She only needs to analyze it for her so that she can see the problems she has discovered more clearly.
Finally, tell her what to do.
Mental manipulation can literally destroy a person's will.
The most painful moment for a manipulated person is when you realize that you are far away from your best self - your true self.
Liang Yiyi lost her self-confidence, self-esteem, opinion, courage, and happiness in this intimate relationship.
She spent a long time just wanting her husband's approval.
Until recently, she began to understand that it was a goal that could never be achieved.
This means that she has been manipulated to the third stage.
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In the first stage of being manipulated, Liang Yiyi hopes to gain her husband's approval and make him confirm that she is a lovely, excellent, and lovable person.
But if it can't be achieved, she can accept it.
When they disagree, she will start with her own side. If he says something that doesn't seem right, she will argue with him.
When there are conflicts with each other, they can still maintain their own judgment and question them.
At the second stage——
When Liang Yiyi has a conflict with her husband, although she will question it, she will habitually consider his views and opinions.
She thought his views were normal, so she desperately wanted to get opportunities to communicate, to state her own views, to prove that she was lovable, excellent, right, etc.
But at this time, she had lost her ability to judge and could not see the overall situation clearly. She would only dwell on the details he accused her of.
One of the most dangerous features of Stage 3 is her increasing cognitive deficits.
Feelings of frustration, hopelessness, and no joy seem so normal.
This is Liang Yiyi's current state, closing herself off, no longer having contact with outsiders, forgetting what she used to be like, feeling numb to life, unable to feel happy no matter what she does, walking like a zombie every day, exhausted from torture, even arguing with the other party
He no longer thinks about it, and no longer has expectations for the other party. Of course, he will not doubt his knowledge——
Without her daughter discovering her problem and trying to help her and wake her up.
She will completely fall into despair, and her own vitality will quickly drain away without her husband continuing to control her.
fortunately……
She has a daughter and people who work hard to wake her up and help her come out.
"Yes, I have realized that there is a problem in my relationship with my husband." Liang Yiyi said, "In the past few months, I have been considering whether to take action."
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Congratulations on your decision not to continue playing manipulation games with him!"
Dots of light appeared in Liang Yiyi's eyes.
Ning Youguang continued to ask, "Have you decided to change the rules of the game with your husband?"
"Yes, I used to be worried about divorcing my husband and being separated from him. I was afraid that I would have no home or family from now on, but Lele told me that I still have her and she can accompany me."
A smile appeared on Liang Yiyi's face, "Lele has grown up. She is smarter and braver than me. I am her mother, and she is so brave to help me. If I continue to fall into the trap of having nothing to do with her father,
In the entanglement of meaning, I really lost my mind."
——"Not only do I have no brains, I also have no responsibility and responsibility. I am not worthy of being a mother." 1314
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pua is everywhere
Little cuties who are afraid of pua and want to know how to fight against pua:
I recommend everyone to read "The Gaslight Effect: How to Recognize and Get Rid of Others' Control of Your Life"
This book will introduce in detail the methods and types of manipulation, as well as anti-manipulation methods, which are very practical ~ This chapter includes reference to the content in the book.
I love you and wish all angels can live a strong and upward life.