Xue Ling said with assurance: "Don't worry, I will warn them quietly."
"Especially women..." Xue Cong whispered: "The age span of men's childbearing is longer than that of women. They get married when they should get married, and they should have children when they should have children.
There are some things that you will miss forever, and giving birth to a child is one of them.
Don’t wait until you suddenly want to be a mother and a father, but you can’t have one.”
Xue Ling couldn't help but think of the "horrifying" thoughts of young people during the company's team building.
“I don’t know what’s wrong now?
Many young people feel that getting married is too difficult. They don't know why they should get married and why they should make their life so annoying and miserable.
During the company team building, there were actually dozens of young people who would rather be alone than watch around with their colleagues.
Duoduo told me that now a large number of men and women not only don’t want to get married, they don’t even want to fall in love.”
"I can't understand it, the generation gap."
Xue Cong shook his head: "There are indeed many young people who think this way, thinking that people only have this life, and whatever I do, I have to live so tiredly and hard.
They are all afraid of taking on the pain of marriage, the pain of having children, and all the hardships and trials in life."
Xue Ling thought for a while and whispered: "Maybe young people today are too stressed in life and work.
We are all people who have been married for so many years and have some own opinions on marriage.
Marriage is indeed difficult, and maintaining a marriage requires a lot of effort.
Blindly asking or blindly giving is not the foundation of a good marriage.
Marriage represents a variety of responsibilities, including responsibilities to one's parents, responsibilities to parents-in-law, and responsibilities to children.
Marriage also means all kinds of ups and downs, difficulties and obstacles, all kinds of anxieties, worries and irritations... If you don't grit your teeth and hold on, your marriage may collapse at any time."
"So now the divorce rate is soaring every year."
Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "Especially in the Imperial Capital, it has one of the highest divorce rates.
People of our era actually had a harder life and greater pressure to survive, but the divorce rate was not high."
"yes!"
Xue Ling said: "The older generation has had a more difficult life. They have experienced natural disasters, various famines and social unrest, and they have been hungry, lacked food and clothing, but they have gritted their teeth and survived.
They can also be noisy and frivolous, but they rarely get divorced, and some of them even don’t know what divorce is.”
Just like her mother-in-law Liu Ying, she only knows that marriage is about getting married, finding a good man to have children with him, and living a good life.
"Maybe at that time, families needed each other's company to survive."
Xue Cong chuckled: "No matter who lets go, his family will collapse and most of his life will collapse, so no one dares to let go and can only grit his teeth and hold on."
Xue Ling nodded: "Actually, the truth is the same.
Today's families also need each other's joint efforts, whether it is financially or household chores, they must contribute, otherwise the family will not be stable sooner or later, and sooner or later the family will get divorced and collapse.
Some people say that it is difficult for people to get married and divorced nowadays, so the divorce rate will soon be higher than the marriage rate."
Xue Cong laughed softly and squinted his eyes.
"It was just as difficult for us to get married back then, even more difficult than it is now.
I remember when I was thinking about getting married, the political background was very important at that time, especially for those of us who worked in an employer. To get married, we had to submit an application, and we had to write down our family background, including the other person’s family and work unit. We had to fill in all of them clearly.
, and then apply to the organization.
The organization has to send people to the other party's unit to investigate, and only after the decision is confirmed can the leader approve it.
Only after the approval is completed can you receive a marriage certificate similar to a certificate."
Xue Ling couldn't help but smile and asked: "Do you still have the marriage certificate between your brother-in-law and you?
Did it take a long time to investigate?"
After Xue Cong heard this, he couldn't help but sigh.
"He kept them all, and I didn't dare to look at them... It was so difficult to get married at the beginning. I almost gave up several times, but he kept insisting, forcing me to wait with him."
"What's wrong?"
Xue Ling whispered: "Is there any background problem with our Xue family?"
Xue Cong nodded: "Yes, the Xue family's family background is somewhat...high, and they are not poor peasants.
His boss has been refusing to approve and sign, and he has been waiting and refusing to give up, insisting on submitting an application every week.
At that time, I often shed tears secretly, and my third uncle saw it in his eyes and felt very distressed.
It was the third uncle who tried his best to find someone to help, and finally got accommodating.
The fact that he and I were able to form a couple is mostly due to my third uncle."
"Third uncle, he loves you the most."
Xue Ling said warmly: "How can he be willing to let you two lovers be forced to separate... He also knows that my brother-in-law is a person worthy of your trust for a lifetime."
Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "Shortly after getting married, he went out and there was no news from him for two or three years.
At that time, I wrote to his organization every day, but unfortunately there was no reply.
When my third uncle saw that I was living like a resentful woman, he sighed and said he didn't know whether he was doing the right thing or the wrong thing.
He also said, don't always complain about the present, but look forward to the future together until you grow old.
Life can be bitter first and then sweet, which is considered a kind of luck.
Only today do I finally understand what Third Uncle said."
"yes."
Xue Ling's tears flashed: "San Bo is such a wise man, and everything he says makes sense.
Yes... there are many, many hardships in life. If you can survive the first half of the pain and usher in the sweetness of the second half, you will be considered extremely lucky."
Xue Cong took her hand and smiled: "You and I are lucky. As long as we are content, we will find that we are already in a sweet place."
"It's not yet time."
Xue Ling couldn't help but look towards the back garden and whispered: "I still have a tough battle to fight in the second half.
The children will start families and start businesses one after another, and the elderly will also grow old... This is the point I dare not face the most."
Xue Cong sighed: "Everyone has to die like this. Since ancient times, no one has ever died."
"I understand, and the truth is clear."
Xue Ling smiled bitterly: "But as long as I think of him as my biological elder, I still can't help but feel sad and cry.
When a knife cuts into your own heart, only you can understand the pain."
Xue Cong's eyes dimmed and he murmured: "You are already much luckier than me... My memory of my parents has long been blurred. They passed away before I was an adult..." "I'm sorry, I said too much.
"
Xue Ling patted the back of her hand and changed the topic: "Sister, time flies by when we talk with you."
Xue Cong chuckled: "I'm here to talk to you today.
I also plan to eat and drink here at noon and dinner, with a high-sounding excuse saying that I am here to accompany you."
"What I wish for."
Xue Ling drank the last sip of black tea and reminded: "Sister, the tea is getting cold, please take a few more sips."
Xue Cong drank it and stood up slowly.
"Let's go to the back garden to find Uncle Wu and Auntie."