If he hadn't heard Zhang Li say that Hu Jing and Wang Gang had an affair, Lao Tan had a good impression of Hu Jing, otherwise he wouldn't have told Mr. Xu to take her out. But after knowing this, he felt a little awkward.
If others were okay, they would pretend they didn't see it and pretend to be deaf and dumb. But Zhou Xiaomei was not okay. She had been doing it with her and she was still a relative, so she couldn't get over the hurdle in her heart.
Of course, he was aware of Hu Jing's situation. Putting aside the complicated matter between her and Wang Gang, he still sympathized with this woman.
Many times when a man and a woman chat together, they start talking about the weather.
"Chengdu is hotter than our provincial capital, and people here still wear half-sleeves," Hu Jing said.
"Well, it's more than ten degrees hotter than the provincial capital," Lao Tan said.
"When I came here, Sister Zhang asked me to wear half sleeves. I didn't believe it, so I brought two half sleeves."
Lao Tan smiled and lit a cigarette.
"Master Tan's children only go to school?" Hu Jing asked.
"Yeah." Lao Tan nodded.
"You got married late, right?"
"It's too late to get married at thirty."
"Your sister-in-law works in logistics?"
"Well, cold chain logistics."
"That's quite busy."
"You're not too busy, you're about the same as me."
"Who cares about the child?"
"Your sister-in-law takes care of most of them, but I---in our line of work--can't take care of the children. There's nothing we can do about it."
The two of them were speechless for a while, and couldn't help but look across the road.
After a while, Hu Jing said: "I admire your Master Tan very much."
Lao Tan turned his head and glanced at her and said, "No matter what you admire, it's the same."
"I really admire you. You do your business every day." Hu Jing said sincerely.
Lao Tan laughed and said: "Look at whoever has nothing to do, everyone has something to do. Don't you also have something to do?"
Lao Tan's pause was because he couldn't help but think of the relationship between Hu Jing and Wang Gang, and Hu Jing also thought of it.
"I'm far behind you." Hu Jing smiled, then put away her smile and asked, "Has Master Tan heard about Wang Gang and me?"
"A bit." Lao Tan did not deny it.
"------That's not the case------" Hu Jing said calmly.
Lao Tan said: "That's best. People will do some ridiculous things in their lives, especially in relationships. It's inevitable. But extramarital affairs are a double-edged sword. They hurt not only themselves, but also the other person and their families.
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If the marriage cannot be maintained, you can divorce, but it is better to have less extramarital affairs. It is normal to have several beautiful women in your life. How can you have no friends? But don't touch your feelings, and don't go too far. Once you touch it, you will lose it.
Not only personality, but also dignity.”
"Don't worry, Master Tan, he will never have anything to do with Wang Gang again," Hu Jing said.
"It's nice to be friends and colleagues. It's not awkward and it's natural."
"That's what happened."
"People who are dedicated to their work generally cannot manage their families well. This is a flaw. Family is responsibility and responsibility, which requires understanding and tolerance. Home is a warm place, not a place where anyone pays how much, nor is it a place to be unreasonable.
Men work hard outside, and they want to be cared for tenderly and considerately when they come home. A man is just a child. He makes all the changes outside, but he will be honest when he comes home. As soon as his wife is gentle and gentle, he forgets everything. Only his wife is the best in the world.
Not even women can do it.
If you don't take your husband seriously, he will run away faster than anyone else. Let me tell you, 90% of men cheat because they are extremely oppressed at home. If they don't get gentleness and attention, they can only look for it outside.
If you don’t believe me, just look at it. Many men are looking for someone who is not as beautiful as their wives, and they are not as capable as their wives. Why are they still looking for someone? Because he can regain the dignity of a man there and get the warmth of home.”
Hu Jing listened and felt that what Lao Tan said made sense. But when she thought of her home and her husband, her heart was still full of hatred.
"I hate him." Hu Jing said.
"It's okay to hate. If you have talent and hate in your heart, who will go there if you don't? Life in this world is a spiritual practice, and marriage and family account for the most. You can't avoid it, you can't get rid of it, you have to face it. If you hate too much, you will suffer and suffer.
It’s also oneself. People often don’t think of changing because they have hatred, and they go further and further into the deep end, and end up in pain.
A person's unhappiness is not because the other person has done something wrong, but because he has blocked his happiness. It does not mean that the person who looks away is generous, but that magnanimity makes people look away. In this way, one's own advantages are liked and accepted by the other person, and often
Because of too many demands and self-righteousness, you lose yourself from the other person's world.
What you want is also what the other person wants. You can’t get it if you don’t give it to him, and you can’t get it if he doesn’t give it to you. People all make this mistake, always thinking about themselves and ignoring the other person. When they wake up, the other person is already somewhere else.
Once you get what you need, your marriage will be lost. Everything is lost by yourself. There are not so many emotional robbers in the world------"
Lao Tan stopped talking as he thought about his marriage and couldn't help but sigh.
As the night progressed, a car passed by on the road for a long time and soon disappeared from sight -----
The world is still that world, and it is not exaggerated. What is exaggerated is the human heart. The marriage ethics we abide by still exist in this world, but it has become easy to lose.
The fast-paced life brings pressure to people, and worries and trivial matters make people upset. As a result, people are impetuous, have reduced resistance to temptation, or hope to be tempted. This is why so many extramarital affairs and divorces have occurred.
Many single-parent families.
People are all looking for good things, and the shelf life of any good thing can be extended to eternity under the joint maintenance of each other. If one person cheats and cheats, it will expire prematurely.
Love is the most beautiful emotion of human beings, and marriage is the fortress of love.
We pursue the thrill of love, but try our best to escape from the fortress.
People, if they cannot see themselves and reality clearly, they will always be a loser.
The next day we inspected all hot pot restaurants. Lao Tan was not interested in hot pot, so he and Huang Yuhang went for a walk in the Kuanzhai Alley in the afternoon. During the visit, he bought a puppet for his son, a Sichuan brocade for Lin Yan, and also gave him a
Zhang Li and Wang Gang bought souvenirs.
On the third day, I went to Pixian County on the outskirts of Chengdu. I visited the Pixian Douban Factory. After returning, I ate at Chengdu Impression. In the afternoon, I went to the Wukuai Stone Raw Materials Market.
Huang Yuhang has been following Lao Tan for the past two days, and Lao Tan also likes this young man. If the young man doesn't understand, he will ask, and Lao Tan is willing to answer. People are like this, and they have the characteristic of being a good teacher. When others ask them, they will have no clue.
He reservedly tells others what he knows, and is afraid that if he does not speak clearly enough, others will not understand, and he will repeat it again and again.
A person who has never been taught can never teach others. Only when you understand yourself can you be qualified to teach others.
"Master Tan, is your Sichuan food selling well?" Huang Yuhang asked.
"It's okay. I don't have much Sichuan cuisine, just a few dishes, mainly farm dishes." Lao Tan said.
"I have never been to your house. I will go to your house for a meal when I go back." Huang Yuhang said.
“A warm welcome.”
"Call me when you go, and we will go together." Cao Tao, who had been following, interrupted.
Many bosses and managers did not attend the raw material inspection in the afternoon, but only the head chef came. Cao Tao’s purpose was obvious, he wanted to be with Huang Yuhang.
Lao Tan looked at the two of them and smiled, feeling in his heart that being young is good. They got together just three or four days after they came out. I don't know if they can go on in the long run.
Teacher Wu, who led the team, came to Lao Tan and the three of them with a smile. He first chatted for a few words, then got down to business and asked Lao Tan to share as a representative at the farewell party in the evening.
"Find someone else, what will I share?" Lao Tan declined.
"Share with everyone your family's work-point system management." Teacher Wu said.
"No, that's just a trick, it's not embarrassing enough." Lao Tan said.
"Okay, it's up to you."
Teacher Wu and Lao Tan are old acquaintances, so it’s up to you whether it works or not.
Lao Tan suddenly had an idea and asked, "You don't have any plans to inspect the provincial capital?"
"Yes, mainly because your provincial city catering association is not very supportive. I contacted them and said that there are no special restaurants and the hotels are not willing to accept them." Teacher Wu said helplessly.
"You can go to the provincial capital to inspect the farmhouses. In the Northeast, the farmyards in the provincial capitals are well-known, unique, and a highlight. I think people in the south are willing to learn from them. Besides, our inspection cannot be all in the south, and we also take care of the north."
Lao Tan said.
"I really have this plan. I will go to the north to inspect it in the spring when the wild vegetables come out during the Chinese New Year." Teacher Wu said.
"I told you that it is best to go to the provincial capital, and I also suggested to your leaders that our Guandong people are the biggest highlight, and we will ensure that those who call for inspection return home with a full load." Lao Tan said.
"Okay." Teacher Wu nodded and prepared to leave. Before leaving, he asked Lao Tan not to forget the sharing session in the evening.
After Teacher Wu left, Lao Tan stood there and thought for a while. He felt that he could use this opportunity to promote the catering in the provincial capital, let catering people across the country have a preliminary understanding of Northeastern restaurants, and do some work for the Oriental Food Organization to inspect the provincial capital.