With the situation at home like this, it's no wonder that my daughter is unhappy in every possible way.
"Out of sight, out of mind." Although it can't solve the fundamental problem, it can be used.
"Please help me cure my mother's hoarding disorder, I beg you." After her daughter finished talking, she begged Ning Youguang.
"Is hoarding a psychological problem?" the mother on the side asked nagging.
Ning Youguang nodded, "The core of [hoarding disorder] is that it is difficult for a person to discard the items he owns. Whenever he considers discarding, he will feel pain and anxiety. This is indeed a psychological problem."
Mom shut up and stopped talking.
But the daughter was eager to figure this out, "Then what is the reason for my mother's hoarding disorder?"
Ning Youguang asked her mother, "Auntie, have you ever lost anyone important? For example, falling out of love, losing a relative, etc.?"
Mother shook her head, "No."
Ning Youguang stopped asking and at the same time put down the pen and paper he was taking notes on.
Then, I told my daughter, “It is now certain that there are two main reasons for my mother’s hoarding disorder:
First, her basic hoarding behavior may be highly heritable, because her grandmother also has the same problem. In addition, some studies have shown that hoarding behavior is also related to abnormal activation of certain parts of the brain.
Second, the difficulty of discarding items will trigger the aunt's anxiety and uneasiness. In order to avoid the discomfort caused by negative emotions, she does not want to discard any items."
"Can it be cured?" my daughter asked again.
"Of course." Ning Youguang smiled.
The daughter seemed to breathe a sigh of relief and said, "Can you please teach my mother?"
Ning Youguang did not agree immediately. Instead, he looked at his mother who was silent and asked, "Auntie, are you willing to part ways?"
"Are you going to throw away everything in the house?" Mom looked uneasy.
"Giving up does not mean that you throw away everything at home. It is actually a different attitude towards life. It allows you to get rid of unnecessary items and see the most authentic appearance of life. If you give up every time
If you have failed to let go, then you might as well take a closer look at yourself and see why you are reluctant to throw away those things." Ning Youguang said, "It is not just as simple as asking you to throw away the things at home, but I hope you can pass.'
We should look at ourselves through the way of "breaking away", leaving behind warm and more valuable things, getting rid of those items that occupy our limited energy for no reason, and making life more orderly and organized."
"Did you hear that? I'm not asking you to throw away everything. I'm asking you to throw away the things you don't need." The daughter added next to her.
"Yes, abandonment does not mean that you just throw things away blindly. It means that you should not buy indiscriminately. Buy only when you need, like, and suitable. After purchasing, you should make the best use of the items and give full play to the value of the items." Ning Youguang agreed with his daughter's statement.
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Mom was still silent.
The daughter seemed to be really speechless by her tossing, "If you continue like this, when daddy says, we won't be throwing things away, we will be selling the house!"
Ning Youguang found that her mother had become even more uneasy, "It's hard to break up. It's easy to be complicated, but it's hard to be simple. You have to get rid of your ties, your worries, your fears, and your habits. It's too difficult."
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What's even more difficult is to face your own desires.
"Auntie, you can try to cut off what you can at home first. You can try to see how it feels to be separated. You will feel very refreshed and comfortable." 1314