This is a little hard to believe, or hard to accept. After all, your parents raised a crazy or inhumane guy, which often caused harm to several families and even the country.
No matter how much parents blame themselves or how much they suffer, they cannot make up for the mistakes they made. After all, when a child comes into the world, it is just a blank piece of paper. How to educate and train this child will not make up for it.
It's his parents' business.
Even though Mencius said that human nature is inherently evil, this evil does not mean that human nature is inherently evil, but that human nature is inherently inclined to evil. He is more inclined to do evil to seek his own interests, rather than that he is born evil.
Yes, there is nothing you can do to reverse it. It is absolutely impossible. So when each child grows up, whether he is inclined towards evil or good depends entirely on the education of his parents.
And often a pair of irresponsible parents, or parents who are completely out of touch, parents who have never thought about how to educate their children after giving birth, in their opinion, the children should grow up on their own, or in their opinion, the children should grow up on their own.
Later, they felt that their way of raising the child was very correct. When they realized that this child
When the child is no longer under their control, or when they realize that the child is embarrassing themselves outside, they tend to blame the child instead of reflecting on the reason why the child has caused such results and is showing such various phenomena now. That is entirely because
This is the result of their subtle training through words and deeds over so many years.
Let’s take the simplest example. A group of children are playing there. Some of them are wearing silk and satin, some are wearing muslin, and some are wearing burlap.
There are people wearing all kinds of patched old clothes, etc. These can only represent the economic level of each family and cannot represent any moral issues.
What we want to say is that these children wear clothes of various levels, but the cleanliness is decided by the children. Is it really decided by the children? The children are playing together,
Of course, some children are cleansed, and some children like to move after washing, so children who like to move
Children's clothes will be dirtier and more worn. Of course, quiet children's clothes should be kept cleaner than other children, but overall children cannot control it. They want to keep their own shortcuts.
Within a certain range, after all, they are still children.
But you can tell them apart at this time. No matter what material you are wearing, the cleanliness is universally measurable. When parents see this group of children, after ignoring the class differences in clothes, then
Parents of the same class will definitely pay attention to a table of cleaner children.
If that child belongs to your own family, then congratulations, you are a jackpot. Your child is so obedient that when he goes out to play, he can still be the cleanest one among all the ordinary children. It is simply a blessing.
Give you a lucky baby.
And if it's not good or your luck is really bad, and your child is the dirtiest one among the group of children, then will you blame this child? Why don't you give me some excuses if you go out to play?
Isn't it embarrassing to make it so dirty?
Then you have to pay attention. When parents talk about whether it is shameful or not, whose person is it? Is it the child's person? That is impossible. Children will not see your clothes clean when they play together.
It's not clean. I just want to see if you are interesting or not. Are you the same person?
I am in a group, whether we are friends, whether we can play together and share food, he will not care whether you are well-dressed, whether your speech and behavior are admirable, these are all impossible things.
They haven't reached the stage where they need to pay attention to this yet.
So those who feel ashamed because of the cleanliness of their clothes are actually the parents themselves. They feel that if their children are too dirty, it will definitely be a disgrace to them, but they have considered that there is no such thing as the so-called words in their mouths.
Are other people's children naturally trying to keep their clothes as tidy as possible?
There may indeed be children who are born with a neatness, but the chance of this is definitely like winning a lottery. Ordinary children are generally about the same, and the one who pays special attention to the neatness of his clothes is because his parents have specially instructed him before.
, is that because parents often change his clothes and clean him, or
The reporter said that he felt sorry for his parents because of his parents' behavior, so he tried to keep his clothes neat and tidy so that adults could work less hard, etc. These may be factors that contributed to his behavior.
, but the only thing that doesn’t admit that it can’t exist is because he feels embarrassed.
As for parents, the neatness of their children is directly linked to their face. If you really think it needs to be linked, then what you need is to educate your child carefully and pay attention to neatness, rather than grabbing his or her face.
Point your ears at other people's children, and then accuse you of why you are not like so-and-so, why do you kick you like this all day long, why are you naughty all day long, why are you so disobedient all day long, why do you always do things that others don't do
Let you do things.
In fact, does this need to be said? The behavior of these parents themselves has already explained why your children perform so poorly and why your children are always more naughty and naughty than others. It is because there is something wrong with your education.
Sometimes Li Xiucai wants to catch that person and give him a good lesson. Haven't you thought about the specific reason? If you continue to let it go, your children may be in trouble, that is, face-to-face
Among the masses of tigers, it is difficult for them to stand out, to stand out from the crowd, to be proud of their ancestors, or to meet the expectations in your mind, and it is often you who cause all this.
Sometimes you feel that it is indeed a very worry-free thing to have no children. Otherwise, regarding the education of the children, the couple will probably have gray hair. After all, for a very responsible parent
Some say that raising children is the biggest problem in their lives.
At that time, Li Xiucai even felt that as a couple, they had received great love from God. Otherwise, why would they solve such a big problem directly? As for the real reason why they have no children, they still treated it very easily. After all,
Most people said there was nothing wrong with their health.