This aunt actually disapproved of the behavior of the couple from the bottom of her heart, especially his sister-in-law, who originally seemed to be a well-educated and reasonable person. She could understand many things clearly through talking to him, but who knew that since her birth?
After giving birth to the child, it seems that I have never regained my sanity.
Whether it was the way he treated the two children with such huge differences before, or the fact that he simply gave his daughter to them to raise, no matter from any aspect, his sister-in-law's approach was unable to make this child happy.
I got some recognition from my aunt.
He himself has given birth to three children, all of whom are sons. In his eyes, these three children are equally important, so his preferences and preferences for them must be different, but no matter what, they are all his own children.
The palms and backs of the hands are their own hands. Even though there are inevitably some differences in how they are treated, the uncle and aunt try their best to be fair. It is normal to have preferences, but it does not hinder them.
Show each child your love for them.
It is natural for children to have competition. After all, everyone looks forward to getting more love from their parents. But no matter what, in fact, this all fluctuates within a range of qualified and full marks. He can say that for three
Although the children have different loves, the gap is not too big. In his opinion, only in this way can the situation between the children be stabilized. In his opinion, if you have excessive preference for a child, it will not be the same for him or the parents.
Very good thing.
Isn't this what his eldest brother and sister-in-law are like in front of them? From the time the two children were born, all the attention of the couple seems to be focused on the little one and the little daughter. Of course, everyone can understand this situation at the beginning. After all,
The little daughter does look like she might not have passed away at any time.
It seems that for a child who is frequently on the verge of death, it is natural to receive more care. However, as the child grows older and has a sense of autonomy, the attitude of the couple has not improved at all.
, but it got worse and worse, and it became a little unbearable.
After all, in infancy, even though children can reflect the attitude of others around them towards them, their sense of autonomy is not that strong. In their consciousness, survival may be the only issue that needs to be considered. As long as they live, they will get it.
If you take good care of them, they won't cry, but after they gain self-awareness and they can clearly understand the differences between themselves and others, you should pay attention to your attitude towards them.
Obviously, this couple feels that their eldest daughter seems to have been stuck in the infancy. As long as they feed him, give him clothes to wear, and not freeze and starve him, they can keep him alive. It seems that the child has no other requirements. This is simply
It's an incredible thing. In his eyes, only the little daughter's changes day by day, the slightest fluctuation of the body can attract their attention, while in their hearts, the eldest daughter seems to be dispensable.
existence, anyway, as long as she has enough material foundation.
But raising children is not like this. You devote yourself wholeheartedly to one child, and let another child watch you ignoring his existence. This is a very cruel thing in itself. That is because I saw it at that time.
The elder brother and sister-in-law treat the two children so differently, so the little girl's uncle and sister-in-law can say such things, and they are very envious that they can have a pair of lively and lovely daughters.
Although this comes from the deep heart of this aunt, it is also because seeing the difference in treatment of the two children is so huge that one cannot help but feel sorry for the older child after seeing it.
At the same time as expressing sympathy, he would say such words. Didn't he know that he would have another child, and that he might also get his own daughter? Who would be willing to raise other people's children if he had his own daughter?
His original intention was just to hope that the eldest brother and sister-in-law could take the issue of children's education seriously and see that they were too biased and ignored their eldest daughter too much. However, he did not expect that his words would be understood by the eldest brother and sister-in-law.
It had another meaning, so that later when they couldn't stand their eldest daughter being an eyesore around them, they directly packed up their eldest daughter and sent it to them.
But who can be blamed for this? Who allowed himself to say something like that, so that others directly said, since you don’t have a daughter, we will give you one. This kind of parents treat their children as goods and directly package them and give them away.
This practice also opened the aunt's eyes. She looked at the poor little girl with her round eyes. Although her eyes contained sadness and pain, she still looked at her nervously. At that time, it could be said that for a moment
, the aunt still sympathized with the little girl very softly.
Being abandoned by one's biological parents and giving it to others like a gift is indeed a feeling that ordinary people cannot experience, and this aunt did indeed initially raise this little girl well and treat her as her own daughter.
The idea of cultivating her, but who knew that some things that happened later made her
She was cold-hearted towards this little girl, but now when she heard her husband mention this little girl again, the aunt inevitably thought of herself again. The pitiful scene she saw in the little girl at first inevitably aroused her feelings for her.
The sympathy that had aroused for this little girl came to my heart again.
Initially, he didn't think there was any difficulty in hiring a teacher for this little girl. What's more, he soon weighed the effort and benefit. Although the benefit was extremely small, it might just make up for the couple's lack of support for this.
The kind of sympathy that the little girl has is also not very big once it is paid. For a family like theirs, it doesn't cost much to just ask an experienced teacher to come back here and teach the little girl to read and write.
huge.
It can even be said that this amount of money may be enough to make clothes for the servants of the house once a year. And this money does not have to be paid every year. After the little girl learns to read and write, she no longer needs further instruction from the teacher.
After all, she is just a girl. As long as she can read and read, she will be fine.
On the contrary, the librarian whom he hired for his three leather boxes was the one who really spent a lot of money to hire him. He had a certain talent in his own right, but he had not made any new progress in drinking for the time being, so he
They will invite them to come to the house to teach the three young masters.