Chapter 232 It doesn't matter if you study well or not
Chapter 232 It doesn’t matter whether you study well or not
Therefore, whether a child can study well or not is caused by many reasons. But genetic reasons are definitely the main reason. However, humans are still unable to find a person’s temperament, personality and learning ability genetically.
corresponding genes.
Although having a child who studies well is of course the wish of all our parents. If you have a child who studies well at home, you can also use the child's test scores to show off after every exam. Let those children at home who do not study well
Parents are envious.
But in fact, a child with good grades basically just brings some face and glory to the parents.
It should be said that God is relatively fair in doing things. However, it is not easy for ordinary people like us to see this fairness in him.
As we have said before, the more children learn well, they do not make people feel that they are particularly smart. I have also visited the Qingbei class where my children go to school. Although these children are the best in the city,
Children are all children who can determine a city’s annual college entrance examination results. They can also be said to be the treasures of a city.
But these children are definitely not what ordinary people think. They all look very smart and smart. Not only do they not look smart, but on the contrary, they all feel a little silly. Maybe they should be called Dazhiruoyu!
We have discussed before that learning is actually not suitable for children who appear to be smart and smart. This is because such children are generally those who cannot sit still. They tend to like to talk and socialize. They only know how to communicate with each other.
I like to talk and brag. These kids just give people the impression that they are very witty and smart. They also talk in the same way. It is definitely not what we imagined, they should feel silly.
But why are these children who look very smart, but they don't study well? And some children who look stupid, they can study well!
There is something here that we have always misunderstood. It is the connection between studying well and being smart. Studying well means being smart. Studying poorly means not being smart. Having good grades means being smart, and having bad grades means not being smart.
This is a one-sided way of looking at the problem. Whether a person is smart or not cannot be measured by his academic performance.
Why do we all dream of becoming scientists when we were young? It’s because our ultimate goal in learning this path is to be a scientist. This is one of the most basic purposes of our modern education.
The talents our country needs are scientists. The idea that has been instilled in us since childhood is to become a scientist through learning.
And what kind of character should a scientist have? Obviously those who only like to talk and talk are not suitable to be scientists. Science is a pragmatic subject. It requires people who do things down-to-earth. Such people must have
A certain amount of patience and perseverance.
And what kind of character has such patience and perseverance! Of course, some introverted children will have such a character. If Einstein is a speaker who only likes to talk, and does not like to sit there and conduct scientific research at all.
, then how could he become Einstein!
The purpose of the national examination is to cultivate some scientific talents. This is the normal mode of operation of our modern society that has been overturned and values science over literature. The people the country needs are called scientists. But the country does not have an expert who can directly see a child.
What kind of person will he become in the future? Can he become a scientist?
Therefore, the country selects the talents it needs through education. Therefore, the dream of all our children when they were young is to become a scientist. And they have been working hard in this direction.
However, due to various reasons, many children cannot go to the temple of scientists at all. They may be thousands of miles away from this temple, so they leave school and go to do other things.
On the road leading to the temple of science, countless people are running forward every day. But in the end, how many people can really become a scientist? It can be said that it is impossible to pick just one from a million.
Because one in a million is just the probability of getting admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University. Even if you get admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, you can't be considered a scientist. If you want to be a scientist, you have to move on and become a graduate student. Only then can you be considered a scientist.
You must be a researcher with scientific qualities. Then, you can go into research in a certain area. Only when you produce results will you be considered a real scientist.
Although not one of the 10,000 students who go to school can become a real scientist, the first dream of each of us is to be a scientist. We must first let our lovely motherland choose the first time.
After the lovely motherland has made the selection, if it says you are not good enough, then you can go do other things.
When these people are not selected by our lovely motherland, they will enter the market and then make a living. Our lovely motherland may just like people with academic talents. But the market is different. Who is the market?
Everyone likes it. As long as you are good enough, even being good-looking is considered your ability.
As a result, those children whose dreams of becoming scientists were shattered started their second entrepreneurial ventures. They began to have all kinds of dreams. As a result, some became big bosses, some became big stars, and some became celebrities.
fraud.
But these people should have one thing in common, they all seem to be forced. If they had good grades when they were in school, it would be impossible for them to open a company and become the boss, and then apply to be an actor and become a star.
However, when I mentioned this, some people were dissatisfied. They mentioned the boss of Tiandi No. 1! He graduated from Peking University. Why did he become a big boss? If he said this, it would be deliberately trying to make a difference.
There are more graduates from Peking University, and there are a few people who have started companies and become big bosses. When we talk about things, we are talking about relatively common things, not individual things.
If Ma Yun was a child who studied well, he wouldn't have founded Alibaba. He might be a famous scientist, not the richest man in the country. God didn't give you the ability to learn. He will definitely give it to you.
Other skills. When God closes a window for us, he will also open another window for us.
Of course, it makes people feel happy to study well. However, children who study well do not necessarily have better prospects in the future than children who do not study well. Going to college only allows you to learn a skill to make a living in society.
It's hard to say what kind of position you will have after you enter the society. What kind of achievements you will be able to achieve.
In fact, sometimes I think about it, these children who are very good at studying are not as good as those children who are better at studying. In fact, the college entrance examination is like this. Even if the results are very good, they can be admitted to a good university.
But these students who can pass the 600th percentile test are just like a beautiful woman! Although everyone wants it, can you just marry it? So, these students who can pass the 600th percentile test are just like a beautiful woman!
It is difficult for a person to find a job if he is unable to achieve a high level or a low level.
Even people who graduated from Tsinghua University and Peking University can't find a job. Why can't they find a job? They didn't graduate from a prestigious university. How could they not find a job? This is a question that many people don't think of.
In fact, the employment of college students is the same as that of women getting married. The more excellent women are, the less likely they are to get married. This is not because no one wants them. It is because their vision is higher, and men who can meet their standards are more likely to be employed.
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There are many female celebrities who cannot get married even when they are very old. Isn’t that the reason? In fact, female celebrities are the same as those female bosses and female politicians. They are all excellent human beings among women, and they can also be said to be strong women.
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But I don’t know why, most of us just don’t regard female celebrities as strong women. I have never understood why.
After thinking about it, I feel that there may be two reasons. First, female stars are from the entertainment industry. This entertainment industry is definitely an industry dominated by women. The proportion of female stars in the entire star team is definitely higher than that of male stars.
Celebrities. So, in this industry, women not only do not lose to men, but on the contrary, they outperform men.
Second, female celebrities are synonymous with beauty. It is difficult for a very beautiful woman to be equated with the word strong woman. Because we ordinary people think that strong women should be in suits and leather shoes, similar to men's.
Her appearance is similar. She is not a showy woman like a female star.
Because of this, we generally don’t describe female celebrities as strong women. But in essence, female celebrities are also strong women. Because they are also elites in a certain industry. They are also considered to be in a certain industry.
Experts and scholars. How can you say that she is not a strong woman!
Because of this, it is very difficult for female celebrities to get married, just like women in other fields. Although there are countless men who want to marry them, men who can make people look at them can
It seems difficult to find even with a lantern.
Isn't it the same for a child who is very good at studying? Isn't it the same for a student who can get a score of 600 in the college entrance examination? When they go to a prestigious university and then go to work in the society, don't they become just like everyone else?
They are beautiful women. Although there are many business units who want them, can they just 'marry' them casually?
Therefore, when it comes to children's learning, you must let nature take its course. Don't think that your children will have no future if they don't study well. You should never feel that they will have no future.
If a parent thinks like this, it can only be said that you are ignorant. If you think like this, you will be very disrespectful to your child. When your child does not do well in exams, you will beat and scold him.
.And what will be the result of beating and scolding your child? Can it be said that if you beat your child, he will learn well? Obviously it is of no use. On the contrary, not only is there no benefit, but there may be
Disadvantages. If you hit him, not only will he not learn well, but he will develop a rebellious mentality and hate learning even more. If he hates learning very much, then he may still learn well!
When it comes to educating children, we must let nature take its course. Don't be too pushy. A child's learning ability is closely related to his interest in learning. If he doesn't like to study, we as parents can only patiently persuade him.
Tell him the importance of learning. Then study with him. It is best to educate him through fun and cultivate his interest in learning.
But, then again, no one else can really control how well a child studies. No famous teacher can turn a child who doesn't like learning at all into a child who loves learning as much as a top student.
Whether a child can study well mainly depends on whether he is good at learning. If he is that good at learning, he will naturally learn well. If he is not that good at learning, of course he will not be able to study well.
There is no need to attend any cram school in order for your child to study well. A child who studies very well does not need to attend any cram school. He can also study well. And a child who does not study well, even if you let him
It's impossible for him to study well even if he goes to cram school every day.
Also, for some children who do not study well, we will find some objective reasons. For example, their parents are not at home and work outside. They are left-behind children, so there is no one to take care of them, and they cannot study.
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This reason is simply untenable. Whether a child can study well has nothing to do with whether he is a left-behind child. A child who can study well can study well even if he is a left-behind child. A child who cannot study well can study well even if he is a left-behind child.
A child whose parents accompany him every day may not study well.
On the contrary, those who study better may be able to study better if their parents are not around. What is the reason for this? Because those children who study better have their parents with them every day. Then their test scores will be
Parents will be informed. Then, parents will care about their children's grades because they hope their children will succeed and their daughters will succeed. If their children's grades are good this time, they will praise them. If their grades drop, they will criticize them.
child.
This will put some pressure on the children. They are especially afraid that they will not do well in the exam. If they do not do well in the exam, they will be criticized or beaten by their parents when they go home. If you talk about a child who lives in the shadow of his parents every day, he will