhere, but because he suddenly discovered it.
My father’s hair has turned completely white and he also has age spots on the side of his face.
The final feeling came from Hong Yanwu’s wedding.
After returning home that day, the painful memories seemed to bring Zhou Manna to Yang Weifan again.
It seemed that the words she had said were still echoing in my ears, and her scent and her physical body had returned.
That night, Yang Weifan sat alone until late at night smoking, drinking, and looking at the wedding photos on the wall.
After downing half a bottle of soju, he didn't feel drunk at all.
After thinking about it, he figured everything out and realized that he was not in as much pain as he thought.
Because essentially, he and Zhou Manna had no real feelings for each other.
Their union was an accident.
It happened that he took marriage too seriously, while Zhou Manna took marriage too lightly.
Speaking of which, she seemed to be quite honest, and she stayed upright without dragging him down or causing any more scandals.
So this dream is as thin as a layer of paper. If you say it is broken, it will be broken.
Yes,
In reality, when Yang Weifan really calmed down and began to sort out this relationship bit by bit.
Only then did he realize that he wasn't actually in that much pain.
Because neither he nor Zhou Manna seemed to have any real feelings for each other.
He just takes marriage too seriously, while Zhou Manna takes marriage too lightly.
Speaking of which, she seemed to be quite honest. She was forthright and did not drag him down and did not cause any scandal before the divorce.
So this dream is as thin as a layer of paper, and it will be broken if it is broken.
Yes, my father is right. Don't worry too much.
The reason why people live a tiring life is precisely because they cannot let go of their arrogance, lose face, and resolve their complexes.
Not only should he look forward, but he should also enlighten his mother.
Just like that, a few more days passed.
On June 18, 1983, Yang Weifan officially obtained the divorce certificate and resumed his life as a bachelor.
Therefore, Hong Yanwu would occasionally be dragged out to drink.
Then he would naturally have to make appropriate sacrifices to protect his wife and children.