I didn’t expect that this day would come so quickly!!!
His daughter is now in her prime years of sixteen, and she is getting more and more beautiful. It can be said that she is surrounded by wolves. Yang Han has already taken away all the male creatures who can get close to Yang Ruoyi, including Peng Peng's children's shoes and Wang Er next door.
My mother-in-law's little Jingba is on the list of targets to be guarded and guarded to death!
Of course, Peng Peng is fine. Like little Jingba, he has a relatively low threat level. Because Yang Han is keeping an eye on him in the village, he must not dare to make any mistakes.
What Yang Han is really worried about is the little boys in the school. They have no ability and look like crooked melons, but under the influence of hormones, they dare to make any plans!
Therefore, when Yang Han heard his daughter say that she didn't know how to reject others, he subconsciously thought that her daughter had been confessed to!
who?
Who is so ignorant?
What good thing did that brat do?
Did you eat the heart of a bear or the gall of a leopard?
Or do you think my old man Yang’s 40-meter sword is not long enough?
The furious Yang Han subconsciously reached out and touched his buttocks. Although he did not bring a knife, he did have a bench!
"Dad, no, I didn't mean this, the thing is like this..." Seeing her father's sudden rage and hearing his angry roar, Yang Ruoyi was stunned for a moment before she realized that her father had misunderstood. She quickly grabbed her father and followed him dumbfounded.
He explained clearly what was going on.
"Oh, you said you wanted a gift!" As soon as he heard that it was not a confession, Yang Han's anger dissipated for the most part. He rearranged the small bench and sat down.
I have to say that although the sofa is more comfortable for sitting, when it comes to eating, a small bench is more suitable. After all, when you sit on the sofa to eat, you either have to lift the lunch box to eat, or you have to bend down to eat like lying on your stomach.
Is it more comfortable for someone like Yang Han to sit and eat in a calm manner?
What's more, keeping a small bench with you can also be used as a big knife, right?
Back to the topic, although it was not a confession, the incident that Yiyi encountered, as well as the embarrassment and entanglement she showed, still gave Yang Han a wake-up call.
From kindergarten to now, Yang Ruoyi has been at home under the meticulous protection of her father. It can be said that she has not experienced any hardships, so she has the simple and kind character she has now!
But such a character has a good side and a bad side.
The good thing is that she can get the love and support of her friends, because she is used to being obedient and helping others, and sometimes she is even willing to sacrifice her own interests to help others. Who doesn't like such a post-it girl?
But this is not a good thing. Failure to know how to refuse means that others are taking away from you, and that others want you to be like a sticky note. You can respond when you need it, and you can throw it away when you don't need it...
After all, something that's too easy to get won't be cherished, right?
Of course, for Yang Han, what he is most worried about in his daughter's situation is that if this continues, she will be at a loss if someone confesses to her in the future.
She may not necessarily blindly accept other people's confessions, but her sloppy attitude due to human feelings is likely to bring endless trouble to herself...
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"Since you brought up this issue, Dad will talk to you about how we should reject others and how we should reject requests that are unreasonable or that we don't like!"
Yang Han put on a disposable glove on his left hand, and then grabbed the whole roasted duck leg, which was crispy in red dates, fat but not greasy, and his mouth was full of oil in one bite. He chewed it happily while telling his daughter
stand up.
"Yeah!" Yang Ruoyi nodded happily. She held the lunch box in both hands and ate in small bites. Her big eyes looked at her father expectantly, and she listened expectantly.
"First of all, you have to understand that the crux of the problem is that you don't know how to reject others! Is it because you don't have any opinions and don't know what you want, so you just follow other people's orders? Or do you have your own
idea, but when you meet others making requests, you still feel uncomfortable rejecting others, and you are afraid that others will be disappointed, so you wrong yourself, go against your own ideas, and accept other people's requests?"
Yang Han paused, giving his daughter a short space to think, and then smiled and said: "You are actually the second type, right? Dad thinks that you are actually quite thoughtful, but you just care too much about other people's feelings!
"
Yang Ruoyi nodded and said weakly: "Yes, actually I know how to do it. Just like today, I actually just want to give my deskmate a small gift because she keeps sharing her notes with me. I
If there was anything I didn’t understand, she would patiently explain it to me. However, Pan Guanliang and the others came around and said they wanted it too, and I was unprepared at the time, so I didn’t know how to refuse.”
"What did you say next?"
"Then I said I would definitely bring gifts to him next time, no, to everyone. I'm not saying that I couldn't bring myself to bring gifts to everyone, but I just felt that if I gave them to my deskmates, they shouldn't want them too! This is also true.
It's so, so unreasonable..." The girl actually wanted to say "too thick-skinned", but later she felt that it was inappropriate to say so, after all, they were all her classmates.
"Actually, a gift is just a small thing, so it's okay for you to handle it this way. What's more, if you don't know how to refuse and agree to others, then you have to bring gifts to everyone next time!" Yang Han said with a slight smile, "You must keep your word.
Being willing is also a very good character. Or you can simply refuse and don't give others room to expect. People like you will always be thinking about it. If you delay and refuse to give, others will have more opinions!"
Yang Ruoyi nodded obediently, knowing that she had to keep her promise.
"So! Whether it's a small matter like this, or some kind of confession you may encounter in the future, borrow money!" Yang Han spread his hands and said with a smile, "You have to think clearly and reject it more neatly.
Don’t be sloppy!”
"If you want to learn to say no, you must first draw a bottom line for yourself. People without principles and bottom lines cannot learn to say no. You have to figure out what kind of things you agree with and what kind of things
You don’t approve of this at all!”
"Just like other boys confessing their love, you have to think, no, I'm only sixteen, seventeen, or eighteen years old. I still have to study, I still have to go to college, and my father won't allow me to fall in love while I'm studying.
Yes, and falling in love is not good for you."
"Those little boys don't know anything. Their personalities are more indecisive and more grindy than girls. They think about this and that all day long, but they don't think about anything serious anyway. They still ask for this and that when they don't have the ability! Their thoughts are extremely immature.
!If you fall in love with them and only have the word 'tired', what kind of happiness is there?"
"And those mature men, no matter how stylish, mature and stable they are, do you know how many girlfriends they have had? Maybe they are still eating from the bowl and looking at the pot! They are also
He likes the new and dislikes the old, and lying to you is like lying to a child, which is extremely unreliable!"
"So, reading more and learning more things at a young age is better than falling in love! You spend all your time on maintaining relationships, and as a result, you waste your youth and work. It's so hard to think about falling in love!
You must establish this principle and bottom line of not falling in love, so that no matter how you refuse later, you will do it as soon as dad tells you!"
Yang Ruoyi was still a devout listener at first, but gradually she got a taste...
"Dad! When you talk about how to reject others, just talk about this topic. Why do you include so many personal things?" The girl protested, dumbfounded.
She has never been in love, nor has she considered the issue of falling in love, but her father can't always lie to her about how terrible it is to fall in love! I'm not a fool, I just believe you, you bad old man is very bad