"I asked you to repeat this sentence just now. In addition to telling it to yourself, you also want to tell the people around you and your husband. You must tell them with strength and determination that you really think so." Ning
Youguang said, "In this way, you will gradually establish a correct self-understanding, and you will know that you are a good person who deserves to be loved. You do not need the approval of an ideal partner. You will instinctively know what you want, and
Pursue it hard. In this way, you will not be controlled by others or easily brainwashed."
"At the same time, while we are getting rid of the control of others, we must reconnect with ourselves. The way to connect with ourselves is to choose some kind of physical and mental activities, such as yoga, or other forms of dynamic meditation. These activities are based on a
Let your mind calm down and bravely accept the self-system deep in your heart - not through discussion, analysis and imagination, but through active activities that integrate body and mind. After you go back, you can choose to sign up for a class at a gym or yoga center, or
If you just want to try meditation, I can send you some audios. You can follow my audios to find a quiet environment, sit quietly for 15~30 minutes every day, pay attention to your breathing, and let distracting thoughts slowly dissipate. After a while, you will find that
I have become calmer than before, more connected to my body and mind, and more able to resist stress.”
"I feel very difficult." Liang Yiyi couldn't help but feel scared when she thought about how she resisted her husband and the violent quarrels and beatings that happened at home when the two had conflicts.
"It is not easy." Ning Youguang said, "Many times, when we make a good choice, it will actually bring many negative effects, such as uneasiness, fear and sadness. It is difficult, but facing these bravely will
The feelings will disappear, and what we gain will be a complete self."
Liang Yiyi was silent for a long time and said to Ning Youguang, "Please tell me what I should do."
"The steps are very simple. As long as you do these few things, you can take back the initiative in life and get rid of your husband's control."
"Teacher Ning, wait a minute." Liang Yiyi turned to look at her daughter, "Lele, lend me your notebook and pen."
Liang Yule quickly took out his notebook and book from his bag and handed them to her.
"Doctor Ning, please speak slowly and I will write it down carefully."
"Okay." Ning Youguang smiled -
"1. When you go back, record the conversation between you and your husband. Listen to it a few times, and you will find that the logic of many of his words does not make sense."
"2. If you have any questions about the relationship, you can talk to me or friends or relatives you trust. Don't close your external information channels."
"3. Pay close attention to your own feelings. You may not be able to see through his expressions and emotional abuse, but you must know how you feel, whether you are comfortable or uncomfortable."
"4. Once a conflict occurs, separate from him immediately. Don't continue to entangle with him. Don't be disturbed by his negative emotions and let yourself be wrapped in a trash can of negative emotions."
"5. Stick to your own knowledge. You must believe that you are doing the right thing. Especially when you get along with him, you must remember to always say these three sentences to him--"
"I know that's your point of view, but I have my point of view and I don't agree with your point of view. Please respect me."
"I have a different opinion than you!"
"That's your perception. Our perceptions are different. You are right, and so am I." 1314