Xue Ling whispered: "The culture abroad is different from that at home, and the concepts of education are also different. Parents can only use their heart to influence their children and re-integrate her into the family. Otherwise, she will only go further and further away, both mentally and physically.
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"That's it."
Xue Cong frowned in disgust: "Don't think that if someone is better than us in some fields, their culture will be better than ours.
People abroad focus on themselves. When children reach adulthood, they go out independently and have very little time to contact their parents and family members.
If you don’t have much contact, your feelings will naturally become indifferent.”
"Um."
Xue Ling strongly agreed: "Emotions also need to be managed, whether it is family affection or love, it is a general principle.
People you are close to again may still become strangers if you don't get along with them often.
This world is so cruel. If you don’t pay, you can’t get anything. The same goes for relationships.”
Xue Cong sighed: "When she was growing up, it happened to be the period when our career was on the rise.
His career is not an ordinary one. He has been away from his family for a long time, and occasionally he has not been able to take a vacation for a year or two.
Ever since her daughter was sensible, she had to get used to living without her father by her side.
I also have a tough temper. When he is away, I have to bear everything by myself and force myself to be strong.
Perhaps because I am afraid that my children will be weak when they grow up, I always instill in them the idea that they must be independent.
It’s good to do things independently, but it’s terribly wrong to be an independent person!”
"This sentence sounds simple, but its meaning is profound!"
Xue Ling smiled with emotion and took a sip of tea.
Xue Cong smiled helplessly and took a sip.
“If a person wants to survive in the world, he cannot do without the help of other people and the support of his family.
Until she went to study abroad in her teens, she relied on herself for everything.
I was busy, so I occasionally called her to chat, but every time she was in a hurry and I was in a hurry, as if I was going to the market.
Her father was still outside at first, and his communications were very confidential, so he couldn't contact her easily.
She studied and grew up there, and gradually integrated into her circle of friends. Not only did her thinking change, but many of her concepts also changed.
Slowly, she became unfamiliar with us.
I felt that my daughter was moving away from me step by step, but my husband was always far away. During those days, I suddenly felt so boring that I even thought about getting a divorce."
"It was just an impulse."
Xue Ling chuckled.
Xue Cong shook his head: "It's really not true... your brother-in-law is back, and he would rather give up an excellent opportunity to come back to accompany me.
I cried so much that I didn't dare to bring up the topic of divorce again.
My career was reaching its climax, but when I looked back, I realized that I had missed so much.
From that time on, I started to let Xiaomei come back.
She refused at first, life and death, saying that she had adapted to the environment there and asked us not to disturb her."
"Brother-in-law is also afraid after hearing this?"
Xue Ling asked.
Xue Cong nodded: "Can he not be afraid?
He finally fought for the opportunity to reunite the family in the imperial capital, and wanted to make amends with my daughter and I, but my daughter said that she was no longer a child and could not stay with her parents, let alone the future.
So, he began to find time to communicate with his daughter and tried every means to let her understand the new domestic technologies and new research and development directions—picking her favorite fields to start with.
Sure enough, my daughter finally relaxed."
"Later, Xiaomei was coaxed back by you."
Xue Ling smiled: "I still remember the day she came back. You cried when you went to the airport to pick her up."
Xue Cong was slightly embarrassed and murmured: "I can't help it... I haven't seen her for a long time. Firstly, I miss her, and secondly, I cry with joy.
We only have one daughter, and we really don’t want her to be too far away from us.
As we get older, we have experienced splendid times and hard work, and after passing through thousands of sailings, we suddenly find ourselves afraid of loneliness.
Maybe this is a characteristic of old age."
"should be."
Xue Ling explained: "After retirement, many elderly people always like to run to crowded places because they are too lonely and boring at home.
The three elderly people in our family keep each other company, and A Yuan and I keep each other company, but they still talk about the children from time to time."
Xue Ling looked around and smiled slightly.
"That's probably why we've always been a big family.
Young parents cannot live without their children, older generation parents cannot live without us, and we cannot live without our children."
Xue Cong patted the back of her hand and said sincerely: "How wonderful this is! Everyone can have their own independent space, and they are all their own relatives after stepping out of their own small space.
When you are sick, your relatives will take care of you, and when you go out, your relatives will care about you.
Because of this, I contributed money to help Xiao Zeng and my sister buy the small villa next door for them.
They had some savings, but the down payment for the villa was not enough, so I simply pooled the money with them and bought the villa next door together.
The nanny and I make breakfast together. They both come over to have breakfast with us when they wake up. After that, they go to work separately. When we sit around the table and chat, we can feel like home - it's so good! Each has a small space and a big space.
Together."
Xue Ling burst out laughing: "So A Yuan and I had to work hard to make money so that our big family could live better and have a small space for each other. If we couldn't buy a bigger one, we would build it ourselves and move again.
move place."
Xue Cong was amused by her and said: "It's motivation and pressure.
Children who grow up in a large family with a good atmosphere will know how to be considerate and filial to their elders.
Look at your children, they are all good children with gentle personalities and filial piety to their elders."
"The elders have done a lot behind the scenes."
Xue Ling squinted his eyes and sighed: "A Yuan also paid a lot.
When the child was young, his career almost never made much progress, and he spent most of his time doing housework, accompanying the child, and picking up and dropping off the child.
We have too many children, and we spend far more effort, money and time than other families.
Fortunately, he is there, otherwise I wouldn’t be able to devote myself to my career.”
"right."
Xue Cong smiled: "This is something our family can only hope for, and we can't catch up even if we try hard."
Xue Ling hurriedly shook her head: "Sister, you can't compare like this.
Brother-in-law is not an ordinary person. He serves the country, the people and everyone, and he can only sacrifice his own family.
If the environment hadn't been too difficult back then, you might have had one or two more children."
"Alas..." Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "It's too late, it's too late to say anything.
Now not only are we late, but our daughter and son-in-law are also late.
I told them that as long as I can conceive a baby, I have to try any method.
If it doesn't work, go for artificial insemination auxiliary means. Today's science and technology are so advanced, you must have confidence."
"Yes, there are always more methods than difficulties."
Xue Lingdao.
Xue Cong nodded and lowered his voice: "Our family has learned from our mistakes. You must remind your children not to imitate Xiaomei.
Prenatal and postnatal care is a must, and late birth and childbearing must not be allowed. You cannot get pregnant whenever you want to have a baby."