Sheng Qingfeng smiled hurriedly and said: "Han Yan, you said that as long as we always put Duke Ming first in our hearts, then Duke Ming will also put us in the same position.
If you think about it this way, it is natural for Ming Gong to put himself in our shoes just now.
What I said to thank Ming Gong just now is actually because I didn’t think about straightening out my positioning, don’t you think?”
Huang Hanhan nodded and said: "Qingniu, what you said is right. But I didn't think about it so much. I just expressed my feelings. They are just small things."
Sheng Qingfeng thought this was a good opportunity for Yong Ming to get to know Huang Hanhan, so he asked: "What about? Hanyan, please tell me specifically what you think?"
"As long as it's what Brother Ming said, it can't be wrong. Either it has a profound meaning, or it has a reason.
Of course, what Brother Ming asked me to do was no problem, but Brother Ming would not let me do anything that was uncertain or unsafe.
And what Brother Ming made me think is that there must be a big difference inside, rather than the simple situation on the surface.
Then let me eat and drink without thinking about it. Even if it is simple food, it will certainly be delicious!
Brother Ming, do you think what I said is right?"
Huang Hanhan tilted his head and said with a smile.
Huang Hanhan's words made Yong Ming laugh so hard.
Seeing him smile, Huang Hanhan was a little confused. When he wanted to ask, he saw that Yong Ming had already walked over to communicate with Xie Liuyun.
Huang Hanhan was a little anxious and wanted to walk over and ask why Yong Ming laughed after hearing what he said.
Sheng Qingfeng, who was standing next to her, stretched out his hand to stop her and whispered: "Han Yan, you want to ask Ming Gong why he is laughing, right?"
"Yeah? Qingniu, I just don't understand! So I want to ask Brother Ming and let him explain it clearly."
Huang Hanhan said with some confusion.
"It's not difficult to know why Mr. Ming laughed. Han Yan, you just need to think about what you just said.
I believe that every word you speak is from the bottom of your heart and is a complete expression of your own feelings without any falsehoods.
But what if instead of Mr. Ming, you were expressing your feelings towards your parents? Do you feel the same?"
Sheng Qingfeng inspired Huang Hanhan.
"Oh! So that's it! I just feel that Brother Ming is the person closest to me besides my parents? Is there anything wrong with me saying that?"
Huang Hanhan is a straight-tempered person, and if he has any emotional experience, he doesn't know what is wrong with what he said.
Sheng Qingfeng is a professional psychiatrist. He has a very accurate grasp of people's hearts and a very thorough understanding of problems. In just a few words, he knew what Huang Hanhan's problem was.
Therefore, Sheng Qingfeng knew how to guide Huang Hanhan and help her in the future.
Now, the problem with Huang Hanhan is that she is in a state of early love and has no emotional experience. Naturally, she does not know how to get along with the person she likes.
As for the way men and women get along, it is easy to control the distance between them. Whether they are distant or close, whether they like or dislike each other can be reflected naturally, and it does not require too much effort to ponder.
But the propriety of these words is a test of one's emotional intelligence.
"A good word warms the winter, but a bad word hurts someone for six months." The charm of this language is well known to everyone and does not need to be commented on.
And the best state of getting along between people is "a pot of wine among the flowers, drinking alone without any blind date. Raise a glass to the bright moon, and look at each other to become three people."
In Sheng Qingfeng's view, what Huang Hanhan lacks now is experience in language expression.
Getting along with others is a kind of knowledge, but how to get along with the one you love is another kind of knowledge.
This kind of knowledge is not learned, but is based on one's own personal qualities and comes from true feelings.
Of course, it would be best if someone could enlighten me intentionally or unintentionally.
Huang Hanhan lacks such a person around him, and Sheng Qingfeng is willing to be Huang Hanhan's emotional enlightenment and guidance teacher.
However, according to Huang Hanhan's current self-awareness, Sheng Qingfeng felt that it was not time to explain it to her in detail.
So when exactly will Huang Hanhan be informed?
Sheng Qingfeng felt that the most appropriate time to give Huang Hanhan guidance and advice was only when he felt that he had communication problems with his words.
This cannot be done too early, otherwise it will arouse Huang Hanhan's competitive spirit and think that it is impossible for him to not be able to speak well.
But what you said this night is even more unacceptable. You must know that this emotional issue ultimately focuses on one word, that is, the word "feeling".
After getting along with each other, they started to feel each other's feelings, gradually developed feelings for each other, and finally came together.
If you express your feelings late and miss the opportunity to express your love, so that the other party does not perceive your emotions and thoughts in time, when the time has passed, many unknown variables will arise, and lovers may become friends.
ordinary relationship.
At that time, if you want to further develop the relationship between each other and change this situation, it will be a great thing.
Compared with the lifelong regret caused by momentary carelessness or timidity, proper expression and timely courage are very important and critical. In this way, the happiness gained through personal efforts is also worth cherishing.
To be honest, it is a really strange phenomenon. Any two people who come together after going through some hardships, no matter what kind of setbacks they have during the period, the final result is usually happy, and bad things rarely happen.
On the other hand, those lovers who start with the development of their relationship and end up together are very rare and can eventually stay in love and stay with each other forever.
This kind of emotion that has not been beaten by wind and rain is indeed prone to problems when faced with such situations and temptations from the outside world.
After all, this ship has experienced strong winds and waves. When faced with some problems in rough waves, whether it is from the crew on board or the ship itself, its initiative in handling problems and testing the safety of the ship are all outstanding.
It is better than those boats that can only cruise in the waters near the shore in calm and sunny weather.
Whether this person has seen certain scenes, and whether he has experienced many or few things, the difference reflected in the way he conducts himself in the world is huge.
This kind of experience also has profound confirmation when applied to the matter in front of us.
Although there are changes in form or appearance, they remain unchanged and their underlying principles are consistent.
As long as you are willing to explore, there is always a context to be found.