Of course, movies like "The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World" will inevitably be discussed about marriage.
As mentioned before, this era can be said to have gradually evolved to the level of "the age of no marriage".
Because the social environment is changing, in the early years, people would feel strange if they didn’t get married when they reached their age. They always felt that there was something wrong with this person?
Otherwise, why don't you have a partner at such an old age? Why don't you get married and have children?
Parents will always say, so-and-so comes from so-and-so, and their children can do well.
External influences and internal urging and coercion make people feel that not getting married is a heinous thing.
Of course, the traditional Chinese saying is that there are three types of unfilial piety, and the greatest is not having children. In the hearts of the older generation, it can be said to be a deeply ingrained concept.
And because everyone around them is like this, many people choose marriage.
But things are different now. More and more people are living more and more independently. The pressure in life and economic pressure have made many people find that one person can live a carefree life.
In the early years, people would look down upon people who nibbled on old age, but now, more and more people do it.
Then "The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World" once again became the reason for many women to remain unmarried. Li Yi could only say that he was really innocent, right?
His original intention for "The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World" was to let people see the difficulties of mothers and the difficulties of housewives, a neglected group. He really never thought that the movie would be used by those who are not married.
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"After watching the movie, I really don't want to get married anymore. Thinking about what I will become like in the future, I really can't accept it!"
"Although I was very moved after reading it, I was really scared! Yes, such a mother is great, but I'm sorry, I really don't want to be that great!"
"So I really don't want to get married. Those people who cheat people into getting married are really unkind!"
"What does "The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World" mean? I understand now, that is, only when you die can you be freed. What does "The Most Beautiful Farewell" mean? It means that you don't have to worry about it anymore after you die!"
"When I think of my mother, I am really moved, but when I think of myself becoming like this one day, I suddenly feel a creepy feeling!"
"I was very upset before. Is this praising my mother? No, this is the apocalypse of modern marriage, right?
When you enter the palace of marriage, you often have no choice but to do it yourself. Not to mention that after you have children, the sunk cost is too high, so you have to become a housewife, but that is really terrible. Such a mother, she
I don’t have any time for myself at all! I’ve been working hard all my life, it’s too hard, too hard!”
"Watching this movie with my boyfriend, we were both moved to tears, but I just couldn't stand it, I just felt so unhappy. Why? My boyfriend had a good income. I had also dreamed of quitting my job after getting married.
Then I gave birth to children, but after watching the movie, I was really scared!"
Such comments abound, and Li Yi is also very depressed. Although the movie's box office is rising steadily, this public opinion makes him feel a little numb.
When did you become an excuse for not getting married?
But if you think about it carefully, let alone that there are so many people joining the discussion and agreeing with this point of view, it can only be said that "The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World" appeared at the right time.
This year, family planning ended, and fertility began to be encouraged, but what was the result?
On the contrary, people don’t want to have children anymore.
"The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World" is also used as a reason by those who don't want to have children.
"If this is the case after giving birth to a child, then I would rather not have one!"
"A life like this is worse than a nanny! It's terrifying to think about it!"
"The scary thing is that this kind of situation seems to happen all the time, so don't lie about having children, really, you don't dare!"
"I'm really not ready to be a mother. Maybe it's because I'm quite selfish. Anyway, I really don't want to become like that one day! It's so good now, I don't have children, there's no pressure, I can do whatever I want without having to
So much to think about!”
"If you think so, won't humans be extinct?"
"Haha, there are still people who say that the earth will be destroyed sooner or later? You can't stand it?"
Etc., etc.
Of course, these are all relatively extreme, relatively normal or relatively rational, and there are still many who give relatively pertinent suggestions.
A certain emotional column film critic used ""The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World": Three pieces of advice for women from a housewife!" as the title!
“What is it like to give up your loved ones to accompany a man from nothing to a happy family?
What is it like to give up your career and stay with a man to take care of your mother with Alzheimer's disease?
What is it like to give up your life for the sake of your family and worry about getting cancer for your children?
In this materialistic society full of interests, how many girls are willing to make this bet.
In the recently popular movie "The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World", the heroine is such a housewife who is willing to give.
After her marriage, she gave up her dream of making handmade appliqués and helped her husband take care of her Alzheimer's mother. Even though she was beaten and scolded, she still persisted for 15 years;
She is like a top, spinning around her family, children and husband all day long. She has no life of her own, but all she gets is perfunctory and indifferent.
It wasn't until she got cancer that she was freed from this tiring and tortured life.
All sorrow has its traces, and all life is a matter of right and wrong.
Before you get married, you think marriage is a family run by two people who love each other. After you get married, you really understand the three pieces of advice on marriage.
The first piece of advice: “Don’t give up your career even after marriage.”
It is said that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation. Choosing the right person is very important. But after choosing, how to be yourself is even more important.
Many women who have achieved success in their careers before marriage will put their focus on their family after marriage for the sake of their children and husband.
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But love is sometimes unequal. If you sacrifice yourself heart and soul, he may also harm you in a way that repays kindness with revenge.
Although "The Most Beautiful Farewell in the World" does not tell much about the heroine when she was young, we can see that she has always had the dream of making handmade appliqués, but was forced to give up after getting married.
She gave up her career and concentrated on taking care of her Alzheimer's mother at home for 15 years. She was beaten and scolded, and lived without any dignity.
She gave up her career, or in other words, she chose her family, and as everyone can see, her contribution became a matter of course for the whole family.
Is she great? Of course she is great, but what is more infuriating is that she could have had a better life, right?
If she has her own career, of course,
On the one hand, she has to worry about her son who has never been able to go to college, on the other hand, she has to worry about her daughter falling in love with a married woman, and she also has to worry about everything at home.
But when she fell ill and wanted to go to the hospital for a check-up, her husband, a doctor, said coldly: "You can just take some medicine for those symptoms, so why go to the hospital?"
This sentence chilled my wife's heart. But such things are really too common in life.
If you don't love yourself, then don't expect others to love you!
Her dedication will never be seen by others, and her tiredness will not be understood. When the family is harmonious, she has no credit, but after something goes wrong, she only gets accusations and complaints.
Don't let marriage become a shackles for you, don't let yourself become a housewife who can only work around the stove!
Escape cannot solve the problem. Many people use this as a reason for not getting married or having children. I disagree with this point because it is escape.
As a woman, there is nothing wrong with having children, but how you do it is very important.
Therefore, the second piece of advice from the movie I want to mention is: "Don't wrong yourself at any time!"
In relationships, many girls tend to get carried away and lose themselves in a marriage that they think is right, but this is precisely the beginning of misfortune.
In marriage, the more a woman wrongs herself, the less favored she is by the man.
Just like the heroine in the movie, she gave endlessly without asking for anything, but in the end she still didn't get any care from her husband.
In fact, from the second half of the episode when her husband played the guitar and sang for her, we knew that when she was young, she and her husband must have been very loving, but she lost herself in the marriage.
Why does marriage start with love but never end with love?
Because we can't really naively think that love can last a lifetime just because of someone else's words: "Holding your child's hand, we will grow old together with you"!
The most disappointing part in the movie, I think, is when she was beaten by her mother-in-law, and he watched quietly without helping her in the slightest; when she gave birth to a child, she had to bear everything by herself, and he never spent a day with her.
She was in charge of the housework of the whole family, even the children, but everyone enjoyed her care with peace of mind; but when she fell ill and had pain, he still disliked her and refused to let her go to the hospital.
Nothing is taken for granted, remember that.
When one day your husband turns a blind eye to you, this is not a matter of course. You should let him know that your efforts are not a matter of course either!
But she didn’t! Maybe this is a woman!
But such a woman will be really miserable!
It wasn't until she died soon that he began to scold his mother for being unfair to her and tried to be nice to her, but why so late?
That is his mother, but that is also his wife! Such a husband is chilling and worthless!
It wasn't until she was about to leave that he helped her finish the unfinished decoration of her new house and cooked dinner for her for the first time. However, after eating the meals she cooked for so many years, he didn't even say a word of thanks or concern.
This has never happened before, so how can it not be disappointing?
It wasn't until she was dying that he hugged her with a smile, planted the flowers she liked, and played the violin for her romantically. People always learn to cherish when they are about to lose! He could obviously be there for her during her lifetime.
Why do you have to wait until you lose your care and romance to wake up?
Marriage is a test. No matter how big or small things are, we need to take care of each other. More often than not, we need to grow together.
Don't let your grievances and unworthiness fulfill a man's romance.
So the third piece of advice: "Don't give all your thoughts to others!"
We often say that the meaning of marriage is to turn one's life into someone to rely on and accompany each other hand in hand.
This is the result we most expect and the future we most long for. The implication is naturally beautiful. However, more and more girls enter marriage and receive not unique favor, but endless sacrifice and countless grievances.
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In the movie, the heroine is a full-time housewife. She worries about her family, but her family doesn't take it seriously.
Everyone in the family lives a comfortable life of their own, except her!
The daughter was busy dating her lover; the son, after finishing his exams, was relaxed and relaxed, dating his girlfriend for drinks and going to the disco;
Her mother-in-law would beat her and scold her whenever she was unhappy, causing chaos in the house every day. As for her husband, he could also have a leisurely drink and talk with his female colleagues after get off work.
She is the only one who is busy at home, giving all her thoughts to her family, and living a life that can be seen at a glance.
Children will always grow up, and family members will always leave, but you are the only one who will accompany you throughout your life.
Learning to love yourself and put yourself first is a lifelong event.
"To become a happy woman, you must remember one truth. Don't rush to pursue happiness, because that kind of happiness will often disappoint you. The most important thing for a woman is to find her own position, so that she can have her own
happiness."
Many girls always think that they can achieve their own happiness by having to compromise, but this is not the case.
When love has no bottom line, and when giving becomes a habit, the only one who gets hurt is yourself.
In the movie, she quit her job to take care of her mother-in-law for marriage, but what she got was not relief, but endless insults and fights;
She did everything for her child, but she still couldn't go to her daughter's company openly, meet her boyfriend, and have a casual meal with her;
She put all her thoughts on her family and devoted 15 years of her youth, but she forgot to love herself.
Marriage is not easy, but a determined woman will not let herself be wasted and oppressed in marriage.
Learning to love yourself and think about yourself is a lifelong event for a woman!"
Li Yi always feels that his wife's eyes have been looking at him a little strange recently.
With all his conscience, he really didn't want Director Mu to be a housewife, and a family like theirs didn't need it either.
"Ahem, how are you? Do you have any ideas about directing a film?" Li Yi asked.
Mu Qing looked at him with a half-smile, then giggled, and then laughed out of breath.
Li Yi was speechless!
"I'm laughing so hard. When will my director Li be swayed by public opinion?" Mu Qing laughed more and more arrogantly.
Li Yi couldn't help but roll his eyes. This girl, really, was actually making fun of herself.
"Okay, dear, you've made so many movies, how come you're still so cute? I'm me, I'm not the mother in the movie. I'm very happy, you know?" Mu Qing put her arms around Li Yi's neck and said
