Xue Huan couldn't help laughing: "Who stipulated it?
Does it have to be evenly matched?
How can it be!"
Cheng Huanran sighed softly and replied: "Xiao Qiao always said that she was under a lot of pressure and wanted to surpass me in professional titles and other aspects of scientific research projects. She didn't want to be too affected by my family background."
Xue Huan finally understood and said: "So that's what she thinks... It's just because she's afraid that your strength will be too strong and it will affect your future family status, right?"
"yes."
Cheng Huanran explained: "She is a very strong person and wants to be first in every field she comes into contact with, even for family status."
Xue Huan smiled bitterly: "Then she must have a very hard life?"
"yes!"
Cheng Huanran explained: "She has always been very hard-working and competitive, and she is very purposeful in everything she does. Sometimes she is even a little aggressive in order to achieve her goal.
Her popularity is a little bit bad, it’s because of her personality.”
Xue Huan said warmly: "A family's status is not entirely determined by economic status.
With a higher economic status, you may have more say.
But a high economic status means that you will spend more time on work.
A person's time and energy are limited. More time allocated here means less time allocated to the other side.
People with high voice spend relatively less time with their families and children.
For example, your father and your mother, when you were young, your father spent more time at home than your mother, and much more, right?"
"yes."
Cheng Huanran nodded.
Xue Huan analyzed: "If your father pursues a career like your mother, will you still have your father to pick you up sooner or later?
Can you have three meals with your dad?
Does your father take you to play on weekends?
I remember that the old man and your father took you on trips during several summer vacations, right?"
"Um."
Cheng Huanran answered: "My father took the team there for many summer and winter vacations. My mother was really busy, and sometimes she was still at the construction site during the Chinese New Year and was unable to go home.
At that time, she was investing in real estate everywhere and had a lot of social activities every day.
Later, the clothing factory and Tianshu Group also cost my mother a lot of time.
Sometimes my dad puts us to bed and my mom isn't home yet."
Xue Huan sighed softly and said, "Yes, if it weren't for your father's sacrifice and dedication, your family might not be as brilliant as it is today.
If your father and your mother both pursued careers and left you to a few old people, your family might be more glorious today, but you would definitely not be so outstanding.
Your parents work together to support this family, but they cannot be evenly matched, otherwise this family will not be as stable and happy as it is today.
Your aunt and I have almost the same family status, but your aunt still has to be a bit shorter than me in terms of career because she started later than me and her education level is not as high as mine.
When she doesn't have to work, she goes home to take care of her children and family.
When I don't have to schedule shifts, I still have to do administrative work.
Therefore, she spends more time with her family than I do, and the distance from me will only become farther and farther.
Let me tell you the truth, nothing can be done too much or too little."
"Is it too much or too little?"
Cheng Huanran didn't quite understand.
Xue Huan explained: "The gap between husband and wife cannot be too big, but it is difficult to pursue the same goal.
For example, there should not be too much difference in academic qualifications, otherwise the gap in knowledge will cause communication difficulties.
But it doesn’t have to be exactly the same, right?
For example, your aunt took a year off from school to give birth to Ah Yue. It was quite difficult for her to take care of her family and persist in studying for a bachelor's degree for several years.
Is it possible that I can ask her to go to graduate school like me?
Your father's education level is lower than your mother's, and your mother never thought it was impossible, and your father never felt that he had to study to catch up with your mother, right?"
"right."
Cheng Huanran smiled bitterly: "I think so too.
I think there shouldn't be too big a gap between two people, they don't have to be exactly the same.
My family background cannot be changed, because what I have has been accumulated since my grandfather’s generation, and my mother has worked hard for decades.
Xiao Qiao values these things, but she disdains them. She is always worried that I will be stronger than her in terms of family status in the future.
Since graduation last year, we started discussing the topic of marriage, and we had constant conflicts. Later, she stayed in the Imperial City to work, intending to focus on her career for the time being, but unexpectedly, more conflicts broke out later.
She felt a lot of pressure, and it was all my fault.
But I feel like I am getting further and further away from her, and I feel exhausted every time I am with her."
Xue Huan's eyes moved slightly and his voice was calm: "Then let's break up."
ah?
?
?
!! Cheng Huanran was speechless for a moment and looked at him in confusion for two or three seconds.
"Uncle Huan, you - why don't you give us some advice?
After all, we have been in a relationship for several years, and we have reached the stage of discussing marriage, so we can't just give up."
Xue Huan stopped and said, "We are just talking about marriage, not already married.
You can get divorced even if you get married, why can't you break up if you're in love?
So what about the relationship after so many years?
Falling in love is falling in love, and getting married is getting married. Who can guarantee that if you fall in love for a long time, your marriage will be long-term?
You feel good about falling in love with her, but you start to feel tired even before marriage is involved. What will you do if you actually get married?
When you consider divorce after getting married, you have a lot to worry about, especially if you have children.
After all, once divorce occurs, the greatest harm will be done to the children."
Cheng Huanran was startled and couldn't help feeling uneasy.
"...Yes, if you find the problem later after you get married, it may be more difficult to solve."
Xue Huan analyzed: "As you just said, this is obviously a problem with Qiao Hui's character.
Nature is easy to change but hard to change. Unless she is really willing to change her temper, your marriage will not be stable.
But a girl as strong and independent as she should not easily make changes for others."
"impossible."
Cheng Huanran felt disappointed: "Every time we have a problem, she always has to ask me to bow my head, even if she is the one who is wrong."
Xue Huan smiled bitterly: "Then what are you waiting for?
Instead of feeling sorry for holding on to a useless piece of chicken, it's better to cut it off when it's done.
You are no longer a child, you should know how to analyze situations and future situations.
When I brought my girlfriend back to China, even though I discovered a problem, I still gritted my teeth and persisted. It was similar to your current situation.
We have been good for so many years, and she is even willing to come to a foreign country for me. How can I talk about breaking up with her?
But there is no use in hesitating, it just adds to the worries and helplessness.
It's really hard when you're broken up in love, but when you recover from your heartache and you have another relationship, it's another beginning."
"I..." Cheng Huanran hesitated and muttered in confusion: "Is it true that we can only break up in the end?"