Chapter 1571 True prosperity is love and companionship
Compared to Americans, Chinese people prefer to talk about education, and parents also attach more importance to education.
That's why children in China are so curly.
It can be said that it is truly rolled to the extreme.
For this reason, "I Am Sam" has a certain topic of "how to educate children that is good for them", which has aroused domestic audiences to discuss and interpret it.
People always say that the more something is missing, the more something is wanted.
The truth is a truth.
For example, an online film critic interpreted it this way: "'I Am Sam' can be said to be a real film that parents should watch.
The content of the film is not complicated. It mainly revolves around the story of Sam, who has an IQ of only 7 years old, fighting for the custody of his daughter. In my opinion, the great thing about the film is that the director uses a warm and healing story to make less smart people feel better.
The so-called smart people taught a lesson to let the audience understand what is the most important thing in life.
What's rare is that this time, Li Yi didn't overly sensationalize, but a dog director is a dog director. It can only be said that his skills are getting deeper and deeper, because although there is no deliberate sensationalism, it is still a movie that people can watch.
A movie that will make you cry, the daily interaction between daughter Lucy and Sam is the most touching part of the movie, and this is one of the reasons why the entire Internet rates this movie high.
Our Chinese people often say that sons should be raised in poverty and daughters should be raised in wealth. So what exactly is raising in poverty and what is raising in wealth?
The child in "I Am Sam" is a daughter, so let's analyze what enrichment is.
From a literal point of view, the meaning of "enrichment" is to give your daughter more material satisfaction. This is the simplest understanding.
But in fact, "I Am Sam" truly defines what enrichment is!
Don't rush, let us analyze slowly.
Movies with educational themes have been attracting people's attention for a long time, but we will find that these movies all have one thing in common, that is, through the way adults educate children in the movie, the audience can understand the true meaning of education in the drama.
But "I Am Sam" takes an eccentric approach. It is different from previous educational films. Although the story content of this film is not novel, its presentation method is very unique. The film boldly uses a father with an IQ of only 7 years old as the character.
The protagonist of the whole story comes to teach all parents who think they are smart in real life a lesson, letting us understand what is the most important thing for our children.
From this aspect, it can be said that this movie uses an unconventional plot setting to highlight the theme of the movie, making the movie unique among educational-themed movies!
Many times, movies always focus on parents as the main perspective, but "I Am Sam" is different.
But this unique design successfully captured the audience's psychology. From the moment Sam was busy changing his daughter's diaper, all the viewers asked in their souls, "Can Sam, who has an IQ of only 7 years old, raise Lucy well?"
And this question is also an important reason to attract the audience to watch the movie, because in the common understanding of most of us, we still generally think that maybe Sam can raise his daughter, but after all, his IQ is only seven years old. When Lucy
After going to school, whether it was tutoring homework or knowledge about raising daughters, Sam definitely didn't have it.
But when they saw the plot of Sam buying Lucy shoes, the audience's psychology began to slowly change. All the money Sam took out was not enough to pay for a pair of shoes that Lucy liked. At this time, Sam's disabled friends began to "donate" one after another.
", just to buy a pair of beautiful shoes for their beloved Lucy.
Here, the director did not add deliberately emotional music or any touching lines, but he successfully gained tears from the audience, because it was this seemingly ordinary act that made the audience understand Lucy's past seven years.
, grew up surrounded by this kind of ordinary love, so Lucy could grow up to be lively and cheerful in appearance, and rich and full in heart.
This plot laid the foundation for Sam to successfully fight for custody rights in the future, and the subsequent conversation between Lucy and Sam allowed the audience to understand why Lucy refused the foster home arranged by the social welfare agency.
Sam was sorry that Lucy didn't have a normal father, but Lucy thought she was the luckiest child in the world, because other fathers wouldn't go to the park with their children every day, nor would they buy one for their children.
The cake runs for several kilometers, not to mention that after accidentally falling down, I only care about whether the cake is broken, but not about whether it hurts.
At this point, the theme of "love" and "company" in the film is clearly revealed, which is also the key to Sam's final victory in custody. When no one believed that Sam was capable of raising children and forcibly separated their father and daughter, Sam used
Practical actions showed them that father's love has nothing to do with IQ.
"I am not as good as you in many places, but there are also some places where I am better than you, better than any of you."
"I will take time to think about how to be a good parent, and that requires patient listening. I am not a perfect father, but I will do my best!"
Sam finally won back custody, and because he loved Lucy, he took the initiative to ask the foster family to raise Lucy with him. This was the best outcome for Sam.
And his story also reminds the audience in front of the screen that we hope that our children's lives will be rich and colorful, and we hope that our children will see more and learn more, so we spend our time buying toys for our children and sending them to various tutoring classes. We
Everyone hopes to "raise their children richly", but the film tells us through Sam's story that true wealth lies in love and companionship.
One of the more ironic aspects of the film is the portrayal of the characters of several "normal" parents in the play. The contrast between Sam and them perfectly satirizes the "self-righteous" education methods of many parents.
In fact, many of us can probably find our own shadow in it.
This chapter is not finished yet, please click on the next page to continue reading the exciting content! The first is the father of Lucy’s classmate Connor, whom I believe everyone remembers very well.
Connor's father represents a controlling father who is oriented towards winning or losing! I believe many people can't help but frown when they see that scene, but the irony is that such fathers are everywhere in the current society.
Connor's father doesn't have much of a role in the play, but it's in his contrast that Sam's unique education is shown.
Connor is Lucy's classmate. On their first day of school, the teacher asked the students to recite knowledge about "insects". When Connor showed the knowledge about spiders, he got stuck. At this time, the father in the audience was afraid of his children.
When he failed, he reminded the child in a low voice the correct answer. After receiving the signal, the son continued to recite, but because he was too nervous, he always made many mistakes, and the father was slightly anxious while correcting the mistakes.
Connor felt his father's anxiety, so he simply gave up reciting, and said to his father in a slightly reproachful tone, "You have to make me recite this, but actually I want to show my knowledge of Beetles!"
At this time, the camera turned and we saw Sam whispering to Lucy, "He (Dad Tanner) can completely prevent the child from being ugly!"
Just like many of our parents, they like to use "other people's children" as a reason to educate their children. In fact, it is the same.
Why do we use "other people's children" for comparison? In fact, it means treating the children's grades, qualities, etc. as one's own face project.
Let's look at Lucy's performance again. When it was Lucy's turn, Lucy showed everyone the knowledge about the metamorphosis of butterflies. Halfway through the lecture, Lucy suddenly forgot the next content. She looked at the audience nervously.
At this time, Sam stood up and said to Lucy with a smile: There are too many stages, it’s hard to memorize!
With her father's support, Lucy's nervous expression relaxed. Once she relaxed, Lucy remembered the next knowledge.
Connor's father and Sam form a sharp contrast. The film uses this plot to complete the satire of those "smart parents" in real life. They want their children to be perfect in everything, they do not allow their children to fail, they only focus on what they want.
want without considering the needs of the children.
Many times, we always use the excuse that it is good for the child to let the child do various things that he does not like but that his parents like.
Various training classes, various interest classes, isn't this a kind of irony?
What's even more ironic is that those who achieve success in academic studies rarely achieve it through this kind of education.
But parents still enjoy it and think it should be rolled up.
On the contrary, Sam may not be as smart as this "elite dad" and cannot remind his children of the results, but he knows how to provide unconditional support and what specific aspects are beneficial to the children's growth. I think the results are self-evident.
Let’s look at another family, lawyer Rita’s family.
It can be said that through the movie we can see that this is a pair of neglectful parents who are work-oriented!
Interestingly, such parents are also the most widespread and common.
This type of parents often have a common characteristic. They can always provide their children with a rich material life, but they are extremely lacking in spiritual life, let alone companionship.
The whole film has two lines, one revolves around Sam, and the other revolves around Rita, the lawyer who helps Sam in his lawsuit.
Rita appears to be a successful business elite, but in fact, there is a huge gap between Rita and her 7-year-old son.
The son was dissatisfied that his mother was always busy with work. Even when she was with him, she was always on the phone for conferences. When the son called his mother, he could only be put on the second line of the office phone because his mother was on the first line.
Always leave it to work.
Rita has to deal with seven or eight cases a day, and she often takes her work home at night. Rita always complains that her children are not close to her. Even if she takes time to pick up her children, her son is rebellious and does not want to take her car home.
Rita doesn't understand why her son is like this, but I think the audience in front of the screen has understood that because her life has been filled with work, her emotional neglect of her son has caused her son to drift away from her.
Sam's appearance undoubtedly awakened Rita. Rita didn't have any hope for Sam's lawsuit at first, but she saw Sam's love for Lucy and saw that Sam could stay with her at the playground for her daughter's happiness.
All day long, and this is exactly what many parents are unwilling to do in reality. They cannot play with their children wholeheartedly. They are always "in the Cao camp and the heart is in the Han Dynasty". On the surface, they appear to be playing with their children, but in fact
Their thoughts have already turned to work. They are always "three minutes enthusiastic" about their children. When they are happy, they play with them for a while, but when they are unhappy, they throw them to their mobile phones or TV.
Of course, maybe this is also because Sam's own IQ is equivalent to that of a child.
The irony is that normal parents cannot do this.
And Sam always appears when the children need him, which is one of the reasons why Rita fights for Sam. If she agreed to help Sam in the lawsuit at the beginning out of "humanitarianism", then Rita later
Touched by Sam's full fatherly love, she firmly believed that Sam could raise her daughter well.
The film uses the role of two "elite parents" to satirize the current parenting methods. We are used to educating our children in the way we think is correct, and we are used to "drinking water".
Children are regarded as extensions of our lives. We cannot treat children as independent individuals, so we cannot give them enough respect and love, causing our children to drift away from us.
And this film also tells us through the setting of the special character Sam that sometimes as a parent, you may not need to be "so smart". When you encounter difficulties and frustrations in the parenting process, you only need to provide your children with unconditional support.
Love and patient companionship may be able to help children overcome short-term difficulties.
This chapter is not over, please click on the next page to continue reading! In comparison, we always use commonplace habits of adults to stifle children's curiosity. Lucy, like all children, had a child who loved to ask "why" when she was growing up.
At this stage, she is very curious about everything she sees, and she always asks her father questions. Although Sam's abilities are limited, we can see that Sam under the camera is always happy to answer all the nonsense raised by Lucy.
The problem.
How would we respond?
Will it appear impatient?
Many times, we may say perfunctorily: You will know when you grow up!
In real life, most parents always think, "What's the point of asking these childish questions?" and they always answer their children with, "Why are there so many? If you don't study hard, it's useless to think about so many things."
But Sam is different. Although Sam's answer is not a "standard answer", the director's focus is not on Sam's ability to answer questions, but on Sam's attitude towards his daughter's questions. Maybe his answers are not so perfect, but his treatment of his daughter
The attitude of asking questions is something we need to learn as parents.
The more parents talk to them, the more children become reluctant to ask questions. Later, they become no longer curious. They no longer want to understand things they don’t understand because they feel they have nothing to do with them. They also don’t want to know things they are interested in.
No matter how hard he tried, he felt that spending too much energy was meaningless; he slowly formed a solid judgment and was no longer willing to accept new things with an open mind.
However, curiosity and desire for knowledge are innate in every child. If you always say "What's there to ask?", it will discourage your child from taking the initiative to discover problems.
We must know that the purpose of education is not to turn children into passive answer copy machines, but to tap and guide children's instinct of curiosity and exploration, so that it becomes a habit and a lifelong skill for children. Never use our adult skills again.
It is commonplace and stifles children’s strong desire for knowledge.”
