Chapter 233 Treat the child's achievements with a normal heart
Chapter 233: Treat children’s achievements with a normal heart
This will put some pressure on the children. They are especially afraid that they will not do well in the exam. If they do not do well in the exam, they will be criticized or beaten by their parents when they go home. If you talk about a child who lives in the shadow of his parents every day, he will
How is it possible to study well?
Therefore, the more children whose parents do not care much and do not criticize them, or whose parents are not around at all and have no one to care about them, the more likely they are to learn well.
Because learning requires a relatively quiet environment, and then devote yourself to it, only in this way can you learn well. In fact, the school environment is not suitable for students to study. In such a crowded classroom, with so many children together,
It is difficult for them to calm down and study.
And when I was reading, the sound was so loud. I really don’t understand what the use of such a teaching method is. Does learning mean shouting? Do you have to read out the memorization? Do actors have to memorize their lines before acting?
Do you also have to shout when you are doing it?
Learning should be a subtle thing, a quiet thing. It should not be a loud thing.
A child who studies well must first have a quiet learning environment. If parents care about their children's academic performance and praise or criticize their children every time they take a test, then how can your child study well?
When dealing with children's academic performance, what we can do is to sit down with them and see where their performance is good and what is not good. Are they doing well in their main subjects or minor subjects?
Is it because the performance in the main subject is not good, or is it the performance in the minor subject? If the performance in the main subject is declining, of course there will be some problems. If the performance in the main subject is not declining, then it is not a problem at all.
We can't start yelling as soon as we see our children's grades declining. Is this necessary? First of all, we must understand that throughout the twelve years of a student's life from elementary school to middle school, although they have to go through many exams, the real
There are only two exams. These two exams are very important. One is the high school entrance examination and the other is the college entrance examination.
In fact, only the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination are examinations. Other examinations are not examinations at all. Because only the results of the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination are written into the student files. The results of other examinations are not recorded. In other words,
No matter whether you do well or not in other exams, it doesn't matter. Anyway, in the end, it's nothing, just 'zero'.
You said, does it make sense for many parents to criticize their children just because of this "zero"? These usual exams, whether they are midterm exams or final exams, are not important. Whether you do well or not, it doesn't matter.
What's important about this? It's just to check how well you're studying. Strictly speaking, these exams shouldn't be called exams, but tests. They're just to check how well you've learned the knowledge you've recently learned. To achieve this
At what level.
But just such a small test can make our parents lose their temper with their children. What do you think is the point of such a test?
As parents, if we don’t know what learning is, we don’t know that children’s academic performance is a process of constant fluctuation. No child’s academic performance can always be stable at the same level. It must be within a certain range.
Constantly changing internally.
Sometimes children's grades will be better, sometimes children's grades will be worse. This is normal. This is a rule of children's academic performance, but a few of our parents will know this. Take a look
When the children's academic performance drops, I feel that the children have been playful and don't want to study during this period. Then the performance drops. If you think so, it can only mean that you don't know how academic performance comes about.
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When a child starts middle school, he will have nine subjects to learn. Every time they take a test, they have to take several subjects. Each subject is worth 100 points or more. In this case, how many subjects will be taken?
The combined scores of each subject are 780 points, or 8900 points.
You said the total score is eight or nine hundred points. But if he takes the test a few points more this time and a few points less the next time, isn't this normal? In fact, let alone the floating points, even if
It is normal for the score to fluctuate by more than 100 points. After all, a student has to learn a lot of knowledge. During the exam, only a small part of the content is selected for the exam.
In this case, there is an element of luck in the exam. In other words, the knowledge you master happens to be the knowledge for the exam. In this way, you will get good results. But the knowledge you master happens to have a lot of you
If you haven't studied well, then you will definitely not get good grades in the exam.
Originally, even if one subject is tested, students' scores will change. It is impossible to always test the same score. Let alone multiple subjects. In this case, the students' scores will definitely be
It has to change within a certain range. If we, as parents, do not realize this and just take it for granted that the decline in children's grades is caused by the children not studying hard and having fun, then we are really ignorant.
Therefore, when it comes to students' academic performance, we must treat it with a normal mind. When your child does well in the exam, don't feel that your child is particularly awesome. Feel that your child is particularly smart.
When a child does not do well in the exam, he wonders why his child is so stupid and cannot do well in the exam! Then he starts to wonder if the child has not been paying attention to the lectures during this period of time, and is there something wrong with something else?
The classmates were having fun together.
So, when we see our children's grades declining, we can't help but lose our temper. If you knew what I said above, would you still get angry at children who don't do well in exams?
And whether the children's academic performance is good or not is all relative. What is good and what is not good? There is no best, only better. This is simply a question without standards.
Therefore, when dealing with children's academic performance, we must not pay too much attention to it. We must learn to compare with the above and the shortcomings and the below with more than enough.
Everyone wants their children to study very well and become a top student. In fact, there is no need to think this way. Studying well is indeed a good thing. But every good thing contains bad content.
Children with particularly good grades can be admitted to prestigious universities. But after you graduate from a prestigious university, you want to find a particularly good job. But what kind of job is a particularly good job?
Scientists, artists, writers, big bosses, big stars, university professors, and experts in various fields. The jobs of these people must be good jobs. But are these things considered jobs? Obviously this is just a term, and it is not considered a job at all.
A kind of job.
No matter how big a company is, there are still many ordinary jobs. Even in the world's top 500 companies, many jobs are done by migrant workers. Even in high-tech companies, most of the jobs are ordinary jobs.
Jobs that everyone can do. No matter how high-tech smart products, such as mobile phones, computers, cars, and weapons and equipment, they are all produced by ordinary workers.
Therefore, there is no such thing as a good job in the absolute sense. If there is, it is a job where you can make a lot of money just sitting at home without going to work. Just like some great writers.
You can make a lot of money at home.
But this great writer didn’t just graduate from a prestigious university and then become a great writer. He didn’t just write word by word.
Even college students who graduated from prestigious universities have to start from scratch when they find employment. However, their ASXs are higher and their wages are better. If they want to continue to be the best in a certain industry, then
It is necessary to start working hard again.
But the key point is that working hard after work is different from studying hard in school. Relatively speaking, studying hard in school is a relatively simple matter. As long as you study with peace of mind and are interested in learning, that's pretty much it.
But the hard work after work is different. The work environment is very different from the school environment. A person has to deal with both work and many things in life, which in itself is already very stressful.
. So, it is very difficult to achieve success in your career after graduation.
It can be said that a student's academic performance can only play a role in the college entrance examination, or in the postgraduate entrance examination. When it comes to work, these academic performance are of little use. Even what you learned in college will be of no use in society.
It's of no use at all.
In fact, when a person goes to college, what is important is not what skills he has learned. What is more important is what he has experienced in college. Who he has met and what kind of circle of friends he has. These intangible interpersonal resources are the most important.
Educational qualifications are actually just a label. They can only tell others what kind of university you have attended, and then give people the impression that you are already a talent. But when a college student applies for a job, the employer does not
Students may be selected entirely based on academic qualifications.
If students were selected directly based on academic qualifications, it would be really simple. You only need to submit a resume, and then wait for the employer to admit or not. But when it comes to problems, other companies don't have to do this simply.
Selecting talents.
Why do companies need to conduct interviews when recruiting talents? This shows that people don’t pay much attention to academic qualifications. We all know that employers may set an academic qualification limit in recruitment advertisements.
Generally speaking, it will be specified that a college degree or a bachelor's degree or above is required. From this sentence, it can be seen that people do not care much about diplomas and academic qualifications. Because this undergraduate degree itself is a very complicated academic qualification. From two to one
From 211985 to Tsinghua and Peking University, all required a bachelor's degree. Not to mention a college degree or above. This requirement is almost the same as no requirement at all.
Therefore, when other companies recruit, they definitely do not rely solely on academic qualifications. In that case, they can completely specify what two, one, or 211,985 students are required, or students from a relatively narrow range such as Tsinghua University and Peking University.
The reason why people stipulate it so broadly is that they don’t pay much attention to academic qualifications. They pay more attention to your personal ability. Moreover, when they stipulate this, they only say what kind of academic qualifications are required, and there is no requirement that you must be
What major did you study in college? Even if you study computers, if you apply for a TV station host, you will be asked to apply. As long as you have the qualifications to be a host.
Even if you are a girl who graduated from Tsinghua University, you can apply for a job as a flight attendant. As long as you are good-looking. If you are not good-looking, even if you are a Tsinghua graduate, people may not want you.
Education is just an experience. Education from a prestigious university is just a halo. This halo may or may not be useful in society. Everything depends on your own abilities and luck.
The encounters in life are beyond one's control. Especially after you go to work, in a unit, what kind of people you will meet, and what kind of leaders you will meet. All of this is unknown, and it is also your own
Unchangeable.
For example, although you are not very good, you are not outstanding in all aspects. You may feel that you will not have any future in this company, and you will not have any good future in the future. But who knows, by chance, you will meet
This is the daughter of the boss of the company. Then she fell in love with you at first sight. In this case, what kind of future do you think you will have? Is this something you could have thought of before? This can only be said to be a kind of fate.
When you study in school, you have to rely entirely on your own efforts to study well and get into a good university. But when you go to society, life's encounters are much more complicated. Sometimes, some people can't get anything after working hard for many years.
You may get things in a blink of an eye. Things that you may not get after years of hard work may be obtained by others in a blink of an eye.
Therefore, for students whose academic performance is not very good, there is no need to worry. As long as they can study well, this is already very good. As long as they can get 400 or 500 points in the college entrance examination, this is already the best result.
Get a score of 400 or 500 points and choose a normal university. Then after graduation, take the teacher qualification certificate and become a teacher. This is a good choice. The teacher profession is a relatively stable and formal profession.
But if you want to get into this profession, you don’t need to get amazing results in the college entrance examination. But if you get amazing results and get into Tsinghua University and Peking University, what can you do after graduation?